| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/7/2005 7:45:35 PM | Why is it men on this site think that, if you don't immediately respond to an IM, you're not going to. What if you just got online and then got called away from your computer? Did you ever think of that!! Or what if you are in the middle of working and forgot to turn this feature off? I recently had this experience with to guys and because I didn't immediately respond I am now off of their favorites list. Oh well, no skin off my back. If they are that insecure and unwilling to make an effort then I wouldn't want either of them anyway.
Anyone else had experiences like this? | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/7/2005 7:52:18 PM | | I usually wait a few min for a response, then I'll close my window, because I'm sure to girls on here get IMed a whole lot more then the guys do, If they take you off their favorite list, just assume they aren't worth your time anyways | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/7/2005 8:04:55 PM | yea, some guys get really ticked off if you don't respond asap! this one guy got right annoyed with me one night- i was on the phone and didn't answer him and he was basically getting himself more pissed off the more he typed.
you're right though, don't worry about it. who would want to be with someone who gets that uptight over not being able to talk to a stranger? | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/7/2005 8:22:32 PM | I think its more a case of no response = no interest.
I dont use the IM feature because my understanding is most people find it to be a nuisance, so I just dont bother with it. If I send a woman an email greeting and dont get a response I just assume she isnt interested. No big deal.
Anyone who would get angry over no response to an IM or email has got some real ego problems. | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/7/2005 8:46:42 PM | | Many men have been tarnished by the one line experience ie, women saying they are looking for one thing but then contradicting themselves. But in the same breath, men that get upset at no response are investing too much in the initial email. Beware of men that turn from the "nice guy" to the "hostile guy" at a flip of the switch = unstable. Some people enjoy dramatic personalities/relationships. Some people get bored of stable un-dramatice relationships. Most men want one thing.... to satisfy the cravings of the smaller head as quickly and as easily as possible. Some women may be into that instant carnal satisfaction as well. I guess it all depends are where you are in life!!!!! | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/8/2005 9:06:20 AM | | I thought the "I" in IM stood for "instant". Some users try to hold actual conversations in IM. If you are not one of those, just turn it off. | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/10/2005 10:43:56 PM | The other side of the coin here is the case where you get a favourable response to an email, you exchange a few good messages, and then nothing - no response for weeks - even though she continues to check the website every day.
Inconsiderate, rude, and dishonest. I don't care how many emails you get. | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/10/2005 10:45:35 PM | LOL just imagine what they would be like in real life?
Count it as a blessing to find out they are that impatient that easily. You'll be spared much grief in the end.
I don't even bother to respond when they make assumptions. This isn't the only life there is to live, waiting for tiny boxes to pop up on a screen. If they don't get that, there is something wrong upstairs. | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/11/2005 12:08:45 AM | | Seriously, soooo many guys are like that!!! How can someone possibly be that insecure when they dont' even know you, and haven't even had the time to chat with you!!! People need to learn to relax more in this world, they get their panties in a twist over the smallest things that mean nothing!! I think it also has to do with their insecurities/maturity... I've had so many guys freak out when you don't answer right away, but I say good riddance! | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/11/2005 3:05:37 AM | lack of patience hey? i've had some weird requests from women on this site too, so guess girls can b inpatient also  | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/11/2005 3:23:54 AM | Why is it men on this site think that, if you don't immediately respond to an IM, you're not going to
oohhhhhh oops i thought when the words "if (name) didn't recieve this" it meant her window was closed........ how ****in dumb am i......lol
ps how do you end a quote lol :drinking: | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/11/2005 6:32:44 AM | it happens to me too. i have the IM turned off cause i'm a work. i rarely go online at home and they get pissy because i can never chat with them. if they read my profile they'd know they'd strike out anyway.
but they never read profiles.
crazy crazy crazy
calgarydude - if a woman decides she doesn't want to mail you any longer it's not rude or dishonest or inconsiderate. why would she owe you anything. get over it. move on | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/11/2005 7:19:23 AM | My IM doesn't work, thanks to my security settings.
I had this frustrating experience where the darn window kept popping up, without a clue as to who it was. After that I added a note in my profile.
I find most internet chat rather boring actually, especially if you are talking to one of those people who multi-tasks with ten friends at the same time.
Except for my "sis" in Holland, I have never been a huge fan of it. | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/11/2005 7:38:41 AM | Well, the girls who responds faster to us have an edge over those who take awhile as that means more interest. And a long time responding could very well be the sign of a flake. I tend to just leave the IM on and just browse the net while waiting for a response.
"if a woman decides she doesn't want to mail you any longer it's not rude or dishonest or inconsiderate."
I must disagree here. At the very least a "not interested" Should be given. | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/11/2005 12:31:29 PM | if a woman decides she doesn't want to mail you any longer it's not rude or dishonest or inconsiderate. why would she owe you anything. get over it. move on
We all owe each other a measure of respect. I guess you and I just have different views on common decency. It's got nothing to do with "get over it, move on." I have no problems doing that.
I had a lady email me saying she'd met someone and is pursuing it. I know there's a good chance she's BS'ing and just trying to let me down easy - I know, because I've done it - but she made the effort to respond, and to be kind and respectful. If she can do it.... | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/11/2005 2:03:44 PM | | cause most men on here this is their only way of meeting women so yes they are totally impatient. YOu can't use online stuff as your sole way of meeting women or men. | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/11/2005 9:04:16 PM | | I'm not sure the IM function on here works right. I've had people email me and tell me they tried to IM me. But I never got the IM. Also, sometimes I am chatting and the screen disappears. Then the guy thinks I poofed. | |
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/12/2005 7:51:57 AM | Well, not all men on this site lack patience...most are just great. Interesting thing is... you're getting a glimpse of things that would've come with these guys you're referring to. Behavior in one aspect of one's aspect of life is indicative of all the other aspects, in other words, if he's impatient here, that translates to impatient at work, play, relationships and sex... not good. It's a good thing you found out in the very early stages... and being on favorites list means absolutely nothing hon, people come and go, if he's really interested, he'll make the effort of contacting you and waiting a decent amount of time for you reply...other wise...he just isn't worth another think lovey.
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| Lack of patience in men on POF
Posted: 8/12/2005 3:24:38 PM | | I don't think that people necessarily get angry over it but i think it is common courtesy to at least respond to the email ......even if you just say thanks but no thanks, at least then the person is clear and isn't left hanging | |
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