| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 1:06:45 PM | | say you got pregnant by someone in a week or you got someone pregnant in a week of knowing them. What would be your decision if u are usually against abortion but you want a solid relationship before having a child. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 1:12:17 PM | | Most of the worst mistakes are made by progressing to stages which should only be considered once the foundations of a healthy, balanced and loving relationship have been established. You have no idea yet whether the person is the right person for you or not and, if not, why gamble with the healthy development of a child this early in the game? | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 1:31:03 PM | | well im not sure yet...but iwas on meds and it may have interfered with my birth control ( biaxin or something or other... itts used for strep etc.) so don't be so quick to judge,,,oh and we have known eachother for about 2 months and it looks like the relationship is good......but still this is a suprise if i am. I am just getting alot of signs that i am, so im a bit worried. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 1:35:09 PM | Ok..I REALLY don't want to "jump" to conclusions here, but your profile says you want more children. And your nic...
Also, why would you not have him wear a condom even though you are on the pill, or whatever contraceptive. Are you not worried about diseases too?
Sorry, but I see the need for a redflag here.. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 1:40:07 PM | | i admit that i am not that good at condoms use...that is one of my weaknesses. Low self esteem i guess? to tell u the truth i don't really know why. I was kind of looking ot adopt more kids if i wanted more, like one from another country or something, so if i am pregnant it is a shock, i;'ve never have had problems before on antibiotics and hte pill, never really thought it would happen even though thye warn u about it. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 1:46:14 PM | I'm not going to judge you as responsible or irresponsible, that's not my deal.
It's just now you have to really think things through carefully.
Whether it be safe sex or birth control.
If you are pregnant and you are against abortion, then having the child seems to be the way to go.
I really don't see having a child as a bad thing, It's still the miracle of life, and you will still love that child.
No way can I tell someone what to do though, it's not my decision to make. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 1:53:16 PM | I really don't mean to come down on you, but lack of "condom use" has nothing to do with self-esteem, but everything to do with common sense. Are you saying you don't have that?
Dr. don't warn people about the side effects of mixing meds for nothing.
I guess the reason I say this, is because I have been careful all my life. I didn't want to end up a single parent so I was cautious. Don't get me wrong, I was, and up until recently, VERY promiscuous, but I didn't get pregnant. Some people call it being responsible, I called it common sense due to the way I was raised. Now, I'm 34 and dating someone that's had three kids and a vasectomy with no chance of wanting more children..and I've accepted that due to my feeling for him...
ANYway, guess what I'm trying to say is that it was a stupid thing to have happen when it could have easily been avoided. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 1:58:03 PM | i love kids, as my name states..but my first two were from a long term relationship that turned into a marriage. We later ended up divorcing due to his drinking. I have never have had ot make the decision about a baby if the guy was not involved or if i barely new him. Like i said before, the relationship seems good. he calls me every day and wants me to meet his parents soon.
My feelings are to figure out myself how i would feel first about abortion or keeping it, than let him know my feelings on it. If i decided to keep the baby i may not tel him til i am three months, that way i can also get a feel for how the relationship is going. I certainatly dont want someone to stay with me cause im pregnant. I think it is better ot not be together and the child see a healthy relationsjip in between parents rather than ones who get married due to their conception who don'rt really love eachother.
What does everyone else think? If i find out in a week or so if i am pregnant, is it right to keep that from him till i make up my own mind and i can assess the relationship? | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 2:03:41 PM | Sure, It's your body and it's your decision. Do what you feel is right. I would advise telling him about your decision eventually though.
I really do wish you the best. Life is precious, and a child can grow to be a great person. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 2:06:53 PM | Ahhh...been there and she's now 16 years old. She will be 17 in December. I was fortunate that I was 28 when I got pregnant after knowing her father for about 6 weeks. Imagine my suprise when I found out I was expecting. Thought I'd had the flu. LOL Anyways, depending on the maturity of the individual, single MOM dom isn't so bad, ya just have to make a lot of sacrifices. I am generally against abortion anyways unless it causes a hazard to the MOM.  | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 2:35:40 PM | | i'm scared ot be a single parent. All of my friends had kids young like my first two, but they still see thier dad 50 percent of the time. My biggeset fear is it not working out with this new guy and i have ot deal with a child by myself if he chooses not to be involved. I have only really been with my ex husband and this new guy. Unknown territory is really scary to me. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 2:40:54 PM | Is it ok to keep the fact he is going to be a father - against his will, so to speak....from him? Hell no.......
