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Posted: 8/29/2005 7:48:02 AM | i know everybody has been through bad relationships but when you meet somebody that is good how will you know should you think with you heart  or think with your private  tell me which way is the smartest and in these days and times should you just go with the flings or settle down is there really a such thing as having your mate whipped by you private for real  | |
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Posted: 8/29/2005 7:26:29 PM | | Oh yeah. Ultimately it'd be nice to find someone to settle down with. But these days... heh... who knows. I have faith, but in the mean time, I'm not the best poster child of my goal. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2009 7:46:26 PM | Tall... It isn't the beer. It is the person. It doesn't even have to be beer. When alcohol "causes" a problem. It is usually because of some trait the person consuming it has already. If a person doesn't have control over how much alcohol they consume, what else do you think they can control? ZIP! They act like it and think it, but things are most likely crumbling around them. They just don't see it. I need a drink...
It doesn't matter what you uses, your heart or your head...intuition or what ever. If the other person isn't on the up and up you are screwed no matter how careful you are, no matter what conversations you have, no matter how long you wait. There are some people that know how to play the part of deception!
There are also people that make up the rules as they go to justify their actions. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 9:01:57 AM | LOL... custom made pays off again! Knowing how to sew... priceless! LOL
I miss it too... I am getting ready to get into a large project, I am so pumped!
note to "theboss" Good luck at Ft Jackson! Hopefull you will love it, it is a beautiful place. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2009 10:58:01 AM | Your post reminded me of this, which I've read many times but has recently come to mind again...hope you enjoy..
A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong-doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being a part of my life
PRAYER:
May today there be peace within you.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.
May you be content knowing that you are a child of God.
Let His presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, and to bask in the sun.
It is there for each and every one of you.
© BRIAN ANDREW "DREW" CHALKER | |
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Posted: 4/19/2009 1:12:10 PM | This is a good post
but lovemeforself
I want to give to a shout out
you have 3 things I love
cute face,big tittes, and big ass
I love your pics | |
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Posted: 4/19/2009 4:06:41 PM | | Reason, season, lifetime seems to fit into so many of our forums. It is hard to accept that sometimes the pain people cause, directly or not, means nothing to them. If one looks at it as a weakness in those, that helps. But the more you see it happen again, albeit not the same thing, you have to remember to keep praying for peace in the souls of each of us. You do your best to go beyond and reach out, some people are accepting of this, the ones that don't want or are not ready for forgiveness won't take the peace offering, there is nothing you can do but pray. Lately there have been more misunderstandings and identity confusion from what I can tell talking and discussing this with others seem to agree. Unsigned emails saying untrue actions and slanderous name calling are immature and evil. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2009 4:29:49 PM | Unsigned emails saying untrue actions and slanderous name calling are immature and evil.
Come again? Did I miss something here?
I'm not sure it's realistic to expect everyone to be a friend. One thing that I find a little disconcerting is that some people will air their dirty laundry in these forums (often cloaked in "mystery") rather than taking it up with the people with whom they have an issue. Wouldn't that be the appropriate action? Personally speaking, it SOUNDS like those comments are directed at me and I have no clue what you're talking about. Unsigned emails? What?
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Posted: 4/19/2009 4:52:02 PM | Yes, Friday I rec'd a nasty email from I suppose a man according to his profile. It was a bit frightening even though most of what he said I know was not me. Some of the things were quite evil. I could not even respond because he blocked me. The account is now gone, I don't know if it is because I reported it or because it was deleted by the person that created it.
Some people will tell you not to email them or block you. Some info posted on the forums is there to let others know there are potential threats to us out here. And the fact he had the wrong person, he may eventually catch up with the correct person. Apparently the person that wrote this note is worse that the person they are saying nasty and evil things about.
No, I don't expect everyone to be friends. Even if you don't like someone, they are still sharing the same air and have real feelings. As many siblings as I have, I can only handle so much. I enjoy people, I could never count friends, there are always more. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2009 5:02:33 PM | Uh, well, I'm sorry that happened to you but I'm not sure what that has to do with me or my post about "Reason, Season, Lifetime". 'Cuz it sorted sounded like you were implying that I was involved in some snarky email campaign, since your post was in response to mine. I can assure you that I was not involved in any nasty emails sent to anyone nor do I know who would send such an email.  My time on this site is limited and I use it to communicate with friends and potential love interests and occasionally post in the forums if I can avoid the DRAMA.  I certainly wouldn't waste my time engaging in such petty, useless endeavors as opening fake profiles, harassing other users or spreading rumors.. I certainly HOPE you were not implying that I would..
