| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:01:00 AM | Here is the scenario.
38 yr old man has a couple of intimate encounters with a 20 yr old. Unfortunately, the condom breaks. He tells her to go get the morning after pill. She doesn't get it. He finds out a couple of months later she is pregnant. He tells her to get an abortion. She doesn't.
Now she is threatening him with child support....with her family going after him....writing him emails asking him why he doesn't want to have anything to do with the child. He is at his wits end because he is barely scraping by on the money he has and feeling suicidal. What does he do? | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:05:54 AM | | He should demand a paternity test and step up to his responsibilities if he's the father... | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:08:43 AM | give up his rights to the child if he never wants to see his child or be apart of the baby's life then give up his rights. The abortion and the morning after pill are all her decision she dosent have to do it because he said to and that dosent make her any less of a person in my opinon i would never never get a abortion because the "father" told me to. The only way i would ever get a abortion is if the dr told me for what ever reason that if i went through with the pregenancy there is a chance i and the baby could die. Having that baby is her decision not his if she wants to keep it and he dosent then i guess he should have kept his zipper up espically being 38 and her 20 what did he expect??? someone on his maturity level?? he dug his hole and now he has to find his own way out if it giving up all his rights to his flesh and blood or getting a second job or 3rd job to help out and be apart of this childs life
p.s. this is probalby in the wrong section probably should have put it in single parents | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:08:53 AM | | yes he will get a paternity test before he pays support but his fear is that he is the father of a child that he had no intention of making and this young girl is constantly threatening him. | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:11:21 AM | @ girlracer. Perhaps you are right about the section but to him it was just sex on a date.
Giving up his rights to the child won't stop him having to pay child support.She has him as a hostage to a situation which was an accident. | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:11:49 AM | Take responsibility, the only effective way to not get pregnant is abstinence, Its just something you are chancing when having sex, there should always be a backup method of some kind, she should have been on birth control too. Some people do not believe in abortion.
It sucks that he's broke or whatever, but poor people enjoy sex too, its just sometimes the ending result of a blissful night or lackthereof, is pregnancy..
He should have just stuck with his hand.. it sucks.. its just how life is..
Edit: i reread the OP thread.. Well she had the option to get the morning after pill but didn't, this is a really good subject.. wow.. but i'm sticking to some people do not believe in abortion and that life begins at conception.. and yes a paternity test would be a must for this if it wasn't a monagamous relationship | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:12:04 AM | Well I would suggest the guy make her have a paternity test performed...She obviously was not leading a celibate lifestyle so there is a chance its not his at all...If he doesn’t want to do it because of the cost, well it is damned sure less than 18 years of child support...
edit:The media is full of women claiming someone is their "babies dady", and proved wrong by science...just watch "Jerry Springer" sometime....lol | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:13:40 AM | see what happens when people wear condoms.... you can't get pregnant from an eye shot :P
(sorry sorry sorry) | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:14:21 AM | 38 yr old man has a couple of intimate encounters with a 20 yr old. Unfortunately, the condom breaks.
Unfortunate indeed. However, assuming she didn't have to twist his arm (and I'm sure she didn't), it would appear his "couple of intimate encounters" will end up costing him dearly.
As poet said, a paternity test is definately in order. If he is found to be the biological father I can't see that he has any other choice than to take care of his responsibilities...as he should.....makes no difference that he simply viewed it as "sex on a date" as you said. Time to step up to the plate. | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:17:07 AM | | well until the baby is born he really dosent have to do anything at all. And since im guessing this wasnt a relationship just a sex thing i would wait till the child was born and get a dna test then if the child is mine go straight to a lawyer or the attorney general and put my self on child support so she couldnt try to screw me over. In his case i would probably go to a lawyer so you could make the rules a little stricter like make her meet me in a public place to pick up the child McDonalds??? like alot of people do so there possibly wouldnt be as much arguing (hopefully) just ignore her tell her next time she calls him that she needs to call him when the baby is born so he can go to the hospital for a dna test and once he finds out the child is his he will help her out and be apart of the childs life but until then you phone calls are pointless. If she continues to call i would jsut tell her the same thing and hang up after that she will eventually get the point if not get a restraining order. Another thing tha twill help him out if the child is his save all of the emails espically if they are threatining or mean in any way print them out. Any messages left on phones save them and take all of this to court and present it to the judge it will give him a much better turn out | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:17:09 AM | Giving up his rights doesn't mean he will walk away without any obligtions especially if the young woman is going after him for support.
