| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/18/2005 4:53:55 PM | Just wondering... I have been a divorced single mother for 11 years now ( OMG it has been a long time) I only have the one child who is now 13 and a very well behaved good little man.
I have been in 3 long term relationships since my divorce ( no live in's and no integration with my child) in the past year I have avoided getting into another LT as I am really wanting to figure this dating thing out once and for all.
The one thing I have noticed is that over the past decade I have only ever dated single men with no children that have never been married ........ is this odd or what? where do all the single fathers hide? it would be nice to finally meet someone I have something in common with. Does anyone else have this problem? or is it just the fact that I have no idea where to find these people? | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/18/2005 5:12:40 PM | | I know what your saying. I wonder if it all has to do with the fact that we have been divorced and are maybe (somewhere in the back of our minds) pushing away the possibility of having a relationship works out properly. is it trust ? hell I dont know. We single fathers don't hide its just a little tuffer for us to get out and be noticed. The duty of fatherhood as motherhood is always beconning us. cheers and good luck | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/18/2005 5:22:58 PM | | your not the only one by a long shot, I have no idea where to look either, I can only get single women(no kids and some with) to date and then once my son gets mentioned, well lets just say i'm still single. anyway good luck and if your ever find where the good ones are hiding drop me a line. lol | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/18/2005 5:32:36 PM | | your right, I have met a lot of wonderful single moms her on this forum, just none anywhere near West Texas. Maybe I should move? lol | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/20/2005 10:38:14 AM | I find that as far as attracting SF w/no kids is a feat unto its self. I have been online dateing for 9 months now and the only F who contact me (1st contacts) are single moms. The only repeat dates are single moms. THis only applies to online though. I have had several dates with F /no kids but I have found I need to meet them 1st and establish a base level of communication (cant seem to do it online).
Yes I pefer dating single moms, they seem to have a greater sense of themselves and are hardened / softened by being a single mom. They also respect the position of caregiver and role of parent far more than a just out of the bar scene 25 year old college grad. Not to mention way more sexually mature. LOL  | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/20/2005 11:55:06 AM | Wouldn't it be nice if the single fathers came out from wherever they are hiding?
I would much rather date a single father myself, just because that way they understand my position of my son coming first, and they also understand that I don't have the room for a leech that needs every waking minute of my day for themselves in my life (That looks awfully crude in writing, but is nevertheless the truth).
Wish I knew where they were hiding...Time to start lifting rocks to check I guess...
Cheers!
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/20/2005 12:08:27 PM | personally i haven't found it a problem at all
in fact it seems to almost work in my favor, being a single dad
in most cases once they find that out the are more attracted
i think for most dads(obviously not the dead-beat variety) it shows a level of responsiblity and maturity that alot of women seem to be drawn to
although i am pretty fresh on the scene as a single-dad, only earning that status a few months ago, so who knows | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/21/2005 12:05:11 AM | Oh yea...
I am a single father and i would rather date single mothers... I have dated both single mothers both divorced and not divorced as well as women with no kids and have found that the women with kids have a different set of goals as well as just a different mind set than the other women. It seems to be more down my road. Who knows, just an observation...
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/21/2005 12:30:12 AM | I've dated a quite a few women over the past few years and all but two have been single mothers. I'm a single father. Dating a single mother is just a fact of life. Women without children seem to be much less tolerant of the issues I face scheduling time around my daughter. They also feel free to interject their advice, albeit with zero parental experience, on how to raise my child.
No... I'd rather date a single mother. Now, that brings up another issue. I've dated women that I really liked, but their kids were holy terrors. I found myself fast-forwarding wondering what life would be like with these demons in my house full-time.
It's all so very complicated! I need a beer.  | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/21/2005 2:32:14 AM | Well there are many of us out there.I am one.Been a single daddy for 16 years and I am DAMN PROUD of it. In the beginning it was difficult I had lots of help but after 3 months i was doing it on my own.
I think single custodial fathers would be better mates for the single mothers.We know what its like to tackle a huge laundry monster all the time.We know and understand that parents need 6 arms not 2.We understand the sleepless nights one goes thru.And we understand why once in the blue moon,why dinner got burn't. Also we know all the trails and tribulations single moms go thru.
Saying that,we know the joys of parent hood too.The special times ,the hugs,the endearing moments that presents itself.
Its not easy to be 2 parents wrapped in one.
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:49:59 AM | | I'm a single father and I'd only date a single mom. Only a single parent understands what it means to put a child first and why, sometimes, you can't drop everything and run off somewhere for a weekend. As well, when you have a child, it changes you, you are less self-involved, more patient and more giving. | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:12:23 PM | vancouver37, come to California.
I've been single for 10 years, and the only guys I've met were single dads.
They just pop up left and right here.
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:23:20 PM | Vancouver37..
Well it's hard to beat Texas, and trust me there are plenty of single fathers down here, and trust me the weather is hard to beat I came here from Alaska and I can tell you there is just something about wearing t-shirts in December. lol, Anyway keep you head up, there will be someone for you where ever you are, your to sweet tomiss for long. | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/22/2005 8:14:31 AM | | Well it is nice to hear that people are meeting people that have a common interest. I should say that the men without children I meet are great , I just always found it so curious that I never meet these Mystery Single Fathers. | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/22/2005 8:31:09 AM | | Is this a YES or NO question? It is written like that, and there is no right answer really. Some will, and some wont, depending on the circumstances I imagine. Some guys either dont like kids, dont want kids around, or dont want to share the mother he is dating for affection. Then there are those guys who absolutely love kids being around, maybe they too are a father and understand single parents. So its quite a loaded question someone has asked. For myself, I love kids, they can make you laugh, they have incredible sense, they are fun at times, and they are our future as well. I have dated a few ladies with children, and its amazing to see how different mothers have different ideas of how to raise children. I have seen some really spoiled kids, some kids that are rude and swear like a sailor and get away with alot, and then there are those mothers who truely give it all in love and understanding being firm yet tolerable. Being a mother is a hard job and I applause all the single mothers out there. Would I date a single mom, you bet, as long as the kids have good manners and can accept mom having a life as well. | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/22/2005 4:55:04 PM | i agree...
it is near too impossible to know where to look these days...
and even if and when u arent looking - how come noone comes to u?
Seriously how do u meet someone if ppl are afraid to come up to u when u are out at stores with ur kids (or alone for that matter), and u dont hang out at bars, and really dont have money for dating match thing in your city...??
Not that there is ONE answer...
But if its more than just me asking and wondering, than theres got to be an answer or solution somewhere
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/22/2005 7:25:27 PM | I prefer to date single moms. But also enjoy the freedom of dating ladies with no kids. I do shared parenting so I have a week on and a week off. The week off is great, and it can be rough matching ‘days off’ when both have kids.
Off Topic: Why do ladies still look at us single dads who are waiting for our daughters to come out of the bathroom in the malls like we are all a bunch of perverts???? | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/28/2005 4:24:02 AM | | wELL I AM GLAD TO HERE SOME MEN DATE SINGLE MOMMA'S ! I HAVE 2 CHILDREN AND ADHD CHILD, MY KIDS ARE 13 AND 11, THEY BOTH WANT ME TO FIND AOMEEONE WITH CHILDREN THERE AGE! THAT IS JUST DIFFERENT FOR MY KIDS TO WANT ME TO FIND SOMEONE WITH KIDS | |
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