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Posted: 8/13/2005 3:16:35 PM | WE MET ABOUT JUNE SOMETIME. HAD CHATTED ON LINE FOR QUITE A WHILE. MET IN WPG FOR DRINKS AND DINNER. HE WAS CATCHING A FLIGHT LATER THAT NITE TO GO TO BUSINESS. WORKS OUT OF PROVINCE BUT APPARENTLY LIVES IN WPG. AFTER SPENDING ONE NIGHT TOGETHER, I DON'T HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN. UNTIL ABOUT A MONTH LATER. WANTS TO GET TOGETHER AGAIN, THIS TIME AT MY PLACE. I AM HAVING RESERVATIONS AS :
1. HE HAS NEVER REVEALED WHERE HE WORKS, 2. I HAVE NO PHONE NUMBERS TO REACH HIM. 3. COMPUTER IS ONLY SOURCE OF COMMUNICATION.
I'M BEGINNING TO WONDER IF HE IS DIVORCED? OR EVEN LIVES IN WPG?
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Posted: 8/13/2005 3:56:22 PM | ask him about these things.
I,m sick of the player label. I,ve been called it several times.
has he taken advantage of you. stuck you with the bill. did he say he only wants to be with you. than ****ed others. if not than he,s not a player.
just because a guy goes through volume doesnt make him a player. it,s his actions that do.
if it bothers you that much. why deal with him.
did you sleep with him on the first date?
if so you may very well be a booty call | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 4:00:54 PM | | He's probably married and wants a booty everytime he goin to ur town? ask him be straight forward with u, doesn't hurt and if he doesn't tell you well say I made other plans. BUt hopefuuly u will find out before anything does happen or already has | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 4:18:46 PM | | this sounds very fishy to me. Usually when people are honest they have no problems revealing things about themselves but to be so closed up sends a message he is hiding something. I suspect that A) he is married and/or B) he is just planning on this being a solely a sex thing. I think your intuition is already telling you something about this guy or you wouldn't be questioning his lack of revelations. DOn't ignore your little voice that is sounding off the warning bells in your head. It is the safest most reliable answer you can have. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 6:47:16 PM | protect yourself.
Maybe have a friend there when he comes and have her ask for his ID..just fir fun...but not.
(know what I mean?)
IT sounds as if he's playing....yes.
PLUS...he could be worse...so just protect yourself...ok? | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 11:18:15 AM | Update:
I agreed to meet him again, but in Wpg. not at my place. We had a nice long supper and evening walk down by the forks. I questioned him about things that were bothering me. Well he told me where he works, I can't phone him as there are just work phones and can't phone long distance. Does not have a cell phone. Phoning him at home, well, he was embarrased to say that he had no home. Home was Winnipeg because that's where his kids are that he comes to visit when he can. He even asked me out for the next evening. We went to Kildonan Park for a nice long walk, had a picnic there, then went out for dinner again. So we are taking things slowly and carefully. He's scared to hurt me because of the distance thing and can't really promise anything until he settles down somewhere permanent.
So thanks for some of the good advice.
As for travlngman - Whoa you are full of hostility buddy.
Why do you think people are labelling you player?? Hit a nerve? Sounds like you have a hate on for women.
Who mentionned that he was dating in volume? And I deal with him, because I really liked him. I never mentionned anything about sleeping with him. and if I did, that's none of your business. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 4:08:12 PM | sounds like he is married....truthly...I would be honest wit him & ask questions in person of course its better to see the reaction then to hear the reaction...you will get mixed messages on the computer or on the phone...meet him & be up front...you will know ....trust your intuition.... | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 4:12:03 PM | ^^^^^ have to agree !! ..
ask him or just move on and forget about it !! | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 4:22:23 PM | Married....
Hmmm....he has no phone ? C'mon !
Most businesses have 1-800 numbers. I know of almost none that cannot be called by anyone who wants to. That's how they stay in business to begin with.
No home ? No residential phone ? No cell phone ?
I only have a cell, because I don't want to pay two bills - and hate telemarketers.
I don't know ANYONE ( including some Montreal panhandlers - with cells. ) that has a life where they have no telephone. How does he pay his bills, or get reached by his bank or other suppliers of services ? How does his family reach him in an emergency ? Mail ?
No one does this, except the married ones....
Unless he is some time traveler from the 1850's - he is almost certainly married. Just trace back any telephone numbers in your phone records he has called you from - you can ( in most cases) find out exactly where he called from on the Internet. They will probably be from public phones.
At least I am willing to bet on that. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 4:25:59 PM | Imagine a place of business that doesn't have the ability to make long distance calls. (hello calling cards) Imagine a business man that doesn't have a way for anyone to reach him. Imagine if his children should be injured and they need to contact Daddy? how do they do that??.....imagine a man who basically stonewalls you when it comes to YOU being able to contact him. He works and has no cell phone?
Are ya with me on this?? It doesn't get much clearer than that.
If the fishin is good in a certain hole, you can be damn sure the fisherman's coming back for more.
Writing on the wall is so visible, don't get sucked in anymore than u have.
