| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 3:56:58 AM | I me this guy a few months ago to me he is funny sexy sweet and we laugh whenever we are togwether. we started spending alot of time together and got together. he was always going out on a limb for me and im not used to that. i went on holiday and when i came back he was funny with me a week later he went and when he got he finished it.
i stayed away from him and did not contact him in anyway. til one drunken night i saw him out and he told me he was having a hard time and he didnt want me involved. we ended up spending a week together until he went away for the weekend and text me all the details of what he did with another girl. we always wind each other up and push each other to the limits but even i thought this was to far.
basically its got past that and we are still friends and i no we both still care about each other but i just cant seem to talk to him he makes a joke of everything. he is really scared of rejection. he has told me he still cares about me and we still sleep together. im really confussed help. x | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 4:58:58 AM | I don't think HE's the one being scared of rejection, I think YOU are...
From what you've written, he doesn't sound like a "friend" to me (he sounds more like someone who's using you for sex) but if you're daft enough to keep in contact with this player, then that's up to you.
Surely there are other guys out there more worthy of your time, who'll be more into a "real" relationship...if this guy was your "ideal partner", why have you felt the need to post this topic?
In short, he is USING you...big time!  Do you really fall for that crap he's telling you, that he "cares" for you? Sure, he may be paying you attention, but he's only doing that to make sure he gets what he wants.
Stand up for yourself, and think more of yourself...you're better than this player's "bit on the side".
My £0.02 worth. | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 7:30:38 AM | HE'S afraid of rejection ? Um....okay, if you say so OP. Either way, no he's not using you any more than you are using him. Personally, I'd sift that part out of all this...it's only going to make you bitter and I doubt it's the case anyway.
Still, it seems to me that you want your cake and to eat it too. You're basically describing somebody who isn't interested in pursuing anything of a romantic nature with you (sorry, but remember, I can only base this on your own words here) but you'll him on his own terms anyway. This has nothing to do with rejection based on your post unless you want to apply it to yourself here darlin'. Sorry but that's what it looks like from here. | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 8:16:24 AM | Girl.. MOVE ON....
-No respect if he is with you... then goes away and does something with someone else and
gives you all the details... That's SICK... as well as hurtful!
-maybe he thinks that you would want him more.... if he was with someone else.. Again.. that's sick!
-Look in the mirror... DO YOU think u deserve that kind of shit? HECK NO>>>>>>
-Are you into mental torture? | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 8:21:41 AM | I know I am very shy, and I VERY rarely approach anyone anywhere just to strike up a conversation. I still have that thick wall encircling me, but I feel like it's getting thinner and thinner. For me, anyways, it has to be super obvious that the girl is interested in me through any kind of eye contact for me to walk over and introduce myself. Other than that, it's not worth it to me :(
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 9:12:37 AM | Ouch.....
I get this question all the time...
The answer is real simple...
Not to be harsh but it is your fault....
You are chasing a Challenge...
People want what they can't have...
Change your ways now, or you will be on the losing end... in a never ending cycle...
Here is The Simple Answer...
Find a guy who you think is cute or handsome....
If he acts nervous around you or stammers his words... that is the guy for you...
If he is all****, and Smooth.... thats because you are another notch in his belt and he has done it before, repeatedly.... hence the smoothness...
The guy who is cute and nervous, is nervous because he cares about what he says to you..
He cares about the impression he makes on you...
and he probably has even dreamed of what it would be like to hold your hand and walk through life with you....
He won't be a Challenge he will be a great partner....
That Simple...
Yet so few follow it...
Sorry for the long post... I hope it helps... | |
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LANGA
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Joined: 8/28/2005
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 9:49:19 AM | Well
You see we are all afraid to a certain degree of being rejected, some more then others, especially depending on the situation they went through in life.
I think it's part of human nature but it don't need to be either you know? If we develope enough inner strength in us to overcome such situations we can understand and stay cool with these incidents when they hapopen.
So to answer your question, I think both men and women are afraid of it to some point, but we don't need to be either. | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 11:02:43 AM | Just a suggestion.
Take the sex out of this equation and see how long this "friendship" lasts,
rejection-phobe or not. | |
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woozoo
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Joined: 6/14/2005
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 11:27:56 AM | I think that all men are afriad of rejection to some degree. I also think that all women are afraid of rejection to some degree.
You kinda have to figure you're going to be rejected in life, and it helps to work on the copeing skills needed to deal with it. It's the best way to survive  | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 12:12:34 PM | Blast you got the high hand at the moment... but The Challenge gonna bite you... unless you leave it alone... you're a bright girl...
Every post I have written today was about it...
Play with fire you will get burned... especially the ones that think they have it in control...
No need for it to happen to you too...
but that is your decision, and like you said about being accountable...
Read back... take the high road not the high hand... | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 12:27:48 PM | Who died and made you my keeper? You paying my bills? You taking care of me? You mowing my lawn? No? Then shut the f*ck up and go post to someone who cares. The challenge...pfft. Challenge this! ::flips bird::
Don't make your posts about any response to me or what I say dude...you're soooo wasting your time LOL!
My daddy's dead...got it? | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 12:37:23 PM | That's the difference between you and me.... you only care about who pays your bills, who is gonna take care of you, and who you allow to mow your lawn....
So you're right I have nothing more to say to you....
I will talk to someone who CARES...
Nice and Shiney.... | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 5:39:43 PM | | yes i am afraid of rejection.. invest all that time and feelings in to something only to have them smashed and have to start over again.. UFFF. (climbs back in his hole and pulls the rock back over the hole) | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 6:04:54 PM | | Stay in school and get a good education and meet a guy who doesnt drink so much. And if you drink a lot, you get what you pay for. | |
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| Are men really afraid of rejection??
Posted: 8/31/2005 7:40:43 PM | I used to be. Even to the point of complete and total shyness to go up and talk to a girl I found attractive.
Now I just don't care. Why? Think about it. You cross about a half dozen new faces a day, and even if 6 shoot you down for 6 days, and 5 shoot you down on the 7th, your odds are higher than if you never approached in the first place.
It's easy to talk to anyone. Walk up, smile, and say hello. Thats all there is to it. If you get shot down, oh well, no use crying over spilt milk...
Lotsa friendly people out there in thier own little shells or own little world. Wake them up with a new friendship won't you?
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