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Posted: 11/29/2004 12:08:01 AM | i cant beleive this sh*t. i finally meet my soulmate. a whole year of me, changing for the better, because of this girl. just 5 days ago, she was holding me and telling me how much she loved me, and would never hurt me. then she up and moves out without telling me and doesnt call or answer her phone. 1 week till today, and ive been devistated wondering, where she is? what i did? whats going on?.....
then i see her tonoght with her x boyfriend. i had bought her a ring and everything.................
talk about heart break !!!!!!!!!!
i would buy her flowers all the time. i did things i whave never done before. she brought out a side of me i never knew i had. what now ????????? | |
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Posted: 11/29/2004 3:52:20 AM | People don't seem to communicate that much any more----------your girlfriend should at least talk to you about what's going on, and through that at least you'd get a better understanding of what's on her mind. Why she went etc, she owes you that.
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Posted: 11/29/2004 7:46:27 AM | | Maybe she got scared..give her a few more days to chill out and make a real effort to talk to her. If nothing else you may get a little closure. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2004 3:53:06 PM | | Wow...bummer....sorry that had to happen to you. If she doesnt wanna talk about what happened and you can think of nothing you did, then I say let sleeping dogs lie. Perhaps things are better left unsaid because it is so wrong she is ashamed to tell you. Don't force it, give her time to come to you and/or time for yourself to move on if need be. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 1:11:36 AM | well...i finally talked to her. this is the story. she and i had made an agreement awhile back, not to go to the clubs, because we had each other and they wre dumb places tpo go where people are basically looking for other people.
well...she calls me sunday after i tried to call her five times(no answer). but she leaves message saying shes going to babysit her sisters(well known club hoe), kid. but she goes to voice mail and turns her phone off. so i know she is going to the club. so i called her phone and left message she did not have to lie.
the next day she say she tired of me not trusting her, and she wanted to move out. so she left.
for 1 week i could not sleep or eat. i sat in my window like a little b*tch and cried waiting for her to comeback.
today i talked to her and she said she did lie and went to club. (???????) so why did she leave and hurt me. then i dragged it out that she ****ed some other guy 2 days after wew break up. then 5 days later when i see her with another guy. she said she just met him and only kissed him....... :(
buty i love her and have never cheated on her or left her side. do i stick with her and give her all my love till i cant no more????? | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 10:35:31 AM | Certainly not, cut your losses and move on. She would appear to have more interest in shallow short term flings than long term committed relationships.
Learn from the experience and move forward with your life. During the tough times ahead just remember, this too shall pass.... | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 11:08:56 AM | There is very little that can be said right now that eases the pain or make much sense. Right now what you want to hear and what you need to hear are very different things. This makes it difficult for you to accept anything right now. I know this because I've been there, and many days I still am. My wife of nearly 8 years just barely did the same thing to me, only she took everything I had including the kids. Some days I just wish to fall apart or lay down and die. Others I am strong enough to move mountains and proceed with life. The best thing to do is take life one day at a time.
Don't go back to her, don't let her come back to you, and don't think about what could be or what might have been. Each day becomes a step and all you need to do is take that one step. Soon you will be able to look back over a month and realise how far you've come.
Only you know what you need in life, but I assure that if she were your "soul mate" then she would still be with you. "Soul Mates" don't walk away. Family and friends, companions and lovers, those all walk away. A soul mate doesn't go on without it's mate. you may have really liked her in a lot of ways, but you never touched her soul. Harsh, but it is what I believe.
~Gotta Luv Me~
G.
P.S. Be strong, and may this all come out well for you both. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 11:55:34 AM | | Beware the Poison....she has moved on and it would only be more heart break if you were to hang around. Speaking from the experience of an agonizing 4 year relationship, I would say take some time out for yourself. Surround yourself with people who really love you and let the healing begin. If there is now where you feel you can turn then I suggest committing to a rewarding self explorative project. It is tons better than throwing yourself in another relationship, some strangers bed, the bottle or drugs. It is a rough road less traveled, but it's necessary if you want to love and trust a woman ever again. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 12:39:39 PM | o.k..so there is this a mix of emotions running thru me right now..
one says...say something counseling and soothing, that will make the man grow and have a happier life...
the other says..