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Posted: 4/19/2009 5:18:04 PM | Oh NO... I am sorry. A million miles from it! I love the post. It keeps me looking for that light at the end of a tunnel. Some tunnels are longer and have more turns! It is a favorite among us fish. I have seen it many times on the forums, short and long versions.
That crazy email got me in the mode of looking down yet another tunnel, I was half hoping the person would talk to me last night. Realizing he had the wrong person. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 2:27:06 AM |
Some tunnels are longer and have more turns!
Yes, I know exactly what you mean - kind of like the proverbial rabbit hole in the classic tale of Alice in Wonderland. You know - where she follows the rabbit down the hole and everything is confusing and illogical? | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 7:11:55 AM | Along with saying..."A happy medium!!....All I want is a happy medium!!" to just about everything...LOL...I use "Reason, Season, Lifetime" for almost every relationship whether it be romantic or platonic. :O)
Another thing to consider, as cheesy as it may sound....you GOTTA think of the relationships that DON'T make it to forever, in the same manner as you might think of a sh!tty, rainy day! If we had alllll sunshiney, beautiful days....we would not value them as much as we do when one comes after a crappy day. Those relationships, or those "reasons" and "seasons" educate us and guide us to the path of the "lifetimes." Those crappy ones that wounded our hearts, had SOME good which made us recognize something we never knew we wanted, or showed us something unacceptable. :)
But, the OP asked how you determine when you should think with your head or your PRIVATES, not "or your heart." And the only answer to that is, it depends on what you are seeking. If you want something strictly casual and strictly sexual, let your "privates" guide you. If you want more, let your head guide you. :O) | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 8:52:09 AM | Let me answer this question. Things I might say you might not like. This how I deal with relationship
You ask should you think with your heart or private. I say **** all that and think with your head.
You are a grown woman to know or just look at a person and know if you want a relationship or a f.u.c.k buddy. I been on this website for 5 months now and talk to a-lot of women and I know who would be long term or good to bang for 2 hours. I can tell just by talking to them. You weed out who is a waste of time.
If you want love well, you have to go for it. Yes, it might turn out bad or good. But what ever it turn out, you can say you gave it shot. If you want to have sex. You go for it.
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Posted: 4/20/2009 10:00:54 AM | | I like to use a combination. Lately, it seems I don't have to think too much, just feel like I have a wall around me. I think that is okay. I am enjoying my free time, what little there is. I am having a better time with friends and family. Making new friends is such a pleasure. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 7:13:26 PM | If you want something strictly casual and strictly sexual, let your "privates" guide you. If you want more, let your head guide you. :O)
I'm not sure the two are mutually exclusive but I think the key is to simply enjoy the relationship for what it is and not overthink it because when it ceases to be enjoyable or meet your needs, emotionally or physically, it's time to move on. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 7:29:59 PM | I knew I never like that story (Alice in Wonderland) as a child!
Kat... Just like the saying ~gotta have a little rain to have a rainbow~! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 9:21:00 PM | I know as for myself, I was deeply in love with my heart and had a strictly platonic relationship with a lady, we ended up have a sexual relationship and then she ended it. I then in rebound met two young ladies, in which we had a strictly sexual relationship on my part. They had expected otherwise, both had miscarriages, the whole situation made me really think about what I was doing. What I was doing was messing with a persons head in a bad way. They were nice ladies, both with great traits, and my thinking with my penis really hurt them. It was both those relationships that made me think about what I was doing in dating and having casual sex and how it affected those I was with. I chose at that time to no longer potentially hurt those I became aquainted with...
That was 3-4 yrs ago... it has just been in the last year or so that I have really had any interest in dating and possibly becoming intimate with someone again. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 11:03:36 PM | I can't remember the exact quote, therefore I'll have to paraphrase but a very cool chic once said in her profile that it's not finding someone you can settle down with for the rest of your life but someone you can run wild with for the rest of your life........
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Posted: 4/21/2009 9:44:07 AM | | I like that way of thinking Trekker. Who could ask for anything more? | |
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