| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:38:59 PM | | My ex boyfriend 18-8, says sex isn't a big deal in a realtionship...we were having sex 2 times a day every other weekend.. and he thought it was to much...what do you think? | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:42:27 PM | I think sex is a personal thing and if he says it was too much for him, it was too much! :) You can't judge someone for their personal tastes. We're only built the way we're built - there's not a lot we can do to change the chemistry after! ;)
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:43:39 PM | not enough, that's what i think. how about once a day and twice on weekends. 
as far as how important it is, that is different for each individual. now twice only on the weekends, i'd have to have a serious talk with that fellow if i were you. try to see what's up. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:51:36 PM | I've been faced with this question in the past and have discovered that although it's NOT the most important thing, I would say that if you're both satisfied then it's a small part of your relationship, but if not...it becomes exponentially more important.
I also think that it's more important at the beginning of a relationship for bonding purposes, but if it diminishes later on, it can be better tolerated...
I don't mean that you should EXPECT to have less sex the longer you're with someone, but if a problem should arise and the frequency diminishes, then you at least have the fond MEMORIES of past sexual activity to keep you warm!!!
Without those...well, I think it's more difficult to get through...
But at the beginning, definitely!!! Part of the fun of a new relationship is getting to know each other on the physical level...It's like having a built-in "game" that the two of you can "pull out" when you're bored and have fun with....
Dee | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/24/2005 1:52:01 PM | i really don't find it that importnat until u love someone. When u love someone u are more than likely going ot have sex more often cause u are comfortable with them and want ot share the expierence. So in teh beggining of a relatiosnhip when usually most couples have sex more often i think u should have sex less.
If someone is not willing ot have sex with me at least once a week, i believe there is something maybe wrong in the relationship. It should be at least once a week, for it should be time spent that brings u too closer together. Soem peopel want it more than that, and that is fine as long as both parties are ok with it. But any less than that may be a problem. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 9:30:50 AM | | Agreed! Once a week for sure . . . personally, I'm at least once a day, but that can be too much for some. However - having sex less at the start for the sake of having less sex?? Eeek! | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 9:37:23 AM | | I'd say usually yeah, Have sex first of all if you knew them awhile and are in Love with them, then 2nd of all it might Change, Sometimes it can be everyday for a couple of weeks, then slow down to couple times a week, then back up again, whenever the mood hits. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 12:20:33 PM | | Once heard it said that in a relationship... if sex is great, it is only a small percentage of a relationship, but if it is bad, or you aren't getting any.. it is like 95% importance.....I think that is really true.... It can be the icing or it can be the end all/ be all..... | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 4:31:47 PM | | goodness....Sex in a relationship....hmmm.....is one of the MOST important determining factors on HOW long I stay in a relationship....if the sex sucks..I am outta there!!! hehe...hmm...would never even consider a relationship as in forever..if the sex was not Passionate...and made me ache when I wasnt around him.....and hey you know it is great when you have to make a run for the door....when he goes to potty....hehe....Sex is not something you can put a number of times....hmmm..if I had to....I would say....at least 2 or 3 times a night.....except when extremely tired..hehe.....and OMG.....when not working...breakfast...snack....lunch...snack...dinner..snack..snack..snack....sn..sn..sn..sn...heheheh | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 4:44:07 PM | I personally think that sex is very important. Sex is the ultimate closeness that two people can share. I think that the better the sex is the more times you do it. The more times you do it the closer two people can become. 2-3 times a day is awsome. You have to have fun with it. Experiment, find each others erotic zones and play it. Repetition is when things get boring. When sex gets boring that is when one partner or both start looking elsewhere.  | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 5:34:16 PM | | It is incredibly important, without a happy fulfilling sex life (for both partners) then what's the point? Sorry, but if the sex is no good....it's a deal breaker - you could be the nicest guy, sweetest guy, great provider, etc....but it's not gonna work if you don't rock my world forget about it. I don't mean yah gotta be pounding every other minute, but if you can turn my legs to jelly with just a look, a touch, a whisper....AND rock my world hard...then you are IN!!! | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 6:11:40 PM | | its the most important thing men are too boring otherwise all they talk about it cars or their work yawn if they would just lay there and do the wild thing whenever we saw them how great would our lives be lol | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 6:17:47 PM | | Sex varies according to many individual needs or lack of emphasis on sex itself. In many cases, sex evolves into a non-event. You live with it, and move on. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 7:25:48 PM | | I think that really depends on what kind of a relationship you are talking about. If it is one that there is no serious commitment, then it is very important as it could be the only thing to it. In a commited relationship where both people truly love each other or in a marriage, it is still important, but to me only about 5% of the total package. As to number of times? I think counting or worrying about how often it happens is just silly. Whatever makes two people happy is the right amount. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 7:37:59 PM |
I personally think that sex is very important. Sex is the ultimate closeness that two people can share. I think that the better the sex is the more times you do it. The more times you do it the closer two people can become. 2-3 times a day is awsome. You have to have fun with it. Experiment, find each others erotic zones and play it. Repetition is when things get boring. When sex gets boring that is when one partner or both start looking elsewhere.
That's pretty close to what I was thinking, but let me add a few things...
While a variety of postions, toys, techniques, etc are needed to keep things from getting dull, there should also be a variety in the basics. By this I mean that two people can fuk, make love, play doctor, engage in sleepy sex, whatever. If a couple is always fukking or making love, then that in itself can get old fast. If you already know the pace, is it going to matter what tools you have on hand?
I've also discovered that sex can often lead to catch-22 situations. If there are other challenges to the relationship it is too easy to read too much into your sex life. My best advice to everyone is this, don't think too much about sex. It should always be a fun, enjoyable break from reality. Playtime for adults if you will. Try not to ruin be stressing over what is going through your partners head, it will only distract you from the moment. | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 8:18:07 PM | Lack of sex will blow a relationship. Too much sex could never have that effect...
I'm a hog for the right guy (< ummm Goodfellow) who isn't inhibited and is so incorrigible! | |
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| How important is sex in a relationship?
Posted: 8/25/2005 10:48:25 PM | | You certainly have a point. If guys would just hang around out of sight, in the corner like a dustbuster ..charged up and ready at all times...it would be great. | |
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