| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 6:22:30 AM | this thread is spinoff of Crushme's "Why Caucasian Women don't dig Asian Males". since he had the balls/gumption to ask, i figured i might as well do the same. i want to know why don't asian males dig mixed asian women ie like myself (chinese)?
not going to lie i always thought it was a variety of reasons that probably would shock the majority of you either with stupidity or just plain "duh". so i guess i'll leave that out and let u guys/ladies share your opinions, personal reflections, etc. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 8:11:12 AM | OT: I do.
From my experience, a mixed person of any two races tend to be better looking than both the mother and the father. Look at Dean Cain and the guy who stared in Speed (Kneeve or something?). I think our children are all going to be mixed someday.  | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 9:21:09 AM | | thx mitgrad00. i do too. little success in that dept. maybe it is fl. very few asian brothers looking my way i assure u. they would rather be friends. thk i would have more success if i was mixed with white. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 9:21:41 AM |
I think our children are all going to be mixed someday.
yeah, unfortunatelly. we're all going to look like less attractive versions of vanessa williams. that's not a good thing. there's something to be said for individuality.
the real question to be asked here is..... What's with all the white guys with asian chicks? They're everywhere! ****es. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 11:26:22 AM | Quote: "the real question to be asked here is..... What's with all the white guys with asian chicks? "
Another question should be "why are there so many "Asian" chicks with white guys". This question has been explored extensively in thread such as "Asian Men/White Women" or "why white chicks don't dig Asian men". I encourage those who are interested to check out the threads.
I think the answer lies in social-economics and media stereo type.
In North American media, "Asian" women are generally limited to two roles: whores or martial artists. Is there any wonder those North American men who have limited understanding of "Asian" women would be attracted to them?
Inferiority syndrome: Many younger and impressionable "Asian" females are brain-washed by popular media and identify themselves as Whites. They have what we call "banana" problem: yellow on the outside but white inside. Often they totally lack self-esteem and despise who they are. They view marrying white as "a step up the social ladder". | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 1:07:44 PM | I have no problem dating mix asian women...
I think.. oriental are very perceptive and prejudice toward our own kind. I will probably get flame at for stating this...
There are the FOB that refuse to hang around any other kinds other than themself (this have more to do with the fact that they feel their english is not as good as others)
There are the Hongkong asian which think they are the best of asian crops. The feel the need to show off their goods (BMW, Acura) and any other kind of asian are just a notch below them and other asian group refuse to hang with them because of jealousy.
and then there are the Banana (CBC, ABC etc) that hate hanging around with other orienatal groups because they are alway be-littled by them for not speaking/write/read fluently in their native tongue.
so as you can see.. its just not asian don't date mixed asian .. we just don't date each other because we are prejudice to each other...
My only explaination for why Asian don't date mixed asian because they are small minded people.
they either wants:
1. their kid to be raised with pure asian background
2. they are too intimidate to explore the other culture (ie: your parents culture) | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 3:05:29 PM | thx lostwords for taking the plunge. been wondering if i was just imagining it. i have always been afraid to ask...he,he.. yeah there is a story behind that one too. since u took a chance at being roasted, here are my insane personal theories:
1) pure asian blood
2) fact that i wasn't fluent by any stretch of the imagination
3) my mom is chinese but from vietnam. no clue why that location is an issue.
4) my dad is black, cherokee, irish... & so on
5) wasn't wealthy enough
6) wasn't ambitious enough
7) too chunky or fluffy for those that prefer that word
8) too outspoken
9) lack of social connection | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 4:57:53 PM | "3) my mom is chinese but from vietnam. no clue why that location is an issue. "
thats a biggy... I am chinese vietnamese. Well I was born in Vietnam but both my parents are Chinese. I think its crap being Chinese Vietnamese. The chinese people refuse to claim you as their own because you weren't born in china, hongkong, taiwain. The Vietnamese people don't claim you as their own either because you speak Chinese.
I guess the good thing is... I can play pretend... If I am with a bunch of chinese people, I tell them I am vietnamese and since I understand cantonese very well.. and it is so fun to hear them b!tching about me in Cantonese thinking I don't understand. I did the same thing with vietnamese people as well by telling them I am Chinese.