How convienent for him, don't u think? | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 4:26:51 PM | Sweetcheeks~ If your gut is telling you something is fishy... somethings fishy!
He shouldn't really tell you where he works... until you get to know eachother..
Computer is the ONLY form of communication???
He took a month to contact you??
I did go out with a guy recently that doesn't do cell phones.. I thought that was pretty crazy!
But .. Um if he has kids... how do his KIDS get ahold of him.. surely it is not just by computer.
That's great that he is spending some time with you.. if things still seem a bit off... you may want to do a background check.... If he's married you have a right to know.. before you get too deep. I would only do that if I thought I might get serious with someone..... | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 4:28:18 PM | Just tell him his wife called /e-mailed you....and wait for him to have a stroke. 
Sigh....
And women turn ME down for coffee....Lol.
I think I am going to become an "International Man of Mystery". | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 4:30:28 PM | | Sorry to say this hun but youre his cushy bed buddy when hes in town.....has no home phone because he has no home ??? LMAO come on....he can afford to fly here and there and take u to dinner but cant afford an apartment/room to rent or home.....seriously,rethink this, i had a guy try to pull this chit on me,saying he didnt want to hurt me and wasnt ready to be with me untill he could give me 100%...crock of crap, he was married !!!!! I hope you realize all of this before its to late,dont let him do this to you. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 10:33:39 PM | IMO ... i think he is just looking to get lucky... if he was interested he would be calling, getting to know you, telling you about himself as well.
I had one guy i used to talk to online all the time ..he was from the states but comes to toronto a couple times a month (said he was in sports entertainment)... he wanted me to be there for him when he was in town .... (at least he was honest) But i wouldnt do it lol There is no way im going to be some guys traveling booty call NO WAY!! | |
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Posted: 8/16/2005 5:28:52 PM | | sweeetcheeks; know what you mean. the man I met on here never revealed his "true address" of phone number. Same here, he says he "works from home" and seems to be available all the time at home on the internet. He has never revealed his address or phone number to me. I wonder what's up? all he talks about on the internet is how much "money he has, and how he "doesn't have to work....." what's up with that? who cares about that? does that make him feel "superior" and "quite a catch" I don't think so. cleo950 | |
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Posted: 8/16/2005 5:38:33 PM | | Sweeetcheeeks: please beware of this man....I've been "sucked in" by men on this site. He's probably married, or doesn't give a damn. He's probably just after a piece ofA__, and you are too good for him. I've been through too much of this S___. Just protect yourself and your feelings darlin. Cleo950. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2005 5:47:24 PM | | abrolutely, Jesiebunnies, LISTEN TO YOUR INNER VOICE, if he sound too good to be true, then he is. (not true) He is probably feeding you a line of bull____ to get you into bed. believe me. I just went though this in the last few days. Be true to yourself, and believe you are worth MORE THAN THAT (A PLAYER, AND LIAR.) CLEO950....EMIAL ME IF YOU WANT. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2005 5:53:11 PM | | HELLO...he's a buisness man who travels and gets booty on the road. whether he's divorced or married your not the only one. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2005 6:07:06 PM | | TO JESIEBUNNIES: listen TO YOU INNER VOICE. i didn't, and was date raped by a person i met on this site. He not only did that, but attacked, my character by saying , the next morning that i was a "slob" and didn't clean my baseboards, and, "wipe my cabinets down in my house. He had lied to me saying that His car was "wrecked" an hour before we met at a restaurant, and he had to "take a taxi tothe restaurant' to meet with me. So I stupidly took him to my home, very close to the restaurant" to call someone to take him home. Well, the rest is history, and i have reported every time since to POF administration. So, beware....who you actually "meet" on this site. There are many perverts, and "sick" persons, so I would suggest if you do actually "meet" with someone, that you make sure a family member be there in the restaurant, or a good friend and follow you home. Good luck cleo950 | |
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Posted: 8/16/2005 6:18:32 PM | | Frrosty: I am probably the most nAIVE person here. i actually met with a person i met on POF. HE WAs a complete "pervert" after feeling me up in the restaurant, he suggested we "go ome" he had given me this "story about his truck" being "wrecked by his son" an hour before we met. he told me when i arrived at the restaurant that he had taken a "taxi" to the restaurant" Now, Frrosty, just how dumb am I. don't answer that.I already know.....God help ke. I need it. I am too damned trusting of people. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2005 6:45:57 PM | Sounds like a player to me......and believe me I know a few!.....
Cleo....that sounds really scarry.....I have also met a few people from POF....but I am also thinking that this may not be such a good idea any more after reading your story. They can tell you anything they want.....they can be anywhere they want to be.....and there is absolutely no way of knowing if they are being truthful! God knows if they've got a woman in every port......I am a very trusting person too......and I certainly don't want to put myself in any kind of danger.......
Get to know the person first I guess.....wether it be chatting online and phone calls.......and definately meet them in public....but if they are just popping in and out of you life......whenever it is convenient.......perhaps......it's time to move on......forget about it......and find yourself a hero........but do it the safe way! | |
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