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Posted: 9/20/2005 2:20:23 PM | I am sure this has been posted before if so I am sorry to re-hash it.....but hey this is how I feel. I am ready to give devote myself and settle down, i am looking for a partner a friend and a lover....funny thing is, I still wake up in the morning alone. Is there life after divorce? or am I going to have to just get use to have the bed all to myself? I try to read this quote everday and hope it makes me feel better "
it's better to be single and happy than stuck in a rut with a dud. Being single is a great opportunity to grow as a person--to appreciate yourself and your idiosyncrasies. The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled and Independent.
Sounds good right? Suposse to make you strong, and secure right? well howcome my heart still hurts and I find myself cuddled in a blanket at night alone and praying that someone will come into my life? Or am I weak?
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Posted: 9/20/2005 2:33:27 PM | Ms Elegance.. what you're feeling morose about is that despite any bad experiences in the past, you still have a lot of love left in your heart and you'd probably love nothing more than to share it with a special person (that's MY story anyways.. you can only have so much "self love"  ) Hang in there doll!!  | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 2:36:15 PM | I have been where you are and find that its better to go with all those feeling your having, feel them, acknowledge them then when you yourself get tired of feeling them is when you begin to move on. Remember that Divorce or any breakup does have grieving period.
Learn what you like again, learn what makes you smile, learn what it is you like about yourself and better that. Learn to really like who you are and take this time to chance what you dont.
Before you get involved again, be totally involved with yourself. When you know what you want, that will step in front of you. When your insecure, one who preys on that will step into your space which will lead us back to the beginning of this thread.
Good luck to you honey and remember, being alone doenst mean that you have to be. Have fun, go out, kiss a lot amoung other things you feel like doing if you choose. Company is only a phone call away.
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Posted: 9/20/2005 2:38:22 PM | thank you for your response and you know your right, but I have been single for almost 2
years now and I just want to share myself with someone. It seems so hard to find that person
who is on the same thought process as you are. Most people either it be men or woman
seem to be into games and hurting anyone and everyone who comes in thier path. I just
want something real, I want something to grow with. I am just losing hope. I know I am
young as some of you might say, but inside I have an old soul .....maybe its the one who is
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Posted: 9/20/2005 2:43:30 PM | It might seem pretty hard to pick up and keep going at times, but the hardest things in life carry the greatest rewards. The best measure of a person's strength is not if they get knocked down or not, but if they have the ability to get up and keep fighting afterward. If you want someone in your life and you're willing to look, then you'll find someone.
Yeah, there is always a period after a breakup when you feel like total hell. For some people, it can be a LONG period...don't worry. Just keep looking and you'll find what you seek. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 2:56:05 PM | There IS life after divorce,it's a life of love,fun,security,precious moments.I know i'm divorced and i am now best friends with my ex.We love each other,,,,being apart makes it easy.
What makes my days wonderful is the man that comes home to me every day,wakes up next to me every single day and simply says i love you.
Hold on chicky to happy thoughts and love will find you again,,,,all in good time.The one for you is really worth waiting for.
I no longer hurt inside for romantic love but i responded anyway. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 2:58:44 PM | | Well girl this sounds alot like me as well i can feel what your feeling and i have as well been 2 yrs single razing a almost 4 yr old boy all alone and working to hard to make everything work for us.Well i was working i just got laid off from work and i try to look at it as "God doesn't give anything you can't handle" even if it is to much at the moment and evenually things will get better with time.My ex got a new girl not to long after our break up and i am struggling here to find my special person to want to be in my life.To share the happy moments with,to have adult conversation and to long in his eyes to and say with alot of emotion that i want him forever.I want that more then anything but then i look at it this way it will happin when least expect it and then you will have everything you are looking for. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 3:03:20 PM | I've been separated for 3 years. Several months ago I thought I had found THE one. As it turns out recently, I found I wasn't.
Truly stinks, but I have to be comforted by the fact that I had wonderful, incredible and heavenly feelings for the last 5 months.
While sad, I figure that if I found 'it' once, I'll find it again.
I hope this happens for you as well.
Ooops, gotta go 
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Posted: 9/20/2005 3:11:24 PM | ms ele... there is hope, and there is life after divorce. Albeit different, there is a wonderful life after divorce. Having been through it and dealing with it for over three years now, I have an inkling of how you must feel. And I understand the old soul post as well. Sometimes that seems to be a curse doesn't it? Please don't give up hope, and please continue to love and care for yourself. And hold on to that blanket in the night, I use a pillow. And continue to ask for someone, and in the meantime, develop you.
