| private bookmarking vs favorites
Posted: 8/31/2005 12:55:45 PM | I made this suggestion before it fell deep into the forum.
being able to privatedly bookmark a member without the member being aware of it would be helpful. If you see some members that your interested in but you don't want to contact them yet because your hoping the current one may work out but if it doesn't then you can contact one of the bookmarked ones. I've found on here that woman to like you to put them in your favorites list but not contact them, and they may react negitivly to being contacted after being in your favorites list for awhile. They think negitivity because you took so long to contact them as if they were at the bottom of your list. But some people don't like to attempt to meet to many people at one time. I would rather attempt to meet someone and if it works out then i'm not going to try and date more than one woman at a time, i'm not the player type. If it doesn't work out then you can try another from your bookmarks. I'm sure everybody see's a number of different people that you are attracted to and that you feel may match you, but untill I send them a message to initiate that first contact I don't want them to feel that they are in some kind of priority list and at the bottom. This will avoid any hurt feelings and give to a chance to meet someone from your list if another didn't work out.
its not a priority list, just a list of members you found interesting but private to only you.
Hope this makes sense. | |
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| private bookmarking vs favorites
Posted: 8/31/2005 10:41:33 PM | They think negitivity because you took so long to contact them as if they were at the bottom of your list.
But if you're waiting to see what happens with one (or more) before contacting the next you've flagged, umm.. doesn't that mean they are at the bottom of your list or at least further down on it? ;P | |
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| private bookmarking vs favorites
Posted: 8/31/2005 10:45:10 PM | Assuming you don't browse on office computers or migrate among multiple machines, you could just bookmark member profiles to your own browser. Can't get much more private than that, and you can add your own notes in some cases.
Anyone who gets so bent out of shape over being nominated for Favorites, an innocuous kindly gesture if ever there was, has issues that no dating site design or protocol is going to solve. | |
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| private bookmarking vs favorites
Posted: 9/1/2005 6:22:43 PM | no i wouldn't consider any of them at the bottom of a list. when your browsing its impossible to pick those interesting profiles all at once. its a matter of first come first served, and then it still depends on who contacts you back. So by random chance you just find the profiles and contact them also in that random order of who may contact you back first. You dont know if there still going to be interested after the coffee date or whatever date you have. But I think you should give the first to contact you back a fair shake before contacting everybody on your bookmarks. You might do that kind of juggling if your a player but i'm looking for something that leads to something so i'm not going for quantity.
I don't think its a matter of rating the ones that are on the bookmarks its just random order, but it could be percieved that their on some bottom of a list. Who you finally hook up with might be the last one to contact you that you finally got a coffee date with, but that doesn't mean that they are your last choice. They all should be considered your #1 choices but unfortunetly you can't meet them all at once, so you send out a few messages and whoever seems interested contacts you, in the end its their interest level that makes you not go further into your choices and maybe never if your lucky to meet a great match early.
Soooooo... by keeping the fact that they are one of your choices hidden, it stops hurt feelings that shouldn't be there in the first place.
anyway hidden bookmarks I think are needed. | |
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| private bookmarking vs favorites
Posted: 9/23/2005 9:45:43 AM | I would like this for another reason. There are people who are to far away , or perhaps I am not interested in for other reasons, but I really like thier posts.
Its difficult to remember user names, and sometimes when I add them to my favorites so I can read thier posts on forums, but they get upset that I havent contacted them, or remove themselves becuase I guess I dont fit what they want in a match, and take my bookmarking as an interest. Usually they dont fit me as well, but I like thier writing. If I could add them privately, without making my own profile invisible would help alot (Invisible doesnt really work you do still show up, I had a person demand to know why I added him, I didnt think he could see me.) | |
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