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Posted: 8/9/2005 12:47:09 PM | It's just not worth it. I get hurt too much. I guess the subject line says it all. I will never find someone who wants me. So, I quit. Plain and simple.  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 1:07:14 PM | | Don't be so negative, pick your head up and drive on! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 1:18:13 PM | | Ok, I have never posted to the forums before but I saw your post and just couldn't let this go by without some sort of response. You sound very desperate and that is not a good thing. Don't put too much stock into what happens on this site. If you came here and thought you would find a prince who will carry you off on a white horse and you will both live happily ever after, stop it. You are only setting yourself up for more pain. Take it for what it is. Some good fun, and if you make a real connection then that is great. If not, don't let it be the end of the world. You are a sweet girl with a lot of things going for you. You are young, you are going to school, you seem motivated and you also seem to know what you want out of life. You surely don't need a man to get any of those things. And if you quit you never will have the chance to find him. So if it hurts too much to look here and not find something, stop looking. That is usually when you find the right one anyway. And I hope that by quitting you only mean quitting the POF. If this is a more serious issue you need to seek professional help immediately. You could be deeply depressed. I have dealt with depression personally and I can tell you that it not only hurts you but all of those who love you as well. So please if you are having unhealthy thoughts, find help now. If you need help with resources call your local hospital. They will know who you need to contact. The most important thing is to get help. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 1:24:08 PM | STop feelin sorry for yourself ! There are so many lonely people in this world that whine!
Take a good look around you one day! There are so many people that dont have a home, cant walk , cant afford to raise the kids they have even have Cancer. You think you have it bad because you cant find a freaking man! Please! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 3:43:51 PM | I just read these words in someone's profile, yours perhaps?
But there's some sort of little hope in me that just won't die no matter how hard I try.
Focus on that and, not trying to be an ass here, but if weight weighs on your mind don't wait to do what you can to change that. You block people that seek 'friendship' and 'talk/email', you'll find many people here that wish only to 'start' with either to see where it my lead.
You're young with a good heart, it shows, just don't ever say you just give up. Read those words ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ up there again while remembering who wrote them. Time is on your side, patience young lady, the one you seek is out there seeking you as well....  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 4:00:39 PM | | You're 18! My god . Try being 45 & alone... This is so stupid! You still have so much growing up to do! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 4:06:20 PM | | It's OK to quit when you get discouraged. You can return to it later when you feel differently. It's called taking a break. I am doing the same thing. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 4:12:19 PM | Stay postive.. Some might not agree with me but guys your age and woman are mainly shallow , I been there and watched my neice deal with this same thing.. I know you dont want to hear it but.... Life will move on and gurl your only 18 dont panic ,, Worry about you and your education for now.. and give yourself some time to build that confidance your lacking right now.. Its not all about your looks... Its about confidence too.. Have faith you will find him may not be today or tommarrow or even 10 yrs from now , But the right one will show up... Just dont be so desperate to take the 1st looser that stoles by just because your lonely or sick of not having anyone.. Believe me its not worth the headache or heart ache.. Now I am 42 still lookin not in any rush either ,, he needs to be the right one ,, NOT just anyone... have faith he will come.. and relize your still you and worthy of your own happiness with or with out a man... Some one will sweep you off your feet and believe me they will love every inch of you... inside and out.
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Posted: 8/9/2005 5:04:07 PM | | Look, Sammi, I am a handsome man and don't get what I want. Some of us have money, looks, talent, and are nice guys but don't get the kind of girl we want. You're not alone, sugar. Best wishes to you. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 6:21:27 PM | | Lol.. 18 >????? Am 46.. single dad... try that.. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 6:40:40 PM | | I understand your frusturation. Love is never an easy thing to pin down. My advice is not to give up on love. Someday when it is the right time it will happen. If you want to take a break from searching go right ahead. Invest into yourself, your education, and your dreams. But if you have given up on love completely than those who want to love you will be by passed when the time comes to capture your heart. This is a quote from my favorite writer that I read almost everyday to remind myself to keep going maybe it will help you too. "To hope is to risk pain. ANd, to try is to risk failure. But risk must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. THe person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, becomes nothing." | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 7:27:42 PM | | This is a pretty sad way to get attention. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 7:46:55 PM | | When you come along in a thread just to slam the OP, you are showing yourself to be rude and mean spirited. It detracts from an otherwise helpful atmosphere. The characters that come to mind are the Grinch and Scrooge. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 7:50:56 PM |
Grinch and Scrooge.
Both men of conviction!  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 8:26:32 PM | | Oh come on. If she needs support there are phone lines for that. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 9:01:24 PM | The forums are losing their charm with all the sweet peoples posting today | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 9:31:37 PM | I'm sorry you feel this way. You're young yet. Don't rush. Please don't rush.
I'm a bigger girl. And these past 9 months I"ve been separated from my husband. I've made mistakes. I've gotten hurt. But the one thing I've learned is I don't need someone. I want someone in my life, but I don't NEED someone.