Teach the guy all sorts of evil stuff to get back at the manipulative, scamming f'n bi*tch and make her hurt...
Next time you see her..spit in her face...cut off the finger that would have held the ring, see the voodoo lady that can make your ex suffer...
but really....have sweet revenge..start humping her mom, sister, cousin and best friends..take pictures sell them on the internet, make millions, and lounge on an Island with all the girls who only want you for your money...
( reverts back to lotus position..and breathes...) | |
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| WOW......im so hurt!
Posted: 11/30/2004 3:56:35 PM | sorry to hear you got hurt bro..i think now when it seems to be going good look out.. i had the samething play out in my life a time or two..
take the possitives you have learned from it, grow and go find a real women. that one dosent know what she wants.. i will bet you money in 3 months you will get a call from her then she will spilt again. know the pain and hurt are normal and it will take you time to heal.. give your self time and understand there will be good days and bad.. hang in there figure your one step closer to meeting the right women and knowing what you need to know to make her happy. again.. sorry you got hurt | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 4:34:56 PM | | Im sorry, I have to ask...if you are in a committed relationship for over a year, why do you have a profile on pof and more specifically looking for a WOMAN? Im not being judgemental, but just want to get a good idea of what is really going on before I blame the girl entirely. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 4:52:18 PM | | I totally missed that luvgoddess, great question. He registered here in February so it's not like this just happened and he registered yesterday. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 5:06:01 PM | | kyro, are you sure you did nothing to offend her? my x and i were living together and on a wednesday night we went out. everything appeared fine. he worked on thursday and helped hid dad work on a car thursday night. he was asleep when i got home. he got up and left for work on friday morning, without speaking. he never came back and it's been 4 months. i can't blame anyone but myself cause i was slipping and f****** my x and he found out. if you saw her with her x, more than likely she was already seeing him when you two were together. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2004 10:11:33 AM | | i had this profile before i met her...after i met her i never even logged in once. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2004 10:23:30 AM | i talked to her some more to find out details. she has been talking to this other guy who has a girlfriend for about 6 months of good and bad times in our relationship. she said it was just hard to beleive she could have such a good man. and they were only friends..(yeahh!!). her sister tried to hump me once, and i turned her down and told my girl about it...
anyway.. she said if i give her another chance to prove she loves me, she will show it and it will be worth it.
if you really love someone, do you show them by forgiveness and giving them chances. or do i go (matrix) on her, and vamooooos. im so confused. when i was young, i grew up around, gang members and pimps.
they tought me how to not have feelings and how to act, and react towards situations. i have never loved like this before. i have a good (music production career). i am almost at my goals. death row records has tried to hire me 3 times in the last 5 years. i have learned to be cold and strong over my years. ...
but then she brings warmth and sunshine into my life. and i feel like it was all fake now, because she was talking to someone else, the whole time. she said she is still young and it is no excuse, but she realizes how it feels to be without me. and she only slept with that guy to get over thinking about me. in the past i have had this many times happen to me...i would laugh. it never ever hurt. i never ever cared. im i growing up myself?
is it the right thing to do, to give her another chance, ..for loves sake? | |
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Posted: 12/2/2004 10:43:49 AM | | Dude....no offence but dump that biatch! No use crying over spilled milk. It is better that you found out now than aftr you gave her the ring...isn't it? If you are trying to convince us that you are okay with the fact she slept with someone else...forget it we aren't that stupid. This will no doubtly keep coming up time and time again, your trust has been squashed. Can you trust her to go out with her sister again? Can you expect her to not ever go out with her sister again. Life's too short move on. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2004 10:59:47 AM | I have been there, done that, been on both sides of the fence. You are on your way to the top...Divorce = half of everything....Sometimes More!!!
