| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/16/2005 1:48:22 AM | | Going to court again next week - received full custody - and going back to figure out visitation - and possible child support. Anyone had success getting ex-mom to pay child support? Not expecting it, but it would be nice - even $20 bucks a month... | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/16/2005 8:06:15 AM | | I am, by the time my divorce was final there it about 5 months after the papers had been served so when it came time to deal with support it was decided that because of the time between the filing and final decision she was in arrears for the 5 months back support and by law here in WA. it is an automatic wage withholding until all back support is paid. So WHEN she works I always try to find out where and turn that info over to support enforcement. So, you might have to get them involved to get your money. Good luck Sam. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/16/2005 4:21:09 PM | | Awarded yes, received no. But once my son got over her leaving him completely I think I am better off not knowing where she is at. At the custody hearing I told them I did not want any support, but it was awarded anyway. I even told my son's mother that she did not have to pay and could see him anytime. She still chose to run away. That was about 6 years ago, and my son has a great relationship with her parents. They have not heard from her either, so I guess it easy for me to get along with them. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/16/2005 5:17:03 PM | Hey Guys!
Just wanted to add:
1. I simply cannot believe that a Mommy could just up and walk away from her kids! I have two, boy 16 and girl 13. I could never live with myself knowing I had rejected them, not to mention what it does to kids. If I ever did leave, support for my kids would be foremost.
2. Not only do I sole support both of my kids, the ex was clamoring for me to pay him alimnony! Yup, my how things do change. So yes, I totally understand where guys have been coming from for years.
The fellow who said he waived the child support from his ex, and even said was ok for her to visit her kids, has the right take on all of this! Very smart man indeed. JMHO! | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/16/2005 5:25:36 PM | The whole Child support system is flawed and in a lot of cases unfair, and that means both ways.
I have seen women getting 1500 a month plus another grand in alimony so they can live thier lifestyle.
And I have seen decent folks who dont get a dime and dont beotch about it. They just keep on.
Its easy for the courts and lawyers and agencies to say you get X ammount, but its a whole nother story about actually getting it.
Its supposed to be Child support not luxry tax, cant understand why its fair to some and unfair to others.
Kitkat I like the way you think, but some moms arent
Just as some dads arent
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/16/2005 8:42:40 PM | North darlin!
It does make sense! Maybe not to you, but to your child. It shows that Mommy cares enough to pay child support! The very fact that my ex walked an didnt give a crap, has been a hard pill for my chillens to swallow! I know not enough, but at least it makes the point hun! BTW????? Luve your posts kid! Take care | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/17/2005 5:28:15 AM | | I have never asked for any money from my ex, my 15 year old daughter does a pretty good job of that all by herself!!! lol I'm amazed that courts actually have to get involved to tell the parents to pay up for their OWN kids. Kind of scarey is'nt it??? When the daughter lived with the ex I just asked her how much she wanted and she gave me a number and I gave her 12 post dated cheques for the year. When the daughter ended moving in with me, the ex ripped up any remaining cheques, and then asked me how much I would like. I really did'nt see a need for it, because her mother is always involved with the daughter's clothes shopping etc. Then again, the ex and I are a little different anyways, we may dislike each other, but we do love our daughter. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/17/2005 7:44:52 AM | | Well the courts here in Canada, say that doesn't matter male or female, even if both have a child, the parent making the more money, must pay a %, of the differences in incomes. My only problem is, i do not believe it is in his best interest. But the courts say that as the age of 12 it is really up to the child as long as there is no abuse, neglect, they are sheltered, feed.... | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/17/2005 10:35:27 AM | kitkat45, what you said on your first post about you couldnt believe that a Mom could just up and walk away from their kids, just wanted you to know that their are moms out there that do that.
My ex did it, even after we agreed to visitation and child support. She pops in every 2-3 months for a day with my daughters whenever. No advance notice too, just knock on the door and there she is
Agreement was for every 1st and 3rd Weekend and only $100 a month for child support. The money doesnt concern me, just the fact that she has no desire to see her daughters. Trust me though, I do agree on the fact that I dont understand how a Mom could do that, even after her mom left her when she was 3 years old.
