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Posted: 8/8/2005 11:16:14 PM | I'm quite interested into what you all think about my pretty little profile... so go ahead a rate away.... good comments...bad comments...don't matter to me... just like to see what people really think about it...  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 12:06:59 AM | Sorry I don't have any spare change.
Sounds kinda needy to be looking for a sugar daddy that doesn't have any kids and wants to take on you and your kids so you can go to school. But then again it's all about you, right.
Nice pics though.
I shoot from the hip so don't be insulted by my comments. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 2:12:23 AM | In all honesty that is the sickest and saddest profile I have ever read.
Please take the time to change your life. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 8:08:48 AM | you are barely 22 and you already went thru 2 husbands so there is no guarantee that a 3rd one will fare better. maybe at this point in your life, you don't need another husband but a reality check.
you need a lot of soul searching...on where to go from here. taking the easy route is not going to help you. it's your responsibilty ( and of that of the fathers of course ) to provide for those kids not another person's.
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Posted: 8/9/2005 10:38:40 AM | | The financial support for your children rests on you and the fathers of these children......you cant expect some guy you just meet to be financially supportive.....thats not the answer. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 5:57:03 PM | xx wrote:
Hello, I'm a 22 year old mom. I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and my son is due the first week of September. My daughter's father is currently in her life. Unfortunately I cannot say the same for my son's father.
22 and two kids by different dads? Were you even married to either of them or do you just pop out babies from every guy who comes along?
I am looking for a goodlooking dependable man.
\why? It doesn't sound like it has been a prerequesite in the past. Do you offer a good looking dependable woman in return?
He needs to have a good reliable job.
Do you have a good reliable job in return?
He needs to enjoy kids. He doesn't need to feel that he should be the father, he just needs to be a good role model. I prefer a man with no kids, but it honestly doesn't matter either way.
You're a texbook example of double standards, aren't you? So he needs to bankroll your bad behavior but he can't be a full party to his investment? Sounds like deal to ME!
I need someone who has a good sence of humor.
Got THAT right!!!
I am spontaneous,
hence two kids, no dads.....
...taking advantage of natures beauty.
You think we should take care of nature but you smoke? (And where do your butts go? ....on the ground)
Now..I would like to be honest...I would like to find someone who would be willing to take care of me and my children financially
three kids, huh? At least you were honest. I think I can see why you want someone to take care of you. It sounds like you NEED a keeper.
...the reason for that is because I want to persue college full time
yuh shudda thotta before getting preggers, twice
...if I had to work then I would not be able to do that...
Funny, but lotsa OTHER women manage to be mom, work, and go to school
but hey...this is about me and what I want...
Not any more. It quit being that when you dropped the first frog. After that its "what THEY NEED and I am unimportant"
I seldom agree with skylar but I am pretty close to agreeing with her here.
Postive suggestions which might help you a bit:
Stop smoking. You're making ill and/or killing your children. You also cut your pool of potential guys down to "smokers only". That means about 1/3 of the male poplulation.
You will also find dirtbags highly over represented in the smoking male population. Not many "goodlooking dependable men" in the "dirtbag" crowd.
Stop making babies. There is such thing as birth control and this record you show here would SCARE the HELL out of me if I was a potential suitor, unless I planned to abstain from sex or wanted an instant family. My biggest concern would be that you'd "accidently" get pregnant with me too.
Go after the fathers of both children for support. They owe. It would also help you be able to afford to go to school full time. Don't expect another guy to pick up the tab because of your choices. This ad is a kiss of death to any guy who might be interested. Supporting somebody else's kids is a VERY bad investment. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 6:33:31 PM | I seldom agree with skylar but I am pretty close to agreeing with her here.