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Posted: 12/3/2004 11:35:36 AM | yeah.. i guess you all are right. last night she begged and cried, and said she would do anything to be with me. i told her since her whole family has this misconception of me, because they always saw i mistrusted her.
they thought i was some over jealous control monster. but deep down inside, i knew something was wrong.
so i told her to call her mom, and other family, and tell them the whole truth. ....... she did.
she called her mom, and told her how her sisters talked her into being a little slut like them. how i always was there for her, and she cheated and slept around on me. im sure that was a hard thing to do. but it doesnt ease my pain.
funny thing is, i was married 5 years ago. the woman cheatd and got pregnant by someone else, 6 months into are relationship. ...and it didnt even hurt. not like this one!
i must have the worst luck with females. every single one has tooken advantage of my kindness. and they always run back to the guy that mistreats them, and beats them..... huh? go figure! | |
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Posted: 12/3/2004 11:39:03 AM | oh yeahh.. thanx everyone for your input and advice. beleive it or not, it helped alot.
and much cheaper than therapy...!!! | |
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Posted: 12/3/2004 12:21:15 PM | thank goodness she did it now , and showed you what she was all about before
you went way to far and got mareid to her , she is not a nice girl, you ae lucky shes gone.
ps dont b to needy it wil ony get yo i a mess , love your self and makeyour elf feel goodabout your life and nice weman will come your way , you will see.  | |
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Posted: 12/3/2004 1:07:37 PM | | something still smells like bullsh*t...you had the profile up in february but youve been with her for a year. Im not undermining you anguish, but women don't generally cheat unless there is something lacking in the relationship. Not to say there aren't some horny b*tches out there who will shag anybody, but biologically those are the facts. Therefore Im not completely buying the sob sorry. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2004 6:16:03 PM | sorry you feel that way... if theres anyway to check when the last time i logged then be my guest.
it hasnt quit been a full year. i met her in feb. it wasnt serious till the end of feb. you will see i havnt logged in till the other day. i am not the most perfect man, but i was true and faithful to her. the reason she did what she did, is cause her mind frame is like yours. never trusting, always suspecting.
and thats where i messed up. i should have been like that. but i wanted it to work, because i beleived i had met the one girl that wasnt like the rest. thats why it hurt so bad. i told my self she was worth giving 100%.
and now that i think back on all the arguments she tried to blame on me, it was all bullsh*t. all the good times, all the bad times. and there wasnt that many bad times. all bullsh*t. i really didnt do anything wrong to her.
i changed alot about myself for her. i am quick tempered and get hurt and angry very easy. but i controlled alot with her. every fight we had, i bought flowers and apologized, wether it was my fault or not. the only problem she said she had with me was i didnt beleive alot of the things she was telling me later in our relationship... and i wouldnt have been like that if i didnt feel deep down in my heart there was something going on. ....it turned out all my bad feelings that she tried to make me feel bad and guilty about, were true.
the heart never lies.... but for our whole relationship, hurts. i have to beleive people can change,..because i did for her. but d*mn... to accept all the gifts and ring, and dinig and romantic times, then get on the phone with another guy, after holding me and telling me she loves me sooo much and im her soulmate.
the first time i saw her, ..i turned to my friend and said there goes my future wife. (true story).
i even told her 2 months into the relationship. she said she felt something about me.. and she approached me, not the other way around. and she is so beautiful too....
(*&^*&^ $^%#% #@$#&%^(*&- !!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2004 4:39:38 PM | luvgoddess....I am not trying to start anything here, but you are full of crap if you honestly think that women will not cheat unless something is lacking in a relationship. That is like saying men will not cheat unless something is lacking in a relationship. If someone is going to cheat it is going to happen no matter what their partner does. They will find ways of justifying it to themselves and anyone who finds out about it by passing the blame on to their partner. I can say this as a person who has never cheated, but been cheated on.
To me the fact remains that no matter how you look at it, she lied to you bud. She lied about going to the club, and got pissed when you asked about it. Then on top of that she betrayed your trust with another guy. She obviously is not what you thought she was and though she wants you back, she will likely do it again. Move on and find someone worthy of your trust. | |
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