Squeak
EDIT: No cut intended here but is sure sounds like you are a lot younger than 28. By 28, you should know better than this situation. And put yourself in this kids shoes....would you want to know your father? My ex left me for another woman when my kids were 2, 4 and 6. And pretty much abandoned them....I think that hurt them far more than anything else...not knowing their dad . He has to know...regardless of whether this "relationship" works out or not. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 3:01:48 PM | Do not be afraid to be a single parent. We are all usually afraid of the unknown, but where would we be if we never tried to venture into the unknown.
Do what you feel is right. I was raised by a single parent and it was tough at times for my mother who happens to be "white", but she still went forth and was willing to raise me. I think I turned out to be a very strong and proud. You never know the potential of your child. It's not a decision to be taken lightly. It's not a joke. It's reality. | |
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vp2
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Joined: 8/29/2005
Msg: 21 | |
| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 3:10:38 PM |
If you get pregnant a week after you meet someone,it shows irresponsibility.You are not responsible to raise a child if you dont grow up first.
you mean to tell me that you have never had unprotected sex in the heat of the moment. No, it's not a good idea, but it happens. It doesn't mean the person is necesarily irrisponsible.
GET THE ABORTION BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE.
soooo, you're telling her to change her beleifs, then. She did state that she doesn't beleive in abortion, most of the time. I, myself, am pro-choice, but would never stand idley by while someone aborted my child.
Yes, single PARENTS have a hard time getting into relationships. However, I know a few people that have had abortions and question that decision every day of their life.
See that cute little guy to the left, in the pic? <------
His mother and I were only together for about 2 weeks when she got pregnant. Obviously we didn't find out right away, but the doc said the conception date was around then. I know a lot of guys who would have bolted as soon as they found out. If the guy is willing to stick around and be a part of the kids life, maybe you should give it a shot. Even though my son's mother, now my ex-wife didn't work out, I don't regret a single thing.
In my opinion, I think you should do whatever your heart is telling you to do. Your head might tell you something else, though. It would've been financially easier if we would've aborted or considered adoption.
Personally, I thank God every day that I made the decision that I did, even though I must sacrifice every day because of it. | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 22 | |
| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 3:17:46 PM | | I think what others said adoption.. my mother was in this situation and adopted the child out because she was only 16 at the time. i met her when i was 30.. and she can out talk me! crazy! but still in all its nice to know i have a sister.. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 3:36:49 PM | Well if you are prego there will be many changes in your life over the next 9 months.
One of the biggest changes will be having to change your body type in your profile. I figure you'll have to change this at least 5 times. | |
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| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 3:45:45 PM | | all i can do is echo vp's thoughts.... my son, whom i love more'n anything, was over a year old before my ex an' i got married; an' tho' my life w/ her was hell, i'd do it again... in fact, now that i'm spillin' my guts, in dec o' '90, i got into a huge car accident on the way to her apartment to BREAK UP w/ her, an was in a coma for 11 days, and rehab for about 18 months. she swore on my deathbed she would never leave me if i lived, an' because she din't, we got pregnant in early '94... so, had i NOT gotten into that wreck, i wouldn't have my son, and i'd go thru alla THAT again, if that's what it took! my friends once told me "every baby is a blessing," an' they could NOT have been more right.... | |
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vp2
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Joined: 8/29/2005
Msg: 25 | |
| getting pregnant by someone u have been dating for a week
Posted: 9/7/2005 4:09:29 PM |
How exactly did you get pregnant? Because you said "we got pregnant".
some men are proud of having children, and like to include themselves and be a part in any way possible. "we" had my son, not just his mother. I took part in the creation of the child, didn't I? | |
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