To be honest, I used to hate being too many things...I remember that I used to tell all my back home friends that I would not forget any chinese or vietnamese but it is difficult to able to keep both languages while learning a new one (English). And yes, over the years, I did loose them. I only can speak the languages but have difficulty reading and writting in both Chinese and Vietnamese. But it is good that I have different background and I've learned to adapt and appreciate other cultures. I find that I am more tolerants and more willing to try stuff than my other oriental friends. In fact, I have friend of all races and nationality and I think that is a plus.
sometime I do feel left out because I don't fit in one particular group and wonder whats it like to just be pure Chinese, or Vietnamese or Canadian. Then again, no point in sitting around and moan about it.
I've alway been ask by friends "so who would you marry to? Chinese, vietnamese? or Canadian?"
and my answered alway is: what ever come along. It would be nice if they are Chinese or vietnamese because then, they already know the culture and they could speak to my non speaking parents but I wouldn't reject someone because they are not Chinese or vietnamese. At the end of the day, if we both happy together, thats all that matter really.
So I am just curious, are you just looking for asian?? | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 7:32:17 PM | To everyone who questions "who am I":
Conficious said: "The superior man is attached to his principles; the inferior man is attached to his land".
Peace
MITgrad00 | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/12/2005 8:05:28 PM | here here to that lostwords. no i am not specifically looking for asian because i want to open to all possibilities. who knows i may be surprised :) however, i am not going to lie that i find asian men very attractive and remain attached to my culture in both media & daily living (chinese but since my mom & majority of my family still live in Vietnam i also get a side of vietnamese).
just found it a little disconcerting that my interest in general has never been returned. thks to another thread started about the caucasian thing. i finally felt comfortable enough to ask. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/13/2005 7:06:22 PM | you know what they saying though "If all fail, you can alway go home to find one"
I know quite a few friends that went back to China or Vietnam to get married. I am not too big of a fan of that...But as I get older, my parents seems to remind me of that options more frequence. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/14/2005 3:05:48 PM | oh god... pray my mother doesn't read this. you may give her ideas. then again she may already have this idea in mind. wants me to go w/ her & her friend to hong kong and then to ho chi minh to visit family. i have been putting it off though for other reasons.  | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/14/2005 4:52:22 PM | I have one question.
Why do people categorize just the beady eyed people that come from East Asia as Asians? Asia spreads from Japan from the east to Afghanistan which is the west of Asia. There's East, West and southern Asia.
So let’s be more specific about what we're talking about. I'm an Asian (Southern/South). | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/14/2005 5:01:38 PM | I believe the media grouped afghani, parkistanian, indian, iranian, palestinian as middle east and group japanese, korean, chinese, vietnamese, thai, Laos, cambodian, malaysian as asian.. dunno.. I think its more because not many people know their geography and figure it would be easier to call orientals people as asian.. and the rest as middle east... shrug..
good question though... | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/14/2005 5:06:07 PM | gabbypahenui: Same same... my parents want to take me home a few times now and I know what they have on their mind and I have refused it...
it would be hard to know if they like you.. because of you.. or because they need soemone to bring them oversea and money...also.. I am not fluence in Chinese or vietnamese so it would be hard to communicate. I guess on the plus side, I may married someone of my culture and fluence in the language and can educate our kids in our native tongue..
But at the moment, I still prefere to find one close here or at least in the western world... | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/16/2005 5:34:11 PM | | I don't have a problem with mixed asian women. I pretty much date other races, so someone who is mixed is not a problem for me. I think it has to do with how that person was raised and how close they are with their family. It usually has to do with the way the parents teach their kids about dating traditionally or freely. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/17/2005 6:31:58 AM | beady eyed? who you calling beady eyed...he,he...
no clue who made the decision of the definition but if that throws you there are a whole bunch of others that people have beefs about as well...
from Spain -> European or Hispanic?
caucasian or European descent?
if it makes you feel any better, i have heard some people use the distinction of West Asian. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/17/2005 6:40:03 AM | | feel your pain lostwords and wish you the best of luck. i concur at least for the next 2 yrs. figure my resolve will weaken by then and curiousity will win out. by that time, may be open to the arranged thing. eew! | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 8/17/2005 8:42:35 AM | Is arranged marrige as bad as commonly believed? Let's look at some facts.
Regular dating: over 50% divorce rate in North America.
Arranged marrige: much much lower divorce rate.
When you marry someone, you marry the person's family and past. It is imporant to marry someone with suitable background. So why is so wrong to have arranged marriage? | |
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