| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/22/2004 5:57:09 AM | i'd straight up like to say i have not tried doing this for real yet, so i cannot know for sure.
but, i know people who did, and they've told me to be ready to take loads of sh*t from the ladies.
it's supposed to be that you talk to dozens, and dozens, and dozens, and you get barely a few that will consider you [for whatever]. so the problem seems to be, hypothetically:
asking, politely, respectfully; only single, outgoing women [in reality, we couldn't know at first site but let's pretend we can for the sake of this example]; without too much bravado or machism; for non-specific relationship opportunity [i dont know how to word it, but let's say we are neither excluding anything, neither proposing JUST sex/love/friendship.. just asking a women to chill, aka get her phone ###]
ends up being the SAME as :
acting like a player and picking up women regardless of their state; with bravado and/or machism; for implied relationship opportunities [getting your point across subtly that you are only interested in sex/short term dating with sex in perspective]
in the sense that here in north america, women seem to be put off BY THE VERY FACT of you trying to hit on them out of the blue. my buddies tell me the success ratio is around 2 women for every 10 you would talk to, and regardless of attitude, as if it was really plain random.
corrections: i do assume that those two scenarios would end up with getting responces from different kinds of women, but in the same ratio of 2/10
how true do you think this is? does the ratio seem correct? can it be that even being honest, polite, telling a woman that I am a lonely guy who doesn't know where to go to meet women so i am just basically talking to the girls I come across that seem nice/accessible [i mean REALLY nice, and accessible as in: not snobbish or b*tch] or of my type, and that i am not just interested in sex
is doomed to failure in most cases?
women who would answer to this, i especially want your input, as to why this is true/false. | |
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| picking up girls in the street MALE VIEW
Posted: 11/22/2004 6:35:19 AM | Street walkers are easy just pull over say hi want a ride ? In the mall its not easy wat to many girls are worried. To get a reasonable looking girl to give you her phone# will take some effort and a lot of developed speaking skill as you control the converstion.
Skill takes time. Always chat -up the cashier at the BANK or stores you shop . Many are bored and welcome a man that is bold but talented. Also mention to any shopper how good they look and why ? Tell them WHY the look good . And then ask more questions.
GET into a "game PLAN" ! Like football not all plans work be flexible .
1 in 10 is d*mn good. I'd say one in 50 is more reality.
Nonetheless GO for it but you better smell good look sharp and have a smile so get then teeth fixed and bleached.
Try your meet a broad plan as a slob and then in a suit or suit jacket even with jeans on. Try it get a good hair cut . get a nice smell ( ask the girls ) when you go to buy a nice smell they'll guide you . Inter social skills or the gift of gabby is the right way to go but ready the body signs..she's saying upfront what she feels you just gotta read em. NOT easy is it ? BUT keep trying. Hell Bill Clinton gets his fair share so can you. AND lastly if you want a playboy girl model fly to Russia and meet em. If ever there was a time to find meet and date a real "LOOKER a real doll any USA man would envy--- it is Bulgaria , Romania, and Russian girls. They are dreams come true . Really ask any USA man living over there ! Howard | |
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| picking up girls in the street MALE VIEW
Posted: 11/22/2004 8:10:48 AM | To be honest with you I have never tried to pick up a girl on the street or in a mall. However, there have been several times when I noticed a beautiful woman looking at me and maybe smiling, hoping I'd make the next move and go over and talk with her. But, because I am not skilled in this field, more than usual I just smile back and say hi ... then that is it.
After reading what you guys had to say, I am going to get out of my shell and start making something happen. Actually, what is there to lose...? nothing.. except just some polite converstation. I have a lot to offer a honest and trustworthy woman ... I just have to start making it happen for the both of us. Woman can be just as shy as we are! | |
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| picking up girls in the street MALE VIEW
Posted: 11/23/2004 12:29:07 AM | before you pick up a girl on the street..you have to some preperatory work..
a few years of psychoanalysis to get a valid educated opinion that you need this kind of stimulation and that you cant possibly get it any other way.
then once you have fiqured out that picking up on girls on the street is not for you..get a job as a coroner..everyonce in a while..you can pick one up literaly off the street.
good luck in your ventures. | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/23/2004 7:52:33 AM | you're correct.
women get very defensive when a complete stranger starts talking to them out of the blue. Doesn't have to be pickup talk, there's just a general "why the hell is this guy talking to me?" thing goin' on. Add in trying to get their number and yes, you'll be shot down more than you'd care to ponder.
Unless they like you.