So true. But then again who does? | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 6:34:11 PM | wow you guys are pretty harsh...it's alright though...the only thing i think of is that you guys really don't know what's behind all of that....i put that out there so there are no surprises... and i've never been married... wanted to...but they didn't...and how many people actually stop having a relationship after one didn't work?? c'mon now... i'm fully capable of takin care of myself and my "2" kids...it's just a nice fantasy to have to be able to stay home with my kids...raise them myself without having a babysitter do that during the day...and also go for a good career that would make me happy and make my family life more stable....sorry if i have dreams...i can go to college also...while i go to work...but i have to think about the time i spend with my kids...honestly...what's more valuable....going to school to better the money....or spending as much time with my kids outside of work to better my relationship with them....and a little fact for ya'll who care to listen...i was with my daughter's father for 2 1/2 years...i left him b/c he became a bad alcoholic and our relationship became abusive... i could'nt put myself nor my daughter through that...then he went to prison for a year... while he was in there i started dating one of my good friends....who i have known for a few years... well there were a lot of empty promises from him... we were supposed to get a home... get married...so on and so forth...well there were secrets there i didn't know about... so a month after we found out i was pregnant...which was a good thing at the time... he gets locked up...and he lied to me about it...he ended up going to prison for dealing cocaine and getting caught...he won't be around or be able to support my son with any money because he will be in prison for 15 years... my daughter's father is out...and is supporting her financially and seeing her every chance he gets... so....after knowing all that...NOW make your opinions...
ohh one more thing...i know someone is gonna make a comment about the kind of guys i've dated b/c my kids' fathers both went to prison...but hey....we make mistakes...people lie... and i know better know... i've learned from my mistakes and now i'm able to do what i know is the right thing to do...and i'm not gonna jump into a the first possible relationship i come across...i'm gonna be more careful and selective...and if i don't get a relationship anytime soon...it's no skin off my teeth...it's just a nice thing to have... | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 7:26:24 PM | Don't air your dirty laundry, ask what people think and then be surprised at the result. What kind of response did you really expect?
Nobody was really judging you based on your choice in men (although the whole prison thing may put that in a new light), or your suitability as a mom. People seem to have a stronger opinion at the fact that you have ended up with two kids with deadbeat dads and want someone else to pay your way to stability. Good luck finding that. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 8:56:21 PM | | cokechick......thats exactly what i was going to say......you read my mind. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 9:00:48 PM | | sheesh...i guess i might have to change that whole supporting me thing...it looks like everyone is getting the wrong idea about that...thinking that i care about the money... or i need a sugar daddy....or whatever...which i never meant it to mean anything like that... soo...hmmm....and i'm not airing dirty laundry...i'm just telling how it honestly is... it's the truth...and if you don't like my reality i figured you didn't have to e-mail me...so yeah... | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 10:21:51 PM | | YOU MAKE SINGLE MOMS LOOK BAD ! I HAVE A CHILD AND AM ABLE TO WORK AND GO TO SCHOOL. AND WHAT THE **** R U DOING ON THIS SITE WHEN YOU SHOULD BE GETTING YOUR SHIT TOGETHER FOR YOU BABIES. I HATE TO BREAK THIS TO YOU BUT SINCE YOU STARTED HAVING KIDS IT SHOULD NOT BE ABOUT YOU ANYMORE IT NEEDS TO BE ABOUT YOUR KIDS . GET A ****ING LIFE FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR KIDS | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 1:32:31 AM | amen
How many guys are comfortable with that upfront? Honest IS the best policy, but at what point is it cumbersome? k you have two kids, and you are looking for a man in your life. That's fine. Your future partner should love you for you, and not for your kids.
Yes your priority is your kids of course - first and foremost BUT that does not exclude the fact that you are leaning on an idea which may not actually exist. Well that's how it sounds to me.
Be honest, but not pleading or begging. There is no such thing as a free ride in this world, and we all have our baggage and issues.
However, beyond the fact that it sounds like "wishing for an easy way out" not to mention wondering how many great sweet wondeful guys with loads of cash to support a woman and two kids are interested in having those kids' fathers being ex-cons who have been busted (and one serving 15 years) - ouch. There is some great sleep ahead.
Lighten it up, seriously. Yet say you have two kids etc (or will have) that's fine. Don't excuse the fact that you can't work (whats with that?) - or anything else.
You list what you want for your kids (roll model, support etc) what do you want for YOU? What are your interests and goals? | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 8:12:37 AM | | Don't change a thing. Guys need to know what they're in for. No sense hiding it and springing it on them later. It would be a waste of your's and his time. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 12:03:17 PM | | Well, ya got a good rating from the women...ha ha ha They voted me a 1! You must be doing something right,eh? lol | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 7:53:01 PM | *Don't excuse the fact that you can't work (whats with that?) - or anything else.*
uhhh...where in my profile did i say that i can't work...i said ON HERE that i could go to school and work full time...i'm fully capable of doing that...i'm just worried about the time i can spend with my kids...i hate how the world now a days makes it to where babysitters are the one doing most of the work...
