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Posted: 8/12/2005 3:31:40 PM | Wow...forums right up my alley!!
OK< a challenge. I am a heavy man. While I have never really judged women for size, I get it all the time.
I am NOT perfect. I am heavy. Thin, very attractive women will NOT even think of dating me. I hear these SAME women say "Its in the personality"....and yet, unless your built like a wedge, you don't get within a mile of these women.
I do have a great personality. I am honest to the point of fault, and extremely open. I have many good looking lady friends who LOVE to be with me....as a FRIEND. Even on some dating sites...including ones I have paid for, even when I tell them what type of person I would like to be with, I am sent to ones not even CLOSE to who I am or anything in common with me or them. WHile I might get along with that person, I won't have a connection.
To be fair, here is who I would like to date: Tall, thin to volumtious, brunette, hairy (Unshaven, hairy arms, belly, backside, etc....don't go Ewwwwwww either. Shaven women are Ewwww to me..like little girls.) with brown eyes. Gotta have a great personality, and open minded, honest, and trustworthy.
Now, lets see ONE of you even close to that respond who would even be the SLIGHTEST bit interested in me.
The above is my description of "perfect".....All of the above are "variables." I still like tall women though.
Now, lets see how many WOMEN will tell me they would be interested in a heavy man. Don't give me the "Drop a hundred pounds" speech either please.
Well? Lets see the responses!! Interested. 
Take care!
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| OK< a challenge on the weight thing....
Posted: 8/12/2005 3:42:46 PM | Good luck bro...
Women are all liars when it comes to that stuff. You're right, they talk about personality, but see how many of them are with heavy dudes. You can be skinny, and covered with tatoos and piercings. You can be skinny and toothless. But don't have an extra pound.
But I guess you may have to come to the same realization that I did...
The game is what it is. You can't change it by voicing opposition. Women like thin
men, so you must become eligible to play. I am working on that myself. Good luck
my friend.
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Posted: 8/12/2005 4:19:28 PM | | well. . .I know that the biggest problem that you'll find is finding a **hairy** woman. Most women just don't like the feeling..like me...but to each their own. I will admit that a lot of girls don't like bigger guys. Especially since a lot of guys tend to go for the really pretty girls without giving some of the more normal females a chance. I'm not saying all guys do this...but lets face it...how many guys out there are gonna pick a plain jane over a porn star at first glance?? I'll admit that a lot of girls are the same way. Unfortunately. I personally could not stand being with some one who was extremely muscular or very thin. I just don't like those body types. I love chunky teddybear types. That's just me. I know that there are also other girls who like that same body type. I think that guys shouldn't be so picky and look for supermodel/pornstar body types...give us **normal** girls a chance too. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 4:19:37 PM |
Women are all liars when it comes to that stuff.
Not all women are liars. There are some cultures that view being overweight as a sign of great wealth. Maybe if you are a jolly fat man (like me!) you might consider searching in another part of the world. Once you weed out the golddiggers, there are some really nice prizes. Some will say you are buying love and condemn you (and me) but I have been very impressed with the morals, values, and attitudes I have observed.
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Posted: 8/12/2005 4:31:31 PM | | Hey I know how it is about having people not want to date you because you are too heavy. So I started being careful about what I ate, and started getting more exercise, and I lost weight. Now I have plenty of guys interested in me and asking me out. There are still some who don't want to date me because they think I'm still too heavy though. Oh well, if not that, there would be some other reason. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 4:57:11 PM | OK< I guess the "Hairy" thing was overstated.......
Take out the hairy part, and leave all else. Personally, I don't care about hair color...as even though I prefer brunettes, I have dated WAY more blondes.
The whole thing was a "wish list" type thing. I date women who are way big and below. I guess my point is:
There are guys who would KILL for a heavy woman. There are guys who like Chunky and such...
BUT...I have yet to see or ever meet a thinner woman who likes a big man.
That was my point. ;-)
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Posted: 8/12/2005 5:32:32 PM | Hey Ace,,I have never heard so much truth in my life, They all claim to want someone that will love them for who they are but god help them if the guys have a few extra pounds,, I have a few extra pounds myself, I would treat a woman like gold,, I am a old romantic, send Red Roses to the work place once I get to know them,, just because I want them to feel like someone actually cares about them. I love the chubbier women to, I am not and have never looked for a Barbie doll, too much hassle, and I know most of them, not all of them are being swamped by the dudes with the 6pack stomach and they just want to be friends with guys like us,,I love normal women who do not mind if they have or you have a bit of love handles, big whoop,.
I am glad someone put up a forum like this, I know the women will say what about me and my selections,, well here they are.
1. Good attitude
2. A bit of meat on their bones. BBW
3. Must be working or atleast going to school.
4. Not a glamor queen.
5. Sense of humor
6. Not expecting perfection
7. And willingness to talk if they have a problem.
8. Must be able to dress according to their weight. No spandex, Speedos, as I know I would not look good in them because of my weight, so there.
