| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 6:56:06 AM | I have noticed when you ask a women what she likes to do or what hobbies she has. A lot of women answer this way,
ALITTLE BIT OF THIS OR THAT or ALOT OF THINGS.
These two answers are just a mind games. How do us men find out if we have common interest or likes, when they answer a question this way. Alot of women make it hard for us to communicate. Women why do you do this?
Or in their profiles the Ladies leave their hobbies or interests blank.
The key to a good relationship or friendship is communication.
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 6:59:49 AM | Because women aren't usually like men in that they have so much time to be involved in their hobbies. It depends who you are talking to. If you are talking toa single mother, hell no, she hasn't got much time for hobbies...too many responsibilities.
If she says she likes a lot of things, she's probably right. Take her at her word. Ask her if skydiving is one of them.
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 7:09:16 AM | | Why can't they answer the question properly, because knowing what you have in common is a good key to whether the relationship will work out Blastkist. For example I love board and card games and dancing. I would not date some one who did not have one of these interests. I do have many more interests. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2005 7:24:35 AM | | LOL I'm sorry u think it's mind games but maybe it's just they want to see how much of an interest u actually do have in them. I get hundreds of msgs and sometimes it gets frustrating when ppl ask the same questions but then again I must admit unlike when I first joined dating sites I don't every msg I get now... I hope that u find a special woman who loves communicating with u tc :) | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 7:25:42 AM | Perhaps they would rather not at that point, or can't pinpoint one. Also some people think their hobbies are stupid to other peeps, so maybe they are waiting to see what sort of character you'll be.
My interests are commonly frowned upon, so I will keep them to myself until people know me a bit better, then they'll be less likely to judge me based on interests and not my character. Frankly I'm sick of the preaching when people do find my hobbies, and decide to "educate" me on them, as if I didn't already know.
Just show a little faith and patience and the opening will come. Too many reason to picky why they won't answer it "right". But until they actually say so, you don't have a right to know anything. People are just scared. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 7:37:39 AM | Smoochiegal. How do you know what you have in common with this person. As over 50% of the women on POF, leave this catagory blank. You have to have a point to start some where in conversation other than sex. If you don't know what you have in common, where do you go from there. that leaves sex.
I just viewed your ad. And I know we have dancing and puzzles in common. Well that area is left blank by a lot of women.
So we end up asking what kind of things or interests do you have, because we want to know so we can talk about something. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 7:42:50 AM | | Neohippy its a starting point in a conversation. The answer shows that the person is into mind games. Because it makes communication difficult. You have to find out what you have in common if you want a friendship or relationship to work. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 7:45:11 AM | | Why is everything we do & say considered a "mind game"? | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 7:55:41 AM | Trvlingman. I can't lower myself to that level. I want to get to know that person to find out if she is worth getting to know and ask out on a date.
Mind games aren't worth playing and are just another lie. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 7:58:38 AM | starting points are everywhere. past, present, news, environment, foods, habits, cars, bikes, tv, radio, newspaper.... damn the list is infinate. through conversation you find interests, not vice versa. that's so sterile. Put some effort and it will be well received and reciprocated. Everyone is sick of the "hi, how are you? what are your interests? wow, cool. mine include...."
Boring, spice it up, evade the status quo.
My convo starter? Hair obviously. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 7:59:01 AM | Fatty McFatFukk I viewed your ad you have interest in the hobbie area. So The question "What do you like to do?" is a question I would not ask you as that area is not left blank.
So everything you do or say is not considered a mind game. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 8:12:19 AM | why do women do it? do have to say that men do it too..its not all women ya know!
in answer to the question? havnt got a clue..if im asked a question i tend to answer it honestly and openly..unless they have dark ,sordid hobbies? | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 8:17:45 AM | neohippy, I can see what you're saying. Most people are way too judgemental.
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 8:37:40 AM | if she,s playing mind games she isnt worth getting to know
so play the game and have your fun | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 9:09:05 AM | I totally understand where you're coming from on this OP. Still, I'd hazard a guess that the guys do it just as much. I also wouldn't call it mind games either. It's just mental laziness to me.
You can be a single mother and still have interests unless people suddenly stop having any once the kid is born. Time to enjoy your hobbies is obviously going to be a lot harder to come by but the interests should still exist. The OP does have a point though. It's fair to say that you may need to dig a little but to answer the question of "What are your interests ?" with "The things I like." is pretty shiftless in the grey matter department. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 9:54:48 AM | Rocky, for many of us, relationships aren't based on our hobbies or interests. For some of us it is based on who we are and not necessarily just what we do.
I have yet to see backgammon save a marriage. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 10:10:05 AM | I get asked that question quite a bit, and my answer depends very much on how the question is asked. If a guy reads my profile, sees that he is clearly NOT what i'm looking for, (or doesn't eve bother to read my profile!) but decides to email anyway, I'm less likely to just volunteer personal info. Also, if I'm really not sure that I'm at all interested in him and he just starts firing questions at me, without telling me anything about himself, I'm much more likely to be vague in my answer. I think you're much better off to mention some of your own interests or opinions on things and then see if she responds to that. I've you're still getting nothing, that's probably a good sign that she's not really that interested. Next!
There's always a kind of "dance" in the beginning. That's not the same as mind games. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 10:44:27 AM | But Blacklist isn't our hobbies and interests part of who we are?
Would you like to have a game of Backgammon meet me on pogo
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 11:02:05 AM | Yes they are a part of how we express ourselves and like to enjoy our recreational time. But, to their credit, there are times when life gets busy and we just don't have time to do these things.
Hell I'm mom, dad, extended family and superwoman...where would I have time for backgammon?
Well...I suppose if I got out of here I might be able to replace that time with that LOL~! | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 11:07:23 AM | I think you know I was kidding but POGO is a great free gaming site where you can chat and talk to poeple. I even had one date off of there wow and its not a dating site.
Blastkist I checked out your ad. I wanted to see what it said. Your pictures show you as slim or normal. I don't see the few extra pounds. All I see is a hot woman. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 11:16:52 AM | Right to the point here.........(my toy) mustang gt and my daughter. Not all women makes it hard for you guys out there....pretty simple huh
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 11:25:35 AM | | No idea.. when someone asks me what my hobbies are or what I like to do in my spare time.. I tell them. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 8/23/2005 1:33:56 PM | Thanks Rocky. I can assure you that I am overweight, despite how I look in my pictures. I carry the distribution of the excess weight reasonably well though, which I think makes it that much harder to notice.
It's interesting, I've had several men email me and say that they couldn't see the extra lbs and then i've had some tell me that if I'd lose the 25 lbs, they might be interested LOL!
They didn't bother to ask me if I was actually interested in them though! | |
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