I hope he enjoyed the sex now it's his turn to get screwed. | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:20:25 AM |
Giving up his rights to the child won't stop him having to pay child support.She has him as a hostage to a situation which was an accident.
yes it will if he signs over his rights as a father he is no longer the father which means he no longer pays child support. Its like adoption you sign over your rights as a parent when you place your child up for adoption that means the adoptive parents cant come back and ask for child support. Your giving up your rights completly you have no say in your childs life what so ever you dont pay child support at least that how it is where i live | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:21:50 AM | | well if i was him i'd wait a lil bit, because there's a good chance she's full of shit and not pregnant at all | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:23:09 AM |
I hope he enjoyed the sex now it's his turn to get screwed.
Yep, that's the bottom line. | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:25:13 AM | Be a man. Take the test! If it's true then be a good father to the child he created during his self indulgent time. It's so sad to see so many men not willing to take responsibility for their own offspring. It's actually embarrassing to be in association with people like this. Only abstinance guarantees no children. If you want to have sex, the you must be willing to pay the piper if he comes calling.
Hopefully he grows up and does the right thing if the test prove he is the father. | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:26:33 AM | | If she is threatening him thell him to put a restraining order on the girl, get the test. If she is 20 and less mature than most people than more than likely she has had more than one sexual partner around this period. Maybe this will be more of a lesson to this man. THe girl on the other hand is in a real bind. If she continues the threats than the man is going to have to call the police sooner or later and file charges. The girl may then be in some serious trouble depending on how far she takes the threats. The police don't look at situations like this lightly anymore. Domestic violence is at an all time high in this country, for both sexes. Women do it too. | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 9:00:05 AM | yes it will if he signs over his rights as a father he is no longer the father which means he no longer pays child support. Its like adoption you sign over your rights as a parent when you place your child up for adoption that means the adoptive parents cant come back and ask for child support. Your giving up your rights completly you have no say in your childs life what so ever you dont pay child support at least that how it is where i live
girlracer, your statement caused me to do a little reasearch of custody support law..."Google" is a wonderful thing...lol...I found that giving up parental rights is not as easy as easy as saying you dont want to be a parent, at least by federal law...this information is from the following links:
www.paternitynet.com/faq06.html
www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cb/publications/adopt02/02adpt6.htm
A father cannot give up his parental rights all by himself. He has a duty to support and to "parent" his child. He can agree to allow someone else to adopt his child if that person is willing to do so. He can lose his parental rights if he does certain things, i.e. neglects the child, abandons it, is unable to parent the child because he is mentally ill or in prison for a very long time, etc. In those circumstances it is the decision of the court and not the biological fathers.
You have the right to refuse to take a paternity test. However, if you refuse, the Department of Health and Human Services can go to court and ask the judge to order you to be tested. If you still refuse testing, the judge could decide that you are the father. | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 9:01:27 AM | | well there you go. all he has to do is neglect the child. problem solved :P | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 9:12:34 AM |
yes it will if he signs over his rights as a father he is no longer the father which means he no longer pays child support. Its like adoption you sign over your rights as a parent when you place your child up for adoption that means the adoptive parents cant come back and ask for child support. Your giving up your rights completly you have no say in your childs life what so ever you dont pay child support at least that how it is where i live
not in all cases as you state in the end.. my daughter's father wanted to sign away his rights the judge okay it but told him he would have to pay support anyway..
in the end he was given supervised visit which hold to this day almost 10 years later and he does pay childsupport. | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 9:20:02 AM | Thanks for the research Hedonistic,
I was sure of my point but too lazy to even Google this morning. Also even in the event of abuse when the rights are terminated the courts can and often will still go after the abusing parent for support..
-and in the cases of adoption it's a different situation, there is another person willing to step up and take responsibility.... | |
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| Pregnant girl threatening
Posted: 9/7/2005 9:23:29 AM | | Giving up parental rights and providing support are two entirely different things. For something like this, he'd better see a family lawyer who is very familiar with the laws in the area that he and the girl live in. If she continues threatening, not only should the police be called in, but a call to the Childrens Aid Society might also be prudent. If she threatens others, then what may she also do with the child? | |
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