| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 3:32:19 AM | So I’ve been dating my current girl for almost six months I like her and truly care about her well being on a friend level. At first I loved her but I’ve fallen out...
So my question is. Can I keep dating her when I’m not in love with her? Is this fair to her? | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 4:17:45 AM | you feel "OUT" of love in six months? Love just ain't what it used to be, huh?
I've got an idea....if popular opinion says it's OK for you to date again, why don't you find a dating site and put up a profile?
If you are in an exclusive relationship, and are looking behind her back, you don't really CARE about being fair to her, you care about grabbing a little bit of POF attention from starting a thread.
boooooooooooooooooo | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 4:28:41 AM | Pandy is calling it like it is.
I'll entertain your thread. You were probably never "in love" in the first place. As adults, just be honest with each other and move on. Why would you let her dangle ridiculously, if you do not share your love, the way she shares it with you. You can be honest and say it's the sex. That's what it is right? Staying with someone because you don't want to hurt their feelings, hurts all the same. Let her go, so she could do some fishing.
After all it's only fair. | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 6:32:51 AM | Communication dood. Tell her how you're feeling.. its fine to come here and say it, but damnit, tell her. She is the one who counts in this equation.. why are people so hesitant to tell people openly and honestly how they feel, be it good or bad, she will respect you more.
You may respect yourself more, and feel better about it to.
She may want to date still, but if you've lost it, thats not really fair to her, let her move on, break it off.
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 8:19:04 AM | Tell her you do love her, treat her well, and talk of plans of a long happy life with lots of children with her - she'll leave you in the dust.
She doesn't really love you - she's only in love with who she thinks you are. Be honest with yourself and her and you'll be singing a different tune real soon. | |
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JasonB
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Joined: 8/21/2005
Msg: 11 | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 8:53:40 AM | End it......if your man enough.
I don't think its fair to dismiss or question whether you loved her or not, feelings are funny things, but if you clearly aren't interested in her like that anymore, move on.
The only possible reason to stay is your fear of being alone, your need to feed your ego, or an easy life. But its not going to be a happy experience for either of you.
Get some courage and say goodbye for both of your sakes. | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 11:02:52 AM | | If you're really her friend, you should tell her your feelings and let her decide... but don't be surprised if you feel hurt when she finds someone else.... Sometimes we realize too late that we lost something we really care about. | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 11:09:23 AM | Well since everyone on here seeems to be looking for some kind of attention (otherwise I think we would be with famiily friends neighbors and loved ones).
Dude, go pray and meditate somewhere, maybe pay a therapist $70 for an hour, make a list of pluses and minuses. Maybe you do love her, and are just kindof a screwball up there....well that wont help things...but if you dont love her, ask her how she feels, and she may want to dump you, or YOU DONT HAVE TO BE TOGETHER 24/7, how about Friday nite sleepovers. If she is really really nuts about you, you might have to let her go if she cant handle friday nite sleepovers. | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 11:57:16 AM | It's the Piesces in ya.......Trust me, I thought that way before to, but it was just a quick faze that I went through, where I didn't know if I was still in love or not. Then I didn't see her for a couple weeks and talked to her only a couple times (she was on vacation). I realized how much I had missed her and was still in love with her all along
Then she left me a year later.........stupid **** LOL | |
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jdbby
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Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 19 | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/6/2005 1:25:52 PM | | Just become her friend. But just don't blurt out "This isn't working, let's be friends". Just casually turn the relationship slowly into a friendship over time. You can both be close to eachother without the relationship or the pain. | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/7/2005 6:29:47 PM | Youve been dating for 6 months and AT FIRST YOU LOVED HER?
Darlen you need to learn the difference between:
Love vs Lust
When you 1st meet someone there are tons of feelings and emotions when you're into eachother... Sometimes people are too quick to decide and state they are inlove!
You need to buck up and be honest and NOT say I love you if you don't! You'll only break her heart more if you keep leading her on. Now if you've never told her you love her.... that's another story. | |
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| She's in love with me Im not in love with her what do I do
Posted: 9/8/2005 6:06:44 PM | | well what made you want to date her to begin with? I think everyone needs to be honest and upfront with a relationship; be honest on your profile as well. I think both of you need to sit and talk about what each of you want. It is not fair to you or her to continue on knowing there is some false hope there. Tell her how you feel. I promise she will appreciate it in given time. | |
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