| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 4:43:22 AM | | I just wondered if ethnicity is really that much of an issue these days. I can understand if ppl don't feel comfortable or stress over dealing with cultural and or ethnic differences but is this really an issue? Just curious | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 5:23:10 AM | | Is this to controversial a thread? I just wanted to try and get an honest response. I don't think this makes anyone a racist. | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 5:25:34 AM | | Not at all. I think theres a lot of really sexy black woman out there. Id be tickled to date one myself. What the hell,,,I did a Canadian | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 6:22:48 AM | at that hour of the morning, how did you think you were going to get any response within an hour???
it's not an issue for me, but everyone has their preferences. | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 6:40:00 AM | | Doesn't matter to me either....but there are features or qualities that I prefer that may not be common amongst certain ethnic groups. Some peoples are shorter, some have too predominent features, etc. When your first preference is the way they treat you, then it doesn't matter what colour their skin is. And if you like a tall man, it doesn't matter what his ethnicity is...as long as he can hold you tight! | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 6:43:40 AM | | Nikita,,,You looking for needle dink the bug ****er? | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 6:46:27 AM | Quit giving away my preferences Mister...or I m going to have to hiss some flames at you!! | |
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DKD15
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Joined: 4/18/2005
Msg: 8 | |
| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 6:49:05 AM | | If she gives me that feeling inside then thats all that matters. Dosent matter to me what her skin colour is or her religion. | |
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Enig
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Joined: 12/18/2004
Msg: 9 | |
| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 8:24:10 AM | | Pat: Well I wouldn't call it an issue as it isn't one for me, but sure I have my preferences when dating so that does leave some ethnicities out but I wouldn't consider that being racist because of that fact in the least. | |
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~KC~
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Joined: 5/10/2005
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 8:28:58 AM | I've date different nationalities and was in a long term relationship with someone from a different culture. It is an adjustment dependent on what culture/ethnicity it is ... but my biggest problem wasn't the man.. but my family... suddenly ... it was an issue and prejudices were sooo prevalent.. I had NEVER noticed before.
Like Enig.. I have my preferences which does leave some ethnicities out.. but that is simply preference. | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 8:39:47 AM | my personal viewpoint is .... life has a variety of things to offer..so why not experience it.
I myself come from a mixed origin which gives me the best of all words both european and asian.... and im proud of it! Although I will say I am Canadian first!
I think opinions are changing as far as what people are are looking for. The diversity we have to offer in Canada is amazing...and we are fortunate for it.
I also do find that some women wont even talk to you because of their own biases and stereotypes...but my feeling on that is....you don't know what your missing!
Overall a woman with confidence, an open mind, knows how to have fun and be considerate....wins over..whatever her race or religion :) | |
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Posted: 8/20/2005 8:51:23 AM | | Yes, for sure it is a issue, but not for the reason it used to be. Physical attraction wise ceratin people are attracted to certain kinds of people. Some short, some tall, some black, some asian and other ethenic groups. Does not mean they are racist? I don't think it does, it is just what they are attracted too. Maybe superficial if you can accuse them of anything. There are certain myths of attractions out there. For example black guys like big women. Asain girls are the in thing now for white guys. lol. | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 11:13:48 AM | I have dated different men from different backgrounds. Never was an issue with me, it is just what or who you prefer. There are some men from some ethnic groups I have never shown any interest in. I don't think it has anything to do with their background, but attraction.
I don't care if a man is pink with purple polka dots, as long as I am attracted to him, and he to me, I will go out with him! | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 2:12:02 PM | I truly believe that regardles of ethnicity, colour, creed, race what ever there are sexy people who I will be atracted to and then there are those that I won't be attracted to. It's a pity that some folks just don't walk on the wild side a bit more.
Not being attracted to a specific individual who happens to be different is NOT being racist. | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 3:52:11 PM | i think ppl should date whomever they want to date, but don't expect me to take a walk on the 'wild side' lol
--matt | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 4:48:46 PM |
don't expect me to take a walk on the 'wild side'
um, matt?
the kinky thread is 4 doors down on your left!!!
