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Posted: 8/10/2005 1:01:14 PM | | I constantly see posters asking questions about whether height, job, weight, etc make a difference in a mate. When people express their actual opinions (usually when its in the affirmative to the listed questions), they are flamed for being shallow. What is the point in asking an opinion if you simply blast the person for not providing a "politically correct" answer? If you do not want to know individuals opinions on a subject, don't ask the question. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 1:02:54 PM | Of course it matters.
Does it mean I'm shallow. Damn right.
Does it mean I have less respect for them as a person. NO!
What it comes down to is two people wanting the same things in life, with similar goals, and most of all loving to spend time together. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 1:25:40 PM | | crayola i like your answer cause it is so true about most people, but they don't want to admit it. it's not all about what's inside. some people also have a picture in their mind how their mate is going to look. i think it starts off with the look. if they look good enough to catch your eye, then your willing to talk to them and possibly try to find out more about this person. i don't think that's being shallow. that's just making a choice on who you might want to spend the rest of your life with. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 1:28:17 PM |
all i know is i was never called shallow until i posted here. i don't think the bitter betties and bills know what it actually means
I've never called you shallow.
A shallow person which I have seen a few, could easily drown in a thimbleful of water. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 1:31:56 PM | what I don't understand is that everyone has particular tastes in what they find attractive or worthy of a relationship. shallow? yes, sometimes it would seem I am, but at the same time I've turned down Barbies because they were dumb as toast. And women who were slightly less attractive dazzle me with their intelligence. Mind you something caught my eye to begin with
Everyone wants to hit the panic button when weight or looks come into play and they are called vain or shallow, but I'll tell you, I've never felt more animal magnetism or chemistry than with someone I find initially attractive, stunning even. It may give my confidence a run for the money but in the end, nothing worth having comes easy. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 1:44:05 PM | ^^lawyer, I can see where your suggestions coming from. You being a lawyer.
A relationship is an emotional, human related matter. Has nothing to do with the law.
If you ask me, all of these laws are the reason for too many problems between people.
People have already formed "thinking" and "idea" patterns besides a whole lots of fear
of such (too much) laws and regulations. People could feel discriminated at any point'
and moment of their lives, but, there are discriminations to be compared with those
"Laws". People could be short, long, ugly, pretty, old, young and too many other kinds.
When these differences settled between the parties like humans do, then, a simple
(sorry, I didn't mean it that way), can solved the problem.
When it comes to choose a friend, a lover, a partner, people do make choices and that's
pure HUMAN too!  | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 2:23:50 PM | | I think its a test to see how many creative answers people can come up with instead of the OBVIOUS one. Usually the OP of these "poor me" threads is FUGLY and everyone piously stating "there's someone for everyone, keep trying" is privately thinking "ewww, I hope they don't try to date me". | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 2:31:54 PM | | I think they do want to know the answer. I think it is confusing to come online and get nowhere. If you're good looking, cool, but try to defy the stereotype by not being stupid and snobby as well. Shallow is superficial, or at or near the surface. The outer surface is your appearance. People who are being rejected because of their surface legitimately wonder if there is any point looking, or will they always be alone because some think they are "fugly". It's something you might wonder if you were unable to get a date for a long period of time. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 2:38:47 PM | I think some actually posts these kinds of threads because they are really lost, but other people can't really dictate to you if it should matter to you. In the end it's a personal choice anyhow, but some just want some idea of what others are thinking. I wouldn't put that down. We all get a bit lost and confused even on things that seem obvious or silly to us when we are thinking clearly.
Sadly some are asking out of bitterness and are searching for affirmation of there thread or responses that go against them so they can bust on them. Example of one thread: Why do all men lie? Person isn't looking for the men that don't who might get upset with this generalization. Look up the person's profile who starts a thread like that and you see divorced or separated.
So many threads come from our own personal experiences and demons that we fight with. Sometimes we just want to vent or strike back. I may be guilty of overgeneralizing myself here, but I find these to be the main reasons for those kinds of posts.
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Posted: 8/10/2005 10:06:12 PM | | When self-inflicted wounds are not enough, it's time to post an obvious lame question here. Where you can get some professionals to inflict the pain you seek. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 10:45:36 PM | I gave my opinion on hunting(i hunt) and i was insulted,laughed at,put down and basically told not to have children because they would be mentally challenged.She never answered ?s directed at her but was constantly asking me to answer her.
ot: Some ppl can't handle any answer if it does not coincide with there own. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 11:39:00 PM | @ mrslucci:
You are always too nice to attack. Shame on the other person. I know from reading you elsewhere that you always try to see all sides of things.
OT: This is why I avoid some threads. Some people are searching for only those who agree with them. I avoid ones like "Why are women on here snobs?" or "Why do all men lie?" --these folks don't want a discussion, they want to simply vent and find those in agreement. Try to contradict them and you are racked over the coals.
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Posted: 8/22/2005 2:54:26 PM | Your right it is most people venting their own feelings & thoughts. BUt also like u said their own experiences that they wanna tell pplk to see if it would hellp in one way or another
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