| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/19/2005 9:34:27 PM | this guy so took me off guard with what he does for a living that i am still in dismay and in shock... lolol... when he told me he was an escort i said to myself... well, the past is the past, but i better be extra careful with safe sex if i ever feel inspired that way... lol...
well today he mentioned he did some escort jobs last week and wants to relax, so why don't we meet for cofee tomorrow and get a room...lolol... i said no room, i'll have cofee with him...
but as far as dating, i don't know, i kinda... don't know?
what makes it difficult is evrything else i like about him... he is so laid back, so into self growth, so much the type of personality i enjoy, say-it-like-it-is type u know? smart and and cute too, so he has a lot of the ingredients that make a sucessful recipe with me....
i'm confused, so this is one for the crowds and my smarrrrrrrt women out there... what do you girls think? | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/19/2005 9:39:37 PM | | most women would say no because they don't wanna share their man with others.i would say no because i would want the man to have enough energy left to **** me.or maybe i would just **** with him on one of his day off...but i wouldn't date him that's for sure. | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/19/2005 9:42:17 PM | | Honestly, if I was in that situation before I started getting serious with this guy I would want to know for sure that his "escorting" days are over. I know for a fact that I wouldn't appreciate my man taking other women out for a night. It could just be the insecurities in me but I myself know that I wouldn't be able to handle that. | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/19/2005 9:47:07 PM | | i mean i would not be in a serious rel with someone who is unfaithful either, but we just started getting to know each other, so it's not like we are even dating yet, you know? | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/19/2005 10:57:41 PM | INteresting how we both find our challenges at the same time.
BOTH you and I are looking into KNOWINGLY painful and challenging positions Med.
I hope that our souls are strong enough.
I suggest that you do not. Intimacy issues..sex issues (yes)....history which put him there and also found in there....fidelity issues (maybe)........why is he still doing it....and...such.
However; nobody here is strong enough to sway you from whichever decision you decide to make.
I know this..but..I guess that I can try.
Be well... be strong... be happy k?
I Luv ya bud. ;)
Never lose that heart; it matters just a tad too much. Some may try to turn it black. (nice try..uh un.)
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/19/2005 11:38:37 PM | | Oh God... nah, probably not. But not even because the dud sleeps wit other women. Its the fact that he's so stupid that he has to rely on a pretty face to gey him a paycheck. When that turns into wrinnkles and sag, he'll be a ****ing hobo. | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/20/2005 12:43:25 AM | | Nope..I would not feel comfortable in such a relationship. Every time he went on a "job", I would be wondering what they are doing at the moment. I am a greedy lil' thing..lol..won't share my Coke (Cola!!), and certainly not my man!! | |
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medana
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Joined: 3/15/2005
Msg: 10 | |
| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/20/2005 12:44:34 AM | thank u al for input so far... all very valuable...
frrosty,
love u too bud :)))
very enlightening input... it is true he must have issues that relate both to intimacy or fear of it, and sexuality... hhmm... funny, because there are the things i have been working on in my own life these past couple weeks, meaning where have i acted out of fear and withdrawn from people, and where have i entrapped myself in such strict dating rules that i built walls? u know me, i've been more of a loner than a party goer :)
so i guess i am stirring waters as i seek to cleanse them, and as stuff comes to the surface from the depths, it manifests itself physically thru people that come into my life to mirror it back to me.....
that is wonderfully enlightening, thank you again! see, that's what friends are for :))) | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/20/2005 1:01:04 AM | hmmm.... you do realize that most male escorts
service male clientelle ?
male for female escorts are few and far between.
Colonel Angus | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/20/2005 1:03:18 AM |
hmmm.... you do realize that most male escorts
service male clientelle ?
male for female escorts are few and far between.
Colonel Angus
Very very true. | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/20/2005 1:07:37 AM | | I am like a dog..very territorial if I am so much too sniff out another non friend female on my man..I am gonna attack him and the other woman.To be specific I am like a german shepherd and I do not share. | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/26/2005 12:38:32 AM | Damn... just as I was about to offer up my services---LOL
BTW... i agree with the above mentioned.... most male escorts are gay. | |
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 17 | |
| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/26/2005 7:03:00 AM | | Well if he's as intelligent as you say he is, then I'm sure he could find a different job if he really wanted to get out of selling his body. So if he doesn't leave the business he's either not too bright or not into being in a faithful rel, either one is a big no no for me! | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/26/2005 7:38:59 AM | Some people can not put emotions to sex.... and some put emotions.... to it...
I personally, don't think I could handle dating someone that was an escort.. knowing they are most likely having sex with other women. When I'm in a relationship... I want to be his one and only and visa versa... Hmmm call me selfish!
I think you need to talk to him about it....
What he does...
How he feels about it..........
so you can kind of decide....
