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|So I guess I'm a little old school. I believe that there should be more than just a physical connection when having sex. When you are lying naked beside someone you should feel as if you are a part of that person, and when you are having sex with them there should be no way of telling where one ends and the other begins and the sex should last for hours, enjoying eachother's body. But hey that's probably just me an old school romantic. One night stands are over-rated and leave you with a fleeting feeling of satisfaction, but leave you empty in the end.|
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:35:01 AM
|yep your pretty old skool there ... sex doesn't have to involve emotion, sex is just sex ... attaching emotions to sex only causes you more heartache and trouble|
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:39:27 AM
|I'm sorry rat...I gotta side with the Fox in this.|
sex is just sex
Then we could all just f*ck a watermelon. *shrugs*
I'll take the first route anyday.
Fox..I'm with you.
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:39:32 AM
|and not attaching any emotions could lead to at the very least an itchy crotch, being flamboyant and promiscuous with your sexual lifestyle can lead to a razor and/or medicated cream. At least if there is emotion attached you take things a little slower and find out what you're getting, (hopefully).|
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:42:45 AM
|^ It can also lead to a baby born out of nothing but physical gratification and lust. (and one that is not the most supported in so very many ways)|
In the words of "The Black Eyed Peas":
Where is the love?
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:43:58 AM
|just because i don't need an emotional attachment to have sex with someone, doesn't mean i'm careless about my actions ... i get tested regularly and I ALWAYS wear protection ... that and I do my best to avoid women who do not practice safe sex ... a sure identifier is one that is willing to jump on yah without a rubber ... a few have tried .. none have succeeded ... and i walked out right afterwards. Sex for me is a form of pleasure, not emotional gratification. As a man, I have a very hard time developing an emotional attachment with a woman unless i've had sex with her ... soo if i followed your method then i'd never have sex.|
Life is too short to take things too slowly, like the women who want you to wait for months on end, sorry but quite frankly i don't have the time.
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:47:25 AM
|btw just wanted to add that I don't think you are wrong with what you say, quite the contrary thoes risks are taken regardless of weither there is an emotional attachment or not ... this is just how i live my life thats all.|
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:47:51 AM
|I have to say Foxtat2...You are wonderful.... a man that thinks old school, now a days, thats really rare. Thanks for being out their. |
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:49:42 AM
|Hey I understand your points rat but I've had the best sex of my life with a woman whom with I had a very close emotional relationship with and in the end it made the sex more physically pleasurable for the BOTH of us. when all you care about is the physical side often more than not it is only one person who is satisfied, otherwise one night stands would be more than one night. As well things like crabs, don't give a damn if you are wearing a rubber. I agree with frrosty too, My life is proof of his statement the difference is that, my son is my life, so sometimes good things can come from bad sex.|
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:50:40 AM
So I guess I'm a little old school. I believe that there should be more than just a physical connection when having sex. When you are lying naked beside someone you should feel as if you are a part of that person, and when you are having sex with them there should be no way of telling where one ends and the other begins and the sex should last for hours, enjoying eachother's body. But hey that's probably just me an old school romantic. One night stands are over-rated and leave you with a fleeting feeling of satisfaction, but leave you empty in the end.
I am so with you on this one. I am old fashioned to & no way should sex be considered just something you so like brushing your teeth every day. Sex should be something special with someone special.
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:53:57 AM
|sex whether it be emotional or physical is still basically the same in most of it's aspects, and each have their pros and cons. Physical can cause you too rush into things and come out with something unexpected. Emotional sex can blind you, love is like justice and sometimes they act the same way. Ty latina, I appreciate that, but don't count me a saint, I have a high sex drive and I have a time or too fallen to the temptation of physical needs.|
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:58:18 AM
|Sometimes there is no choice in the kind of sex you have, 'cause sometimes you think there is that connection, but it is nothing more than a mirage and next thing you know it is more difficult than you thought to leave. When sex dies... then so has the love. The sad thing is that sometimes true emotional sex is fleeting. Which is sad, because with true emotional sex there is no physical, the body disappears and love making is made with the soul. It is memories of the sex can last a lifetime.|
Posted: 8/13/2005 11:14:17 AM
this is just how i live my life thats all.
And may it be enjoyable and well my friend. I can not judge the way you live; not my life...my dude.
Good life to you my friend.
so sometimes good things can come from bad sex.