and the ones that are saying that i don't have my stuff together b/c i'm not in college or whatever reason why they say that...well you have no idea what i'm doing... you have no idea how together i have it... i've been dealt with some pretty harsh things but i've managed to stay above it all... and keep my family far away from it...so people stop assuming things that you have no idea about... it's about what my profile says.... i don't think i ever mentioned in there what i'm doing lately or anything like that...so whatever...
and thanks to the one person who actually agrees with what i'm trying to do here... | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 8:36:11 PM | *what do you want for YOU? *
**I need someone who has a good sence of humor. Someone who can make me laugh even at the worst of times. I am spontaneous, when I can be. So I would need someone who likes to do things at the spur of the moment. I believe living life to the fullest and taking advantage of natures beauty. I would like someone who likes to talk....a lot... I always love to hold on a good conversation, whether it is a light or serious conversation.** ...what does this mean??? hmmm...well someone with half a brain would say it looks like what I want... | |
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Posted: 8/28/2005 1:55:07 PM | and the ones that are saying that i don't have my stuff together b/c i'm not in college or whatever reason why they say that..
Its because you have three children by three guys, two of whom are jailbirds and you're like 22. OR did you miss all that in your own writings as well as the responses?
well you have no idea what i'm doing...
Yeah we do. You're irrseponsibly popping out babies from guys who probably shouldn't be allowed to reproduce. You told us that
you have no idea how together i have it...
Again, yes we do. And you don't have it together or you'd not be a momX3 at youre age without a single father, a LTR or marriage in the picture and some way of supporting yourself and your kids.
i've been dealt with some pretty harsh things but i've managed to stay above it all...
xx, from what you write, you have NOT, I repeat NOT "been dealt" anything. You made choices and this is the result of your choices. You opened those choices up to public scrutiny and you got HONEST responses. You chose to dump on those giving you honest responses even though they were close to 100% in unison. Again, this shows how much you don't have it together and how you somehow think that someone else is somehow responsible for your reaping the rewards of your own bad decisions. You apparently think that the rest of us should feel sorry for you because those choices turned out EXACTLY like 98.999% of rational adults would expect them to.
xx, Your new profile is much better.
Maybe you can find another guy with whom you can "accidentally" get pregnant for the 4th time.
If you wanna snivel about me being harsh because I was honest, go for it. I have big shoulders, I can carry the burden... | |
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Posted: 8/29/2005 10:39:16 PM | | first of all gypsy...you can't read apparently...i don't know how many times i've said that i'm on my S...E....C....O....N....D kid...d*mn...LEARN TO READ...lol...freakin hilarious...you try to respond in my forum without even being able to read and comprehend words...go to grammer school if you have to...d*mn...and honestly...how is it so bad to have T...W....O...kids (read carefully now gypsy)...that are 3 years apart...hmmm....i would understand if they were i dunno...9 months apart...that people would be so irrate...and yes...i chose wrong people... haven't we all?? if we haven't...then why are the vast majority of us on here S...I...N...G...L...E..it has to be apparent that the ones we chose were not the ones for us... plus i'm not the only one who layed down...and did the dirty deed...and it was not my decision for them to choose they're paths...i chose my path....i'm leading down this path i chose...and i'm currently looking at brighter pastures...and you are wrong when you say you K..N...O...W...what i'm doing and how i am...have you spoken with me...do you watch me in my windows...are you a friend/family member of mine who is around me all the time to see what i'm doing...I DON'T THINK SO...so how could you POSSIBLY "know" me...if you aren't around me...and you don't know what i've been dealt with...i did make the comment earlier in my forum that a lot of it was due to what i chose...but there were a lot of situations that came up...that honestly were not my fault...and honestly..i haven't seen your profile yet...but i figure you just might be at the age of..i dunno...18...19...well you're mental capasity anyways...word to the wise gypsy...don't think too hard on one subject at a time... you might cause internal damage...b/c it's obvious you don't think too well that way... | |
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Posted: 8/29/2005 10:41:42 PM | | OHHH OUCH! you're 53 gypsy? man...i am so sorry...i feel sorry for a man like you with the thought process you tend to have...it just shows me what kind of a sad sad world we live in... | |
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Posted: 8/30/2005 12:28:42 AM | [you need to get your shit together for the sake of your kids ]