If you seems so perfect.. you need to remember as an escort it's his job to make a woman feel desired..... be a good conversationalist...... and you know the rest! | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/26/2005 7:44:40 AM | | Besides, how do you know he hasn't picked up any creepy crawlie friends while he was with his "clients"? Female prostitutes have that problem in a big way, male prostitutes can't be much different. | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/26/2005 9:32:10 AM | Well, Medana, it's all gonna come back down to what do you think?
I have first-hand experience when it comes to the drama of consciously and very deliberately breaking down self-imposed rules and barriers concerning dating, courtship, love, what it means, and what it doesn't mean. And while I know that the experience ultimately promises to be liberating and lead to stronger, more genuine relationships, initially, it's disconcerting.
That's why children need and secretly crave rules. Rules set parameters. They provide a safe zone in what even kids know can be a f-ed up world. Take away the rules and you've got to trust ... other people and your self. It's still a back and forth for me, but I've been spinnin' on this earth long enough to trust that my intuition and base of experiences are adequate guides -- most of the time! I think that's the path you're on, too. So it looks like your dilemma is one that stems from the problem of expectations.
Expect nothing and you'll never be disappointed, right? Right. But while I get the impression that you've allowed your set of expectations to become less rigid, you haven't eliminated the concept outright. Who does?
To you, Mr. Escort has everything going for him -- except for one thing. The escort part. You don't want to fall back into what you might perceive as an old habit of throwing out the baby with the bathwater, but at the same time, let's face it: You still have expectations. And hell, maybe your prospect is just a gigolo, but even David Lee Roth had expectations, too. 
What does it mean for someone to make a "successful recipe" with you? Are you looking for that Other Half or are you looking for a fabulous guy to spend the other half of tomorrow with?
I went into my last long-term relationship knowing full-well that I wasn't going to be marrying the guy. My ex felt the same way about me. We still found purpose and meaning in our being together and so we went for it and it worked while we wanted it to work. For some people, marriage or a final union isn't the goal for every relationship that they pursue at every time in their lives. The goals change as we change. The trick is in cozying up with romantic prospects who share our relationship goals. What do you want out of Mr. Escort? Is he able to meet your expectations as-is and with no alterations?
I got a kick out of Mr. Escort's line about coffee and a room. Cute sh*ts and giggles for me, but I'm not the one who's considering him a potential "successful recipe." Do you need to be dating him, whatever "dating" means to you? Would anything else be satisfying and fulfilling? Just be ready to accept that pursuing this cat might require you to step away from the idea of "dating." There might be another way to explore a relationship with him without compromising your integrity or squeezing him into a different box. To me, the fact that you're pulling hairs over who he is, as-is, isn't a red flag, necessarily, but a sign that getting to know him romantically might require you to revisit what you want out of a relationship.
Maybe you don't have to write-off someone who has a lot of the "ingredients" you're looking for, but realize that you might be coming up with a different brew. Is that OK with you?
And I know we try so hard to get away from the R-word when we've only met someone and barely know the person. The reality, however, is you've already gone there; you're already thinking about dating him; you're already deliberating over whether you can. I really don't think the problem has so much to do with what he does for a living (That's a separate issue!), so much as it has to do with expectations.
I'm big on expectations, so get ready to see the word again: Mutual expectations need to established, or we wind up nurturing a lot of insecure navel-gazing when we should be actively pursuing the relationship instead! In any case, I know where you're coming from with your post. These are concepts and ideas that I'm just learning to apply to my going-ons, as well. Everything is process, right? 
Namaste. | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/26/2005 9:43:13 AM | | I think dating an escort would be asking for more drama then anyone deserves. That is a bit much i think. you will never really trust him and you will always wonder about stuff in the back of your mind. | |
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| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 9/26/2005 10:09:01 AM | you do realize that most male escorts
service male clientelle ?
note to self: "cancel interview at escort agency" | |
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medana
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Joined: 3/15/2005
Msg: 25 | |
| girls, would you date an escort?
Posted: 10/7/2005 9:18:31 PM | i have to be blunt about the servicing male clientele thing... let me just say that i like boys who like boys and girls too... lolol.... i love bi men... i think they are smoking hot, better lovers as they are less regimented and have less fears, more in touch with their sensuality, the feminine side... i would date a bi man over a straight guy any day, if it were down to that...
but having said that, i realized this man was definitely not for me... it did not take more than a few weeks to realize that he is one of those people that want to be something else but dont have the consistency and strength to... and i have learnt to listen to the feeling behind the thought, rather than to what they say.. actions speak louder than words, and his interaction with me within a few weeks' span showed me he is inconsistent and irrational under the veil of a deep longing for inner truth and wisdom...
he says the words, but they evaporate and dissipate, creating nothing but bubbles sparkling, fragile, exploding in the air...
thank you everyone for your input! And maven, hun, you rockin!!!  | |
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