| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 10:00:41 AM | | I find the situation I'm in a bit hilarious, but there is someone that I am attracted to yet I'm hesitant to say anything. I'll have to deal with this person on a regular basis regardless of whether I say anything or not and saying something could lead to an awkward situation. On one hand, I don't want to rock the boat, yet on the other hand I'm dying to know if something is possible. Does anyone have any suggestions for a way to approach this without making things weird? | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 10:30:46 AM | I used to say show me, but that is only 1/2, you also must tell me. That may be the only way to get me to respond.
women have become liberated then they complain when we respond. go figgure | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 11:47:06 AM | I believe showing subtle interest using body language and talking to him regularly pointing out things you like about him is the way to go if you do not want to fully commit yourself and be direct. Or you could tell him you would like to go out for a drink with him and talk about "stuff"...be very vague about your reasons   | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 12:05:08 PM | I could be guessing wrongly, but it sounds like you're interested in someone you work with. I've been in that situation, and I admit, I tried it out, things neer really went anywhere, and yes, it was a bit awkward from there on out. That being said, I still believe it's worthwhile - you never know..they could be just the person you're looking for - and vice versa. I say give it a shot.
As far as how to approach it without making things weird? Harder one ;) I'd say invite them out for dinner or something, chat a bit, see how it goes. If it feels right, great - if not, well, hopefully you had a good meal ;) I would think that you'd be able to get a feel for how the guy's thinking during the date as to whether or not he's interested. ...Or if nothing else give him your number at the end, if he calls you back, all the better! :)
I'd get some other opinions on this one, too, though - if it is someone you work with it could be somewhat sticky.
Regardless, best of luck to you! :) | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 12:55:46 PM | Well i have dated a few people at work (there are over a thousand people). My advice is to send an email letting them know something paticular you like about them. It could be as simple as letting them know that you find yourself looking forward to seeing them each day and state why. Just make sure you keep it light and fun. Everyone loves compliments and it's an easy way to start a conversation.
Best of luck!! | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 2:51:26 PM | | Thanks for the advice everyone. Luckily for me it isn't a co-worker, but someone in the same building who I have dealings with on a regular basis. That will change soon because my office will be moving. I'm thinking of waiting to say something closer to the time of the move, maybe do the drink thing after work. It isn't like me to be so awkward about something like this, but I've always tended to not be the one to make the "first move". Guess it is time to break out of that shell eh? | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 2:58:58 PM | | Stand up from your seat in the boat. Step up onto the side. Jump off the boat into the water. Make a big splash. Flap your arms wildly, kick and thrash with your legs. If nothing comes of it, climb back up into the boat and wait for the next time. Never be afraid of rocking the boat. | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 3:03:34 PM | Hey, Sorka Spellbound:
Take a little time in getting to know them, ask them questions of what they like, and what their intersts are. It is a slow, yet gentle approach, without rocking the boat.
Keep the conversation going with them, and try to learn as much as you can, about them, that way, you are taking an interest in them.
As the conversations get more smoother, and flow a lot more easier, you will eventually find a comfort zone with them.
By now, your and him will have known each other fairly well, and eventually make your move to find out if they are interested in you.
All the best to you, Sorka Spellbound, and hope everything turns out well for you.
Sincerely
Neill | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 5:58:01 PM | Sorka~ If they aren't a co-worker and you're going to be moving locations..then you should go ahead and figure out how to start letting them know you're interested! Do you know for sure this person in single? How is it that you generally bump into them?
Whelp, Awkward is bad.. but if your moving you can avoid for a short time period! :-) | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 6:27:23 PM | | He does servicework for my office, but is contracted to the building, not us. So he's there darned near every day. We do get to talk sometimes, and I do know he's single and broke up with a g/f about 6 months ago. I've already been doing what Neil suggested and have found out that we do have some common interests. I think half of it is the workplace thing and the other half is me simply not being used to approaching someone else. | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/7/2005 7:36:09 PM | Sorka~ He may be interested and need a little help... or he may not be interested....
Maybe next time you chat with him you can bring up something that you really enjoy doing and see if he enjoys it too.. and mention you don't have anyone to go do this with... If he says hey I'd love to go with you.. then I'd think HE's interested.. if he doesn't bite then you haven't put yourself into an embarrassing situation... move the conversation elsewhere .... | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:10:30 AM | | Update: I finally got up the "nerve" to say something to the guy that works in my building. We are going out sometime next week after work, but this will end up just being a friendship thing. He's leaving the area in a couple of weeks, had a much better job offer close to where his family still lives and he's been a bit homesick. But, at least I "bit the bullet" and stuck my neck out! | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/13/2005 1:45:53 PM | | Sorka, I admire you for being able to do what you did. Even though I try to send out signals, I would never have the nerve to actually tell a guy I was interested in him. If he doesn't ask me out, the connection just gets missed. | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 8/14/2005 7:21:57 AM | Thanks Pepperstar and Coastergal. I'll tell you both, I was VERY nervous the entire time, a sort of "shaking in my shoes" kind of thing. But, I promised myself that I wasn't going to fade into the woodwork like I've done so many times. The really funny thing is that since I did that, I've managed to send out a few first messages on here as well. No raving success so far, but I am still trying!
OT: Coastergal, I've seen your posts in so many threads here and I just wanted to say that I like how you put things. You sound like the kind of person I'd have as a good friend. Couldn't put it in a message to you 'cause of the restrictions on your email, so I apologize for any public embarassment here. | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 11/30/2005 1:01:38 PM | | Well honey goodluck,as alot of us are in.that same situation and wondering the same thing.Thing is you can email them and tall them how you feel but theres always that risk of them not feeling the same way.But life is full of risks for different things so as a female to another do what feels right for you.All the best and who knows??? | |
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| How do you let someone know you're interested?
Posted: 11/30/2005 3:42:01 PM | sorka spellbound, you cant crash and burn if you dont live a little,but i say dont tell someone how you feel about them unless your readdy to except the andswer,good or bad,
if you love something set it free if it loves you itll come back,if not ,it was not ment to be,,,,,
or you can hunt it down and kill it .lol .kidding       | |
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