Ive stopped trying to understand and moved on | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/17/2005 11:07:02 AM | | Im my state is has set guide lines for child support it based on income of both partents. If she does not pay you can have her driver liecence revokeda and sent to jail. they uslly set them up on weekend jail till they are paid in full. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/17/2005 2:34:08 PM | | Nope, I have been divorced since my daughter was 8 months old, she's 14 now, and her mom immediatley had herself declared mentally incapable of holding and maintaining a job, so even thought the judge said she had to pay a minimal $100 per month, she has never had to pay anything. If the situations, and roles had been reversed, I would have been forced to pay for 80% of the costs of raising my daughter, as it is, I pay 100% and don't miss having the ex around. Since she doesn't bother to even call when she wants to see my kid, I don't have to take her for a visit if I don't feel like it. It was court ordered for her to give me two weeks notice before a visit, and I am NOT required to drive my daughter the 94 miles to see her mom. If she wants to see her, she has to come here, and I don't even have to let her in the house,(I do if it's cold outside, but I don't let her boyfreinds in the door :P) Just take the loss, and don't ever count on uncle Sam being on the guys side. You got lucky just getting custody. Me | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/17/2005 5:24:10 PM | Thanks for all the replies.
Will post results from Thursday (9/22/05) court date on this thread.
Not expecting a penny, but it would be nice.
She receives $ from the other fathers of her kids but disallows all contact between them and their fathers, and tells them she receives nothing from them. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/17/2005 6:07:44 PM | kitkat ..
I disagree .. it states that the court ordered her .. shes fought paying me that since day one ... yet when she had custody she wanted me to pay 4 times as much.
ELISE ... In Canada ... yes it states a percentage .. problem is .. thats GROSS income... and for self employed people ... thats crap ... it may look like you make alot of money in income ... but they dont take your expenses and overhead into consideration.
This shouldnt be about how much you can get from the other party .. it should be how much does it cost to raise the child(ren). | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/17/2005 11:26:48 PM | I can tell you that as the NCP of 3 wonderful little boys, I voluntarily pay my support. I gave birth to them, so it's my responsibility to help take care of them. While my boys lived with me, my ex paid nothing. His problem, not mine. It wasn't that I needed the help, it was the principle of the issue. Now that he has custody, even after a voluntary support order, I got drug back into court. I now pay close to $1500. Yes, I'm self-employed. However, I take home only minimum wage(all I needed to live on). I got screwed the minute he called OK's child support division.
I don't mind paying. But, I do mind him using the state CS division as a means of continued control over me. Doesn't say much good about him where my kids are concerned. But, at least my boys know I do my best to see to their needs, even when the CS is used for their Dad's cigarettes, purchasing a boat for his and his wife's use, etc.
I guess I'll never understand what makes a woman think she should be excluded from CS just because she's female. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/18/2005 6:41:01 AM | | I have had no luck either collecting support. All she has to pay is 156.00 a month. I have had full custody of my daughter for 4 years and never received a dime. She missed birthdays and holidays. The only time she sees her mother is when I go back home to visit my mother. I just don't understand how a parent can miss such things. We do live 4 hours away from her but I set up a time for her to call once a week and she could not even make that deadline. I wish everyone luck in raising their children. It can be real hard but I know that the best thing I ever did was go for custody of my daughter. She is my pride and joy and could not imagine living without her. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/18/2005 12:28:44 PM | | I have been awarded child support since January of this year. I've managed to get my ex to pay the first two months. Oklahoma state laws state though that if child support is ordered and not taken care of for 14 of 16 months, it's ground to remove parental rights. So, I'm holding out. There is no custody order right now but if she doesn't pay the support she'll owe the state a buttload as well as me and she'll lose our daughter altogether which I don't think she cares about. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/18/2005 2:57:17 PM | Good news Sam,
It's possible. I was a Staff Seargent in the Marine Corp and living in San Diego, California when I took my ex-to court for custody. My little girl was only 3 at the time and her mom had a step-son from a previous relations ship. I proved my case and got Full custody, with her getting visitation. I get Child Support, and half of all Medical, Dental, and Day Care expenses. I wasn't expecting any of that but I wasn't just going to give up my daughter to her mom. It was brought to my attention that it just goes to show that even men have rights when it comes to kids, they just got to push for them. It's been almost 7 years know and I couldn't be any happier. Good luck man, I'm rooting for ya.... | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/18/2005 8:04:47 PM | Well I was awarded it, took a year + to get it awarded if you can call $50.00 a month child support after she didn't pay a dime for anything once I had the kids. Just disappeared instead. I am finally getting some now after two years.
I guess it boils down to which state you are in. Each one is different but as far as I knkow if she ups and disappears then she has to pay. Usually isn't much for some reason while they like to stick it to the fathers.
It is happening more often in more states now that the dads are the custodial parents so maybe it will eventually even out. | |
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