In July I had vacation to take and I wanted to go camping. So off I went. Me, a tent, sleeping bag and an axe ( a girl can't be too careful ). It was the best trip I've ever made. I did what I wanted to. Went where I wanted to. When it rained, I decided not to cook in the rain, so I drove to Lake Louise and had a fine supper with wine watching the rain fall on the mountains.
I hiked to a teahouse I'd always wanted to see. I had tea at the Banff Springs Hotel while watching my cousin play piano. I existed by myself for 4 days and it didn't kill me. To my surprise, it was the best 4 days in the last 9 months. I sat in my tent at night, listening to the guy in the next campsite sing and play guitar. I got sunburnt.
I didn't want to go home. Somehow out there on a mountain, I found a big part of me. And suddenly alone wasn't so bad.
You're 18. I know, you've heard that before. But there is someone out there for you. When I was 18, I was in an abusive relationship that I would've stayed in because I had no self esteem. Luckily circumstances changed and I ended up without him.
Find yourself. Find the beauty in you. Look for what you love and the rest of life will fall in place around you. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 9:58:59 PM | | So, what will it take to have someone WANT you? What are you prepared to do? How badly do you want it? Some people have a more formidable task and that is changing the essence of themselves. Yours is relatively simple. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 10:13:20 PM | Stop being so hard on yourself and if you feel this bad about yourself, please seek some help...You'll never find anyone, until you are able to be happy with yourself and love yourself...Things are not hopeless..if you want to talk, feel free to write me..
For the ones here whose comments I've read who were slamming this woman who obviously was hurting..It says alot about YOU...COLD, HEARTLESS and probably walk past your own Mother if she was lying in the road!...
You wanna Roast me, go for it I could care less what you think..I've watched this behavior on this site and it's like you seek blood, go after the weak ones.....But when someone makes a POST and all you can do is Slam them.. why even POST
Too may cold SOB's in this world and instead of trying to at least be halfway supportive you rip on her...Way to go, | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 10:21:15 PM | | You have made a wise decision. Time to go out into the world and get to know yourself a little better. If you get lonely, you have friends and family. And dont forget, pets love you no matter what. Good luck and best wishes! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2005 10:42:50 PM | Sami.......I quit??????
Darlen ur 18 years old! WAZ up with that? You need to concentrate on yourself and your self image. To be honest.. I started reading your profile and STOPED~ It starts out with a VERY negative tone.
-Negativity attracts negativity!
-having positive thoughts and positive self image can make a difference.
-YOU need to LOVE YOU before someone else can!
As far as giving up you need to look at why you get hurt.. what hurts you.. why you allow yourself to be put in the position you do.
There are BBW sites that you can visit... but I'm a plus sized gal and whelp, I am what I am... an I love who I am!
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Posted: 8/10/2005 2:23:49 AM | What a great post rainy day!!! I love the way you think. Also agree that the OP doesn't need to hear other people's rants and raves on her....like, get a life and don't post if you can't say anything positive.
Sami....you are too young to "give up". Like someone suggested, perhaps take a break from looking....and I agree that you shouldn't expect much from these dating sites. Don't judge other men from people on this site....there are a lot of losers on here....men you wouldn't want anything to do with....trust us slightly cynical ones on this. Don't get me wrong though, there are some really great guys on here....but not usually someone who lives close enough to you. That's my pet peeve....seeing some great sounding guys and they live sooo far away. oh well, life goes on.
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Posted: 8/10/2005 4:41:40 AM | DO NOT GIVE IN,AND NEVER GIVE UP. Sometimes i feel the same way to. But i can
never get myself to really do that cause their's Plenty of fish out here. I feel
you tho. That come from the pain, and torment from your x. I know from
experience. But as soon as someone else comes along, poof! 
Back to being happy again. Everybody who has a comment for this most
definitley had to overcome the pain of breaking up from the one they truely loved.
Now,what if you had true love break ups back to back to back, that's the "I quit"
She's talking about. Anything annoying consistently will drive you crazy. Its easy
to say "resist the devil and he will flee", but what if you fell in love with the devil?
Well can you hold on to an angry snake?NO. But if yes. That mean you can take
pain of the bite.And dont cry!. But if you fell in love with a devil you must let them
go, or go crazy killing yourself trying to take the pain. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 7:56:20 AM | @ sami nick...
Im sure youve heard of the saying....
winners never quit & quitters never win ... cliche but nevertheless true
Im more than twice your age and its been like a century since I was 18,
so I dont know if my advice will be relevant
I guess some of us forget what its like to be 18...............sometimes peerpressure takes its toll when many of our friends already are a couple.......
My advice...pursue you dream of being a paralegal and eventually a lawyer...........
there will be plenty of time to form relationships | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 10:08:01 AM | | now you've stopped looking you will probably meet someone........ | |
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