| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 12:59:57 AM | I think every few years I see a girl and think about her for a few weeks, but then it eventualy goes away and is replace by a new girl :)
I just find it weird, how we fall in love with someone we never even spoke too, heck they could be serial killers all we know. | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 1:15:30 AM | Hmm plenty of people do, why do you think chicks guys love guys on tv? Are you telling me there not in love with those guys, and would probably do anything for them?
I wouln't say I fall in love with them, but I like them and want to fall in love with them
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 8:44:41 AM | Well alot of people believe in love at first sight..I can't exactly say that I've ever felt that after meeting someone for the first time, or seeing someone walk down the street...But I'm sure it happens. There have been times where after talking to someone on the phone for the first time, or during our first date..that I feel an instant connection with them, and them with me. I wouldn't call it love though..I think when that happens I feel like we could be really great friends or maybe fall in love one day. When you fall in love you just know it, you want to spend every morning waking up to their face, when you look in their eyes the rest of the room becomes blurry because all you can see is them, you want to comfort them, and be there for them, share your life with them..the good times and the bad *sighs* wishing I were in love right now lol...anyways this did nothing to answer your question, I'm sorry lol Just wanted to tell you that I think I know what you meant by that.  | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 9:14:41 AM | Knowing someone inside out is like reading a good book. I think it is possible to fall for the person between the pages before you fall for someone between the sheets. You become interested in the content, and don't rely on pictures to keep you entertained.
So, is love a good part appreciating who someone is? If so, then there is plenty of room to get a head start by correspondence and phone calls. Then there are practical matters like a first kiss, you can't do that by email. | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 9:25:08 AM | | When you love someone, you care about every aspect in their life, you love them even when they haven't brushed their teeth yet that morning. Infatuation is enjoying just what you have been exposed to, like the way a woman talks, her accent, her curves, the way she walks and so on. Love is the completed circle of infatuation. It doesn't happen at first sight, otherwise I would be in love every hour, I live in the city! | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 10:00:51 AM | Youre not in love DUDE, youre in LUST..and yes..thats easily replacable by another person..there are plenty of people to lust after out there.
LOVE is a different thing...its hard to find and when you do..it should be treasured. | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 1:03:14 PM | You know, it was funny, I was just cruising POF and there was this GUY, he was so handsome and I thought OMG I LOVVVVVE this guy. I got in touch with him and we talked for hours. It was great, he was wonderful and we had so much in common. We laughed and talked into the wee hours of the night and I had butterflies, and I went to bed with his face imprinted in my mind. We talked again the next day and then on the phone. I was in love. In LOVE? HOW? But he had me at hello, pardon the pun. I am a med student and I don't have time to meet anyone and he was pushing me to meet him, really pushing me.
I finally had to hang up my dancing shoes and block him and now I sit here trying not to click on his profile with all my might, trying to forget him. I'm busy enough, that's for sure, but what if he was the one. He says he wasn't in love with me and it was impossible until you can feel their breath and touch their lips.
But I believe in every way in love at first write. And sight. Totally. | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 1:07:20 PM | OK now that I'm reading everyone else's input I feel like a fool. Stupid. Please don't read what I've just written. You all think I'm crazy. So if it was infatuation I'll forget him without a second thought. Boy I'm glad you all know the truth. Thank you. Whew.
It's nice to know that this bleeding heart I have isn't real.
Good.
Thanks guys | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 11 | |
| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 1:13:39 PM | why in the world would you cut him off if you felt that way? sure he might have pushed but it was becasue you two hit it off.. I don't understand that.. personaly i would feel i was being teazed and i would be hurt that i was cut off.
if you both felt that way.. you saying this yourself? why end it?
I'm confused.. | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 1:16:07 PM | too late faraway..we read it and I have to agree with Jimi
well obviously we have to determine what love is? The problem with the english language unlike others is that we only have one word for a myriad of emotions. Love of a child, a pet, a brother, mother etc are all different emotions than romantic love.
