| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:33:45 PM | | my ex boyfriend 18-8...says women and men can be friends with out any sex.. at times he would go out with anywhere from two to six women. An when I had a problem with it he made me feel like a fool...what do you think? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:42:47 PM | | You can, it depends on the people. Any attractive female friends I have I'd at least like to sleep with. Doesn't mean I do. Some people can just be friends though, do you think he is one? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:46:23 PM | | It’s not right in my books to "go out" with other women if I was in a serious relationship with some girl. It's a trust issue and I think the "trust" falls on him in this situation to not put what you’ve built together in jeopardy. I have a bunch of friends who would disagree, but then these aren’t the people who have model relationships in my books. But we’re not all after the same things, are we? ;) | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:49:21 PM |
LOSTGUY SAYS: Any attractive female friends I have I'd at least like to sleep with. Doesn't mean I do.
True enough but your girlfriend would probably also consider them attractive enough to be a threat so why put the trust you've built in danger by putting yourself in situations where you're alone with Ms. Attractive? | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 2:13:56 PM | | it's not healthy in a relationship for guys to go out with women or women to go out with guys. not saying it can't be done, but it can make some uncomfortable. think about it. you have someone you love very much sitting there and you say your going out with some friends of the opposite sex tonight. the only way your partner would be 100% comfortable with that was if they were invited to go along. i wouldn't even think of asking my wife if i could go out with some of my female friends. doesn't even sound right to me, but that's just me. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 2:23:48 PM | | My best friends have all been men. Is it unhealthy for them to do stuff with me? Hell, no. There is NO attraction between us...they are like my brothers. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 4:40:27 PM | | His story sounds a bit fishy to me! First of all we are not talking about one really close girl friend but numerous women that should tell you right there something is not right here. Is there some reason he cannot choose males friends hummm.... another not so good sign. Lastly he is in a relationship with you. Healthy relationships are formed from a deep respect. That means being aware of how your actions will affect your partner and vs. He is fully aware of the boundary lines of what he can and cannot do and hanging out with multiple women is in the cannot category. You already know that for him to hangout with these women is not what you want from him. Your intuition is telling you not to believe the things he is trying to convince you of so stop and really listen to yourself. DOn't be fooled into what other people want you to believe. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 4:40:39 PM | okay but are you in a relationship with a man and hanging out with your male friends?
Is he suppose to be okay with it?
I always wonder why I am not going out with those friends with you though.
Listen to bunnies above me; she has it nailed right on it's head. ;)
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 5:22:15 PM | | My best friend is a very hot looking girl...I once had a crush but today we are close friends and nothing more. We share everything but nothing more - she's like my sister now...also she's married and her husband trusts us to go out alone together for lunches. So, it can be done....then again, all my friends are female. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 5:26:19 PM | | lep, this is his game called "playing the field". It's common, and many guys and gals just don't want a single commitment. If he aint havin sex with any of them, it sure sounds fishy though. Maybe you should think about another guy. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 5:29:13 PM | The door Swings both ways...boils down to being booty call or Just friends...anyways..
I feel it can Be done..I have few Female friends Myself..... | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 5:35:25 PM | | lep49 i doubt it. there is a very fine line and most men wouldn't want you near it. sometimes it can be ok if your friends are friends to your wife too. then there can be some trust there. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 5:40:59 PM |
True enough but your girlfriend would probably also consider them attractive enough to be a threat so why put the trust you've built in danger by putting yourself in situations where you're alone with Ms. Attractive?
I tell people I'm serious with that I have women friends. I don't lie about them. I feel that if she trusts me enough, it will never be an issue .
I tell everybody in my 'inner circle' of friends that the quickest way to leave the group is to come in between me and my friend(s).
It works the other way as well. I don't mind if I'm in a relationship with someone with guy friends, even if it is an ex. If I trust them, it isn't an issue.
'Cause as long as they're with me at the end of the day, it's good. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 5:57:50 PM | princess that would be a tough one. if you are a good looking woman, it's hard for a guy not to be attracted to her. unless he's gay of course.  | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 6:08:22 PM | Men are sexual creatures no matter what some losers try to tell you. The whole "I'm not like that" is a sad and desperate denial of their true nature combined with a ploy to get into your pants....we are all that way. Having said that, just because we are motivated to form bondings or "friendships" with women doesn't mean we have sex with them. In the vast majority of cases it doesn't ever turn into anything real...they're our friends after all.
The problem is that these emotions get confused a lot of the time and what starts out as one friend crying on another's shoulder, quickly becomes something naked and sweaty. It happens because it is easy. Some people have never been on a date in their life....they just keep cycling through their circles of friends for new lovers.
I once knew this remarkably gorgeous, tall and smart German woman who could tell me horrible things about her life and I would still hang in there, totally smitten by her. One of the stories she told me was about how she was in a serious, long term relationship but was out with some "friends"...of course her friends just happened to be guys. While in the kitchen drinking, she and one "friend" started making out and rapidly began undressing and fuc king right there on the floor with the other friend standing there with a beer in his hand. The part of the story that got me was when she said "And the other friend could have joined in too if he wanted but he just walked into the other room"?
I thought, for the rest of the time I know her, whenever she's out having a drink with friends, this is what would be in my head?
If there is a simple answer to this question about friends and can they be trusted....I'd love to hear it. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 6:12:57 PM | | 90% of my friends are woman and I've known them for 20 plus years. We get along great and they have been there everytime I need them. Has anything ever happened? Never as we we respect each other. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 7:32:42 PM | Absolutely. My best friends are men. I do not have sex with them.
I won't give up my friendships because my friends happen to be male. I'm trustworthy and honest and if I'm not sleeping with them now, I certainly wouldn't be while I was inside of a relationship. | |
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 7:39:33 PM | Men and women can definitely be friends without sex, if someone tells you otherwise, then they are missing out on alot in life.
Just because someone happens to be a member of the opposite sex doesn't mean you have to have sex with them. I have very good friends of both sexes, and I go out with whomever happens to be available when I go out. I would not miss out on having my friends for the world.
If the person you are with doesn't trust you enough to go out with friends of the opposite sex, then there are some serious trust issues that need to be deal with. Also, if you were going out...why wouldn't you invite your signifigant other along? Don't you want to be with them? I would always invite them along.
Also, if you are not capapble of going out with friend of the opposite sex and not have sex with them all, then that is your problem.
There IS more to life than sex. Sex is but one facet on the jewel that is life and relationships. Explore the other facets such as, intelligent conversation, hanging out, being there for a friend, helping someone out, giving praise...you know...all the good stuff you can do with all your friends, besides having sex with them.
Another rant of mine...
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| Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 8/24/2005 7:43:06 PM | | Yes, I believe it is called "platonic" friendship. I suspect if you work, you have friends of both sexes at work, doesn't mean you have to go out and "play". You can have a successful breakup (love each other but know you're not right for each other) and remain friends w/out sex. It is humanly possible. It boils down to each individual person is and what their comfort level is. Some are comfortable with their partners having friends of the opposite sex, while others aren't. | |
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