And thank God for that!! (looks up to see if someones listening)
Posted: 8/13/2005 11:20:43 AM
| cheers to everyone! Just don't get silly and do something like get someone's name tattooed on you after all the cheers are over with. lol|
Posted: 8/13/2005 11:31:30 AM
|see this is how differences of opinion should be dealt with ... none of this "I'm right, your wrong" bullcrap because (especially in cases like this) its a matter of personal opinion, personal desire and personal experience. As you mentioned in one of your responses foxtat that emotional sex can make you blind ... that has happened to me far too many times to count. Right now I'm at a point in my life where a relationship just isn't feasable for me right now however i do enjoy sex a lot ... soo i tend to keep it to one night stands or make the undestanding that it is just sex soo the women that i sleep with don't get hurt or feel that i'm leading them on ....|
Posted: 8/13/2005 11:40:41 AM
|Understandable and responsible, I too have been fooled enough times, and I agree that discussions should be entered into with an open mind and should never be made personal. Everyone's got an opinion and they should be respected. People without opinions are scared of being criticised. I went the opposite way from you, though. I was fooled over and over and I just got more picky. I don't mind messing around with a girl so long as it doesn't get into sex. Lust and love are too easily confused and the next time I have sex I want it to be amazing. I just am tired of wasting my energies on mediochre sex. to each of us our own.|
Posted: 8/13/2005 11:55:47 AM
|had my share of sex for the sake of copping a nut and had less when there are emotions involved. have decided if its just for copping a nut, might as well take it in hand and masterbate.|
Posted: 8/13/2005 11:57:34 AM
|lol, mother thumb and her four daughters are always on hand to lend their talents. LMFAO|
Posted: 8/13/2005 12:01:35 PM
the problems that i'm dealing with cannot be fixed if i am emotionally attached to someone, so thats why i'm not getting into relationships or requiring emotional attachments to sex. I agree that sex with love is more gratifying from an emotional standpoint, however personally i don't really notice the difference on the physical aspect ... i actually find it easier without emotions because i'm not afraid to try something new ... if the woman i'm with doesn't like it, well chances are i won't see them again LOL. Once i have my life figured out i'm sure my outlook will have changed somewhat ... i just don't want to deny myself something that i want to have.
Off Topic: ... do you happen to have a tattoo design that involves turntables and a mixer? I'm a DJ and extremely passionate about it, i wanna get a tattoo on my upper bicept to reflect that, what would you suggest ?
Posted: 8/13/2005 12:05:52 PM
|and after having her, you find out in a couple yrs that your dead, just havnt fallen over yet from the fatal infection she gave you because you just slept with the last 30 guys she had sex with.|
think about it dude
Posted: 8/13/2005 12:13:35 PM
and after having her, you find out in a couple yrs that your dead, just havnt fallen over yet from the fatal infection she gave you because you just slept with the last 30 guys she had sex with.
think about it dude
hence the reason why i take every percaution that is avaliable to men to date. I use condoms 100% of the time, i get tested regularly and i do have standards as to who i sleep with, i don't just sleep with any woman i meet ... i take the time to get to know them a little before doing that, for my saftey and for hers. Does it protect me 100%? Nope, however i am using every resource i have avaliable to me to allow me to do what i want to do. When the male birthcontrol pill becomes avaliable on the market, I will be taking it, as well as wearing a condom. Diseases can be transmitted regardless of the emotional/non-emotional attachment so don't assume that your method is fool proof either.
I have thought about it, and i feel that my approach is reasonable, you may feel different and thats fine, i respect your opinion ... however just relying on my hand for gratification just doesn't cut it.
Posted: 8/13/2005 12:16:06 PM
|hands dont get knocked up or spread diseases,lol, admitterly, your taking precautions|
Posted: 8/13/2005 12:21:23 PM
hands dont get knocked up or spread diseases,lol, admitterly, your taking precautions
yep, and if i happen to contract something at least i can be proud of myself for making the attempt to protect myself from everything i could ... as for children, i'm pro choice (not going to get into that argument here so please don't start ... this thread has been respectfull and enjoyable to participate in thus far, i know its a touchy subject for some but if you must comment lets keep it to if your pro choice or anti-abortion, thanks). If i had the option of getting a vasectomy right now I would, however since i am under the age of 35 and i'm single with no children there is not a doctor in Canada that will perform the surgery.