We can form an attachment to someone which maybe some people call love but most of us realise that to have a deep feeling of romantic love means all our senses have to be involved and an online meeting only uses sight.
I must say though that sometimes you can learn a lot more about someone's inner person from an online chat or a phone chat than a face to face because people can be less shy and more forthcoming when they aren't looking you in the eye with the possibility of feeling embarassment. | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 1:22:03 PM | Love at first sight-is possible and there has been a forum similiar to this already..
Your young -you call it puppy love.
Your grown -you call it a crush.
your a very mature adult -you call it Infatuation
You are hopelessly feeling the chemistry-that's lust
You feel like you could just die if he doesn't phone you and he is all on your mind-something's going on..
I too seen someone on here-and had to show my g-friend his pic..I said I love this guy!
There's is some magical click of a romance button that turns on in our head-who knows why..
then the fantasy or image of that person can change on the events of encountering some conflicting personality.
Love still evolves and it sure does help this world survive | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 1:47:06 PM | I was going to say "cut the kid some slack" but then clicked on the profile and realised you were 28 instead of 18....
anyway that's not love hun, that's "infatuation"! and yeah of course you can have a crush on someone you don't know but that is not love. | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 2:16:25 PM | I have this job/school (med school) in which I go in at 7 am and if I am lucky I make it home at about 2 or 3 am and get my 4 hours of sleep... I don't have time for romance. I make it perfectly clear that I want to email/chat and I didn't mean to run into this guy. I wasn't ready to fall face first. I just needed time to get myself together and figure out some time I could have off but he was pressing me and I felt that I had to cut him off.
Maybe you don't understand why I did it, but he was like, meet me, I'll wait 4 hours for you for 15 minutes and I was so uneasy about it, I don't know why...
I don't know why.
Maybe it's the inner me telling me something.
Oh well. I'll never know now.
But you guys are right. You are. | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 17 | |
| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 2:28:44 PM | sounds like ya freaked out a bit, got scared and backed off it.. That’s cool I think we all do that from time to time.. I noticed in your profile its stated clear about your intentions.. That is fair enough..
I will say it's a shame to have a lot in common and not at least see what happens. but we all have out priority’s
I cant say i haven’t had to block a few before.. Although it was because they where Coo Coo..and I mean nuts LOL..and | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 2:40:10 PM | faraway - relax... It doesn't matter if 'we' are right, or 'you' are right - what happened, happened, and it's all cool. The thing that struck me the most was that despite all of the 'connection' and 'chemistry' you say there was something about the whole situation that made you feel 'uneasy'. It sounds like that was the key to doing the block as much as your schedule, and not having time, etc.
Sometimes our feelings are all we have to go on, and if you trust yours, then you probably did the right thing. | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 20 | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 3:17:23 PM | | I guess the problem with POF is it's like a smogasbord of people to meet. You try one tasty dish and it's great, but the other flavours are just waiting and easy to access. I guess in the old traditional way of meeting people you treasure each person more, because connecting is difficult and rare. I'm having a harder and harder time trusting men I meet online. They start out acting really interested and attentive but then you become "last weeks flavour" and they yank the rug out from under you. Ouch! Are there any non-game players out there. | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 3:41:26 PM | I do believe in love at first site... although i believe its a mixture of some infatuation and some love.. whether that grows or not.. is up to the both of u.
I am madly in love with a man that i only see on occasion... i know i cant have him, i swear im in love with him, but... would i love someone that doesnt feel im worthy of seeing him outside of the bedroom? hmmm... its a weird situation.. yet i still feel absolute love for him...
i guess one day he will see what hes lost.. most likely when he needs me most or realises im the ONE.. and im long gone.... | |
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| Why do we fall in love with people we don't know?
Posted: 8/14/2005 3:45:57 PM | | Mixedupprincess, If a man loves you he won't just want to see you on occasion, or always in bed. I used to make that mistake, falling for a guy who gives nothing and takes everything. He'll never changes, as user is as a user does. Seeing through the charm bs of these charletons is essential. | |
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