ohh man...almost forgot about you...hmmmm...let's see here...let's take a look at your profile sweetie...hmmm...and let's just see how much you have your sh*t together to even try to make a jugdement against me...well i see you say nothing about you child...sad...you can't even mention them...what kind of mother are you when you don't even say a single word about your child...anywho...you apparently have no profession...or at least you like to make people you think you don't by not saying anything in that part...and i thought you were a single mother who juggled school and work...but yet you have time to vacation...ahhh must be a rather nice life to lead...how can i believe a word you have said when your profile says nothing about any of it...no school...no job...no kid...hmmm...and how can you possibly verify that i have nothing going on in my life...do you stalk me? living in hawaii...i wouldn't think so... boy oh boy...you people come in here....talking your talk...saying whatever you please...assuming things you couldn't POSSIBLY be sure of... has anyone ever accepted the concept of thinking before you speak??? is this what it boils down to? let's bash this single mother...b/c it makes us feel good...or b/c she's looking for someone to share her life with...to share the joys of her children with...hmmm...it's pretty sad...and ya know...i actually kinda noticed how bad it has become...lol...here's a good example...just the other day...i had to push my car off the road b/c it died in the middle of traffic...now i'm obviously pregnant...but did any nice person want to help a pregnant woman push a 1 ton car off the side of the road?? no...word to the wise people...especially you sinister...don't comment in someone's forum...especially bashing comments...if you can't even back it up...*yawn*... makes me quite tired of listening to you all... | |
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Posted: 8/30/2005 12:31:28 AM | Either i'm too polite or you guys are too harsh lol
This all just looks wrong... WRONG! | |
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Posted: 8/30/2005 12:59:30 AM | gypsy, gypsy, gypsy....wow..lovely little book you produced here...but i have to say...you talk about the bible buddy? well read up on it a little bit more...b/c it does state in there that the only one that has the RIGHT TO JUDGE...is GOD ALMIGHTY...that we as humans have so many faults that we cannot judge correctly...as you have proven...and BTW....i was with my daughter's father for 2 1/2 years...i was with my son's father for 2 years...yeah...i BARELY knew them...sure...ok...whatever you say...i just lay down for any joe shmoe...and like i said...yeah they were bad people...but that was their decision...they knew what they were doing...and they are big boys...so they can make decisions on their own...but it's not like i never tried to help...and it's not like they're gonna listen to me anyways...and right now... my daughter's father is actively in her life...he has become a different person from his mistakes..and i'm very proud of that factor...and we are really good friends despite what we have gone through together...i only wish my son's father could've done the same... but he decided to make a decision...and do something he never did before...and well...he just ended up going away...and i don't see my children as mistakes...in all actuality...my daughter saved my life...if God didn't give her to me...i could possibly be dead right now b/c the life i was leading before her...was not actually a good one...it was a very selfish...drug addictive...life... and i don't rely on the tax payers dollars...i rely on myself...b/c honestly...and you should know this with how WISE you are...but in the end...you only HAVE yourself to rely on...besides God of course...and i know you're gonna make a good ol' comment on me talking about Him...but that's ok...God forgives...and i know he forgave me...that's why i choose not to lead the life i did before...that's why i stay to myself most of the time...and to my children...i don't go out...i don't have many friends...and i like it that way...and i'm sorry but you really don't know how life really is...b/c you're too judgemental to look past many things...and it's sad...it honestly is...and i believe if i were trully irresponsible... that would mean i wouldn't learn from my mistakes...that i would keep going the route i took...and i would put my kids on the back burner...hell maybe even give them up...ya know...it's soo much easier now adays for single mothers to give up their kids rather than take care of them...look at the ratio of how many kids are up for adoption...i mean..my daughter's father wanted to take her...but no...i don't think so... i would not have a good reason to wake up every morning if her bright face wasn't there to wake me up...and it will be the same for my son when he finally gets here...
i am just baffled at how many people can be soooo judgemental....i wonder what skeletons you have in your closet? and BTW....my parents stayed together...and i became a criminal... a drug user...i dropped out of high school...explain that one??? and...books tell you crap...you learn nothing....well maybe you do...hell my sister...older sister i may add...(and WAS married)...learned that throwing your child in a room for hours b/c you can't handle them was ok...yeah...books...gotta love them...they are JUST like experience...are you for real? and yes it is MY forum...i don't see anyone else's name up there who started this one... hmm..anything else i should comment about?? i dunno...let's just see how you reply to this one... | |
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