Flip a coin, it's a paradox.  | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/24/2004 7:20:23 PM | thanks to everyone who answered... except for that cereal box comment relevant to the total randomness of dating/meeting people.. luck is certainly not one of my strong points. i realised this year, and i realise that ratios are the way to go, as my friend told me, you have to pitch everything even remotely f***able, to increase chances of success and practice those skills.. i dont see it as crudely as he does, luckily..
thank you for your answers, it seems to confirm my theory so far, will give me courage to do this.. | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/25/2004 12:25:16 PM | | You must be kidding, you all make it seem like it's rocket science... Is riding a bike rocket science? No, it is just a skill that's developed with practice. Just because someone is good at meeting women doesn't mean he is a player. Even if you do come off like a player, who cares? If the girl you are approaching doesn't like it, at least you took a shot at talking to her. If you're the least bit intelligent the rejection will serve as a learning experience. Note to self- women aren't attracted to me when i go up and say nice boobs, what size are they? maybe i'll try nice butt next time... | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/25/2004 12:48:43 PM | | I have to laugh- if you want ratios go to the stalk market... I'm not sure where that is. Is that where all the stalkers go to purchase their victims? | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/25/2004 9:26:11 PM | | come on guys you are all just taking things too serious, here take a tip froom someone that gets laid everytime he picks up a woman. Smile always, make her feel that she is the queen of the world, dont ever get overbearing, stay in control of the situation. I just am friendly and it works all the time. Try that it works...... | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/26/2004 1:06:47 PM | ratios are about experimentation, obviously i will not be going about with a notepad mechanically asking women questions and going like oh yeah your the #th to say that thank you have a nice day. its just for the fun of getting a general idea besides the practice of how good this is supposed to work, and wherever i will succeed beating the ratio or not.
and yes people are defined fairly well by numbers, especially in north america where most are just clones of each other, with the same demands and reactions. so ratios only make sense! :P | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/26/2004 3:06:24 PM | | I went into a thrift store one day there was this bin filled with new never worn baseball hats right on top was this white hat with dark red lettering across the frount it said Harvard.. I laughed slapped it on my noggin paid a buck for it. I'm an old stoner dropped out of high school got my G.E.D. 10 years later did 6 months of community college nothing close to Harvard. After I bought the hat I went to the grocery store to pick up a few things...I had women out the yaaaazooo following me around doing things for me talking to me smiling I even got asked out I forgot I was wearing the hat. I got up to the counter my buddie the cashier says "I didn't know you went to Harvard law school, wow!" You don't have to pick up a woman on the street just send Harvard a few bucks for one of their hats....You don't even have to say you go there just wear the hat...Most women assume everything anyway.. | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/26/2004 8:01:22 PM | OH MY GOD
thank You SO MUCH BYRD
im not kidding.. you just gave me an awesome idea. i'll get myself a McGill cap, this will get me chicks - i live in the mcgill ghetto. i can be the student taking all those obscure classes no one knows about, and since no one ever saw me before, it will get them interesteD! YaY! | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/27/2004 6:42:26 AM |
hello my new friend,another piece of advice,ask your mum and dad how they met,sit down with your dad and have a father and son chat,man to man,on what makes the ladys tick.i am sure he can help you. ,but if worse comes to worse,just get a mail order bride from east asia ,or become a homo,and leave the ladys up to the big boys ,those are your choices my friend,i layed out for ya,now its up to you to play it out.allso.....enroll in charm school,i think that might help allso.they will help you.
.Wow. thank you SO much scoobydonut! i'm amazed at the depth of your advice. i willl most certainly try this soon. Yes i certainly will. I u derstand that this advice comes of the best intentions, and from someone who is obviously very gifted when it comes to women- your intelligence shines so brightly through your words, no wonder you must be getting all the ladies.
best wishes. | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/27/2004 6:31:45 PM | | I have to admit, that much of this is not good advice. If you want good advice, start a thread asking women. I have cringed at more than 1/2 of the suggestions. C'mon, guys, ask the women. That is your best bet. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2004 7:04:03 PM | | Well that's true ask the women, I don't really care if ya all didn't like my experience it wasn't my intention to get picked up the day I bought that hat and I didn't let it happen.. I thought it was funny that all these women were trippen over their feet because I was wearing that hat. Nor was ity my intention when I came to p.o.f. to find someone my girlfriend died I just wanted a friend and she found me. So this is where you should be pal..Not on the street. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2004 6:55:19 AM | | My ex-girlfriend went to Harvard Law School and got me a sweater from there. Maybe I should pull it out of the closet! LOL! | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/28/2004 11:10:19 AM | We don't want to bust up the party, guys. It is always interesting to see a group of males carry on a discussion on how to pick us up.  | |
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| picking up girls in the street
Posted: 11/28/2004 5:42:59 PM | hey nota, i might be wrong now, but you seem to do little to help, just commenting as if you did.
whats up girl? re-read my first post, PLEASE, i DID ask a question .oh maybe it's too hard .here i'll restate it for you : how does one go about starting conversations with females for no apparent reason with all possible chances of success?
can you answer or are you still floating somewhere admiring a guy only conversation on the topic?
sorry maybe i shouldnt bother. | |
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