Your heart hurts because your human and you feel. Would you rather be like the one who hurt it? Do you think they hurt? You're not weak, just a human with all the fraility that comes with it. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 3:19:57 PM |
I have been single for almost 2 years now and I just want to share myself with someone. [/quite] I envy you with stats like that.. 2 years and young. Try 5 years single and being 45.. and having an old soul to boot.. lol It'll happen for YOU..right when you least expect it..  | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 3:29:00 PM | | my husband of 15 years left 3months ago with of all people an exotic dancer to put it nicely i have found my indepedance and inner strengh and all those things but i still cry everyday for me and my son how long has it been for you because even though i feel better i dont now that i will ever be cvompletly healed not even by time i think there is always a scar its like i am in remission and ready to live again but not cured i dont know does anybody know how long it takes or what it takes to get better. good luck to everyone else who feels this way it sucks | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 3:51:58 PM | you all sound like wonderful loving people, who are smart and beautiful. I dont have the
answers to heal all wounds or I would not have posted this. I guess it would be okay if I had
a really good girlfriend to chill with, someone who I could have tea with and go shopping and
take the kids to the park. Be there to support each other....but I cant seem to even find
that....I just need a friend...i know someone out there feels the same....if any of you single
moma's need a gal friend who will be there for u...let me know...maybe together we can help
each other heal through support and love....its just an idea. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 4:14:58 PM | Wow....that is exactly how I feel alot of times. I wish I knew some words to give you that will comfort you darlin'. But if I did, I would give them to myself. My birthday is this Thursday, and I am spending it alone. I mean, I have friends who will celebrate it with me.
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Posted: 9/20/2005 4:32:00 PM | ms_elegance_25 :
Most people either it be men or woman
seem to be into games and hurting anyone and everyone who comes in thier path.<<<< My last boyfriend was like that. Either I did things exactly as he said, or I could hit the road. He would call me stupid and be as cruel as you can imagine on the phone. He would go out of his way to insult me if I didn't do something to his specifications.
So now I have been alone for a year. Sure, I have dated in that time. But the guys I seem to find are not interested in a woman with a 15 yr old son. And hey...its a package deal. I know how you feel hun. Like there will never be anyone for just you alone. Isn't it sad? Surrounded by so many people on the face of this earth...and still alone. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 7:31:40 PM | Hi there ,
I understand how you feel all too real , i myself i am curled up in bed praying that some one comes in to my life, but i think the the man upstairs has a reason why you and myself are single, i do not question , but i live my life the best way i know how , i do not hurt anybody or judge them for there faults , it will all come together when you least expecting it ,
"it is best to be hated for who you are , then be loved for who you are not"
it's a lyric from a Van Zant song ,
it has a lot of meaning in today's world and in socity.
Sincerly
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Posted: 9/20/2005 8:40:22 PM | There were so many years where I felt this way. For years I cried myself to sleep. I sought escape in many forms, but only ended up becoming more miserable. Once in a while I still do long to be with someone, though it's not as bad as it used to be. I don't cry myself to sleep any more. I don't spend that much time thinking about it.
I've been hurt too many times to have real hope. Sometimes I get sick enough of stuff and give it a go, but I always come back to square one. Maybe I've become scared of it on some level and don't want to run the risk of being truly close to someone. I can't believe that anybody will love me for me.
This crap about loving yourself sounds nice. In my case, I have some wounds that never healed. For the longest time I thought that if I could just experience true love, I might be able to let go of the things that have been holding me back.
I doubt you are half as screwed up as I am. You are just going through a rough time. You have a kid. Maybe you've been burned, but eventually you'll be able to move on. I may too, if I can figure out how to live in the present and let go of all my pain. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 8:43:39 PM | ms_elegance_25: My god you're hot!
Everyone: For the broken hearted thing, yeah it's tough but no matter what I won't let myself give up in reguards to finding the girl of my dreams, I don't care how long it takes. and yes I know I'm likely to have my heart broken again, but someday all the pain will pay off, it will pay off for all of us. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2005 9:10:08 PM | I think that being lonely is a state of mind. Yes, we all need to connect with people in order to feel wanted and loved on some level. But, maybe this is time to figure something out about yourself that you aren't seeing, like you already said. Maybe you haven't realized that you are your own best friend in life. I'm not saying you aren't totally justified in your feelings of loneliness, but I am saying that a watched pot never boils. It sounds like you are the type of person who knows the best things come along in life when we aren't dwelling upon them.
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Posted: 9/21/2005 7:26:08 AM | | I can't help but think it's just a matter of time til you find someone. From your posts in the past one can see you are a very caring person, who is willing to take a chance on someone. It will happen for you, it's just a matter of when. You have far to much to offer to be alone for to long. Could be alot of guys around you are afraid to approach such an attractive woman. You never know. Just keep your chin up, it will happen. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2005 3:18:45 PM | >>>I just have to say good luck to everyone, I know I am not the only one feeling like this..but my heart hurts somewhat more tonight than it has in a while.......i dont know why...but its the truth................<<<
My best to you, ms elegance. I know the feeling well. I want to love and have someone love me also. Until the wheelchair, things were good..since then..maybe women think I need a caretaker, I don't..just someone to care, maybe they think I can't "perform"..I can, maybe ..who knows. In employment and in love, most won't even look at me. Guess damaged goods are just trash. Yeah, I hurt a lot. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2005 3:55:44 PM | | You are a great woman and a wonderful mother I am very sure ms_elegance and I can relate to your feelings of lonliness and despair but we have to believe that we will eventually find someone. You are a very attractive woman and odds are that you will soon find a great guy and he will be very lucky to have found you as well. You are not weak, those feelings are just normal, believe me I know, and will soon pass. Odds are in your favor that some lucky guy is waiting for you as much as you are waiting for him and you both will find each other soon, just hang in there and you'll see. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2005 4:04:30 PM | | You & I are in the same boat...it's tough, DAMN tough...I know, but you're only 25. I have a friend on here, his profile name is Pellaken...he's around your age...do you want me to see if I can set him up with you?...no kidding. I'm serious. | |
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