9. Not alot of makeup.
10. Pretty much just someone who I can get along with and not fight with or bicker over stupid things.
Anyways I hope I have not offended anyone as none was meant to anyone.
Thanks Ace for putting up this Forum,,from a fellow chubby guy.
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Posted: 8/12/2005 5:57:04 PM | Wow...this is refreshing!
If all heavier women grew up hanging aroung with guys like you, we'd all feel so much better about ourselves instead of feeling like we have to lose the extra weight to be accepted like the skinny girls.
Me, I like a big teddy bear of a guy, as long as he's living a healthy lifestyle, has a good sense of humour about himself....
Don't worry guys, their are girls out their that appreciate your viewpoint....You'll find someone who will adore you! | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 6:19:30 PM | | Well crayola..I see two definitely jaded guys, and the other (two) are fine...sometimes you have to wonder what happened to them to make them as jaded as they are. They were probably dating really skinny women who jerked them around.... | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 6:23:04 PM | | Thanks kristamaureen I cannot help it to me bbws are just awsome and WOWOW are they awsome in bed,,everything moving ,,yum,yum,,,no tight skinny bodies for this man,,only the real deal here. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 10:09:36 PM | You all do realize that fat women DO jerk men around too right? It's not just skinny women. And that being fat doesn't make you better in bed or have a better personality or make your judgment and responsibility better or make you a 'real' woman.
I'm not saying it makes it any less possible, I'm just saying.
You're saying these men are jaded cause a skinny woman ****ed them over. Well for the men that are into skinny women..does that mean a fat woman ****ed them over??
And since when is a skinny woman not 'the real deal'? Are they pretend? They're real women too...just because they're not overweight that makes them less of a person?
You all sit there and **** about skinny people as a WHOLE. Talk about some major generalizing wow! | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 10:38:21 PM | | Being heavy is an advantage for a man because he can lay upon her with his full weight to keep her from running off to find someone else who doesn't snore as loud. I know this from experience. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 10:41:04 PM | In my experience some men just want the athlethic/thin types. (mostly the already thin men) I'm not saying all of them.. but I will talk to guys and they seem to love my personality.. but as soon as they find out that I am not a size 5... they are not interested anymore.
Weight is not everything ... it does not define who someone is. ... in my opinion. | |
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| OK< a challenge on the weight thing....
Posted: 8/12/2005 10:55:18 PM | Morning theace.
"Now, lets see how many WOMEN will tell me they would be interested in a heavy man. Don't give me the "Drop a hundred pounds" speech either please."
I would be interested! | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 11:03:03 PM | I think there are a few hundred threads about this and isn't it always determined that everyone has their own personal preferences?
I am a BBW who has been attracted to all sorts... tall and thin, or short and chubby. Weight is not always a deciding factor!!
Its been said before and I will state it again: if you are not happy with your weight, hit the gym!!
And lets stop making generalizations about people based on their weight!! *karma* nailed it. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 11:10:32 PM | might be hard to fit parts if one person is heavy.... unless the guy is super-endowed or something.
everyone is attracted to different things, not all women want the same thing, nor do all men. but if a guy is carrying a beer baby and expects to date tall thin women, he's gonna get rejected a lot (I know men like this!). On the other hand I know women who date short, bald, fat men because they have lotsa $$$... | |
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Posted: 8/12/2005 11:21:25 PM | This entire post is contradictory.
YOU feel judged by your appearance so you make a post about how unfair it is that beautiful women won't date you?
As someone who stays in shape and takes pride in her appearance (I'm not goregous, but as least I make an effort), I'm annoyed when people who don't put out the same effort in their looks as I do whine about not being percieved as attractive.
YES, some people are born with model-good looks -- but very few. Most people who look good watch what they eat, exercise, and spend time and money on their hair, makeup, etc. If you don't want to invest that kind of effort into yourself, fine. But don't cry because people that DO take care of themselves won't want to date you. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 9:09:42 AM | | yourhuckleberry,,,,,, sure hope your looks don't fade after you have kids and get older.. keep up all the hard work.. and enjoy it now.. lol.. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 9:31:33 AM | | You have your preferences why shouldn't we! Everyone is attracted to many different things. I don't think you can even begin to put yourself or others in some category if you tried so just stop. I have known plenty of women who prefer a man with a man with a little meat (and they weren't overweight themselves) because for them it symbolizes "what a man should be". I guess basically I am saying that there is somebody out there for everyone keep looking and try not to be so generalizing. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 10:37:30 AM | | Personally, I'd prefer to meet people that put an effort in to who they are inside, not outside. Outside can be gone in a matter of minutes or days, while all that really remains is the inner beauty. And if you don't have that, you don't have anything. Just my humble opinion. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 10:43:07 AM | hallejuia popsicletoes
If one lets ones self go-that may be a slight problem-all probs have solutions.
A little beer belly or love handles can be worked off lol | |
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