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 5:00:05 PM | I don't mind what ethnicity a lady is .
If I like her I will go out with her !.
So yes I don't mind what color her skin is or what ethnic back ground she has either .
It is the lady herself and nothing else that decides if I will or will not got out with her!
There is not any lovely lady out there I would not date.
That is if her & I wanted to go out or even date it would not matter what culture she is from or what country or what language she speaks as long as we love being together thats what counts .As long as she lives close enough so we can date thats the only thing I would ever think about .
firmbear8 | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 6:49:24 PM | | Same with me. It's the personality that counts. I don't know how many people actually take the time to get to know the person because they first see the pic and just move on. Sad but they may be missing out on someone special | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 8:25:12 PM | Yeah Pat I hear you there !
And some see if a guy smokes or not even before they will contact him or not.
Seems no matter how nice this old 49 guy is most ladies don't even give me a shot to try to find out who the real man is behind my profile! Let alone lone ever dare to meet me even for a cup of coffee!
So yes it is saddening I can say! But I just keep wishing that just some day I will pop on here and some lovely lady will take interest in me . | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 8:48:04 PM | | it it was an issue TODAY I would be very disappointed at our society......come on people...its hard enough to meet someone you connect with...who cares the color of their skin or the god they pray to......to each their own | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 10:04:23 PM | I hate to be a bubble-burster or put a negative spin on this, but to do anything less would be naive. I'd also like to state upfront that the beliefs I speak of here are NOT my own, but they do exist.
In some circles, ethnicity and dating issues still exist in our society. There are cultures out there that have a lot of historical hatred for one another based on years of conflict. As a result, it is very difficult for two people from cultures on "opposite sides of the fence" to date.
For example, my basement tenant is a black man. And he's a great guy...pays his rent on time, quiet, would give you the shirt off his back, never causes anyone any issues.
He dated, and eventually married, an Italian woman. But the family rejected him outright. They wouldn't talk to him, he wasn't allowed to attend certain functions, and many of them refused to attend the wedding.
In fact, they hated him so much that they wouldn't even allow his daughters (the mother of whom was the Italian woman) into their houses until they were 3-4 years old. They ended up splitting up last year, and the lack of acceptance by the Italian family was a big factor.
I dated a girl who was half-Guyanese for a while, and her Guyanese family wouldn't even talk to me.
One of my best friends, a white guy, is dating a girl from Trinidad and Tobago and her relatives have already rejected him.
Heck, I'm dating a girl now that's Assyrian and her relatives wouldn't say two words to me until I fixed their computers (and sometimes not even then.)
That reminds me...I really oughta update my profile. heh :)
Anyway...that's my thoughts. The sad truth of the matter is that prejudicial factors still exist in our society. | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/20/2005 10:38:30 PM | Yes I agree about some cultures still have strict rules on who can date who.
Like minonites they have this kind of rule so I am told . | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/21/2005 6:21:59 AM | Hi Firmbear,
You sound a lot like me in many ways. All I can say is hang in there and maybe just maybe people like us will find the special kind of person and relationship we seek. Guys like you give me courage. Makes me realize that I am not alone.
Iwish you all the best bub.
Pat | |
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ccv
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Joined: 8/18/2005
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/21/2005 8:47:33 AM | | hi pat.. im probably going to get hate mail for this but..This is my opinion..I have dated guys from saude,portugel.jamaica, mexico, and africa. Muslin, jewish ,and catholic.At the dating level i found it fun, but trying to move to the next level was diffucult primarilly due to cultural differences | |
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| Dating and ethnicity
Posted: 8/21/2005 9:48:45 AM | | I've never really thought of ethnicity as an issue. If I'm interested in a woman it doesn't occur to me to wonder about her ethnic background. | |
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