| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:06:24 PM | Is it really possible to be friends with a ex and still carry on with new relatiohsips and be honest about still being involved in their lives and not create jealously? | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:14:41 PM | | My ex and I really have a very good relationship. But recently, there’s been some strange things. We have a son together and there have been two occasions we had to be together with him. She seemed very uncomfortable around me, and I’m not sure why. Not that we fought or anything like that, but her body language told the tell. Who knows? | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:15:46 PM | maybe...........a long long time down the road. of course that's if you don't have children together.
my ex can still make me feel a little weepy | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:16:57 PM | I believe that if both people are honest and mature then it's possible to still enjoy spending time together enjoying all the things that you shared interests on before the relationship ended. It's of utmost importance to disregard jealousy and spontaneous sexual urges.
Often when relationships with the ex fail, it's because past sexual tension has crept back in and colored the relationship and the two opposite sexes succumb to sexual urges and sleep with each other... acknowledge sex is still powerful for them and they can't overcome it, or they feel weak and guilty knowing that they can't move past it and start new valid relationships. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:20:27 PM | | The jealously is with the new people in my life not accepting why I am friends with the ex wife. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:22:01 PM | There is no way on God's Green Earth that I can be friends with an X. That isn't to say that I have to be enemies, it just means I have to be Gone. I have 3 that are still in my heart, one the Mother of my Children. As much as I still Love these Ladies I have no desire to know who they're boinking now and how Great their New Life with Mr. Soontobenext is going.
Granted, I blew it with most of them, but I don't need my nose Rubbed in Shit | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:22:18 PM | My daughters Dad and I are friends now!
It took a while.
We still have our little fights over things.
^^^^^^ I understand that^^^^ | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:31:40 PM | | In most cases its impossible to be friends still with an ex. For me it seems that two people have to be mature for a freindship to remain. I think that a mature person can bump into an ex and still say hi and maybe have a coffee, but thats it, unfortunately that is rarely the case as I have learned. When children are involved I see too many times that the child gets hurt because mom and dad can't keep their troubles between them and out of the childs business. Granted you may not like each other anymore but you once did to have the child. You should be mature and be there only for the child and not say bad things about the other to the child. Children don't really understand why mom and dad can't be together but it is in their best interest to still have both parties in their own life one at a time. Anyways I am just rambling on, but the world would be a better place if people could be more mature sometimes and be able to say hello if they run into an ex. You all have a wonderful day. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:44:37 PM | | It definitely depends on the person, but usually I have no problems staying friends with an ex. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:51:06 PM | | Yes you can as long as the other party has no interest in getting back together. I am still friends with both my exes you figure you spend 11 & 5 years with them they can't be all that bad, there were reasons you were with them in the first place for a long time so as long as you still have a like for that person and don't hate them ;sure. LOL | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 1:08:10 PM | True friends...well,.... not with my X, but thats an entirely different situation.
Although i do remain friends with others I have dated for periods of time...depends on the situation, and how it was left. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 1:38:51 PM | | i truely feel this way the only way that the two of you can be friends is if you have children together . other wise no once its over its over I do not know how an ex can be friends what man is going to want to know about a new boyfriend in her life or that he is haveing sex with her that hurts just being broken up from her I would hate to have this being thrown up in my face all the time watching them kissing his lips on what used to be mine .best thing if its over then stick to your guns its over walk away and never return . | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 2:15:21 PM | Why would you want to be friends with your ex?
On friendly terms, I can understand that - especially if you have children but friends as in hanging out? why? | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 2:37:45 PM | It is absolutely possible depending on the people involved. One of my closest friends is an ex of mine. We were together for 5 years, and have been broken up for 7. I would say it took about 6 months to a year for us to get back together as friends. We have been close ever since, to the point of being able to talk about our relationships. When you think about it, why not be friends?  | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 2:45:33 PM | Why would you want to be friends.
If they're so great to hang out with etc...why break up in the first place lol
I just don't get it. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 4:36:37 PM | I think so. For a long time, I believed that if I no longer wanted them as an SO then I obviously I should never have had them in my life to begin with and I wrote them off. These days I work hard at maintaining my SOs as friends--providing we didn't part due to abuse etc.
I valued them enough to invest my time in them in a relationship and I want to keep them as a friend. It's worked fairly well since I made this decision--but both parties need to want it.
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 4:39:32 PM | I think it's possible but it depends on why you broke up.
The two I'm still friends with, the break-ups were fairly gentle and, well, mutually agreed upon. The relationships simply weren't working out, but that didn't alter the fact that both men are fundamentally awesome people.
...but, well, I /am/ only friends with two. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 6:04:12 PM | | It definitely depends on the reasons you parted ways...if there was a serious violation of trust, I don't know if I could be friends. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 7:12:48 PM | I'm friends with my ex-gf. We see each other regularly, hang out, go to dinner, movies, etc. She has a new boyfriend now, a guy I don't speak to. We still talk about everything we used to. It's the same relationship, same vibe, but without the sex
I know I'm weird  | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2005 7:26:49 PM | I'm just getting started with the divorce,the marrige ended terribly with a lot of lies and cheating on her part.When I found out at first she was cheating on me I was ready for her to leave shortly after about a week or so she convinced me that she still loved me and I was willing to try again and let her move back in.The trouble was things weren't any better I'd leave for work and she'd go to it. I can't believe how stupid I was to even be willing to try again but I guess I walked right into it and to make a long story short I got solid proof of her infidelity becouse I just couldn't handle the thought of actualy paying for her to see another man "alamony" we have no children so that will be easier.
For the last few days she's been trieng to get back together again that is untill we finaly went to my lawyer to take care of the paperwork and make it legal. I've gota say it's weird but it actualy feals good that she seems to be friendly towards me now it's been so long since she treated me as well as a stranger and she's actualy been nice. The bad part is I think she's just realized how well I treated her and the love she's thrown away.
She's a;so become jelous latley an act I don't know when we were first maried she didn't want me to walk into the grocerystore by myself for fear I would see an xgirlfriend and just a month or two ago she told me about a conversation between her and a mutual friend emphisizing that she wouldn't be jelous even if she saw me walking down the sidewalk holding another woman's hand.
maybee this isn't too off topic but here it is either way | |
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