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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 12/2/2005 12:46:44 PM | | The "not replying" term may be applied to both men as well as women. Personally I have found that some interpret any sort of response as an indication of interest. I too used to reply to all but have recently become more selective, mainly due to a few bad apples misrepresenting themselves. As far as a response dependent on the presence of a pic...I reply based on one's words, not their appearance. | |
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 11/15/2006 11:32:18 PM | well, common sense would (or should) tell you that no answer is NO answer!
Also what is in your profile (if anything) may do alot for you or nothing at all.
When I read people's profiles, I want to try to get a good idea of what they are like, interests, should be there.
Wording, is also a factor for me. Sometimes if you seem like someone who would speak the way you type, then I don't think I you would be able to keep me in conversation.
There are alot of things that could lead to a NO answer. | |
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/15/2007 9:31:21 AM | | "No answer, is an answer" also known as "rude and ignorant"! If someone takes the time to send an email at least have the common decency to respond whether you are interested or not ! It's quite simple really......I also agree with "Blueeyz" that by sending an email to someone, they interrupt it has, "mmmmmm she is interested in me", well news flash.....Sometimes a email is just another way of saying hi to someone ! By the way, MEN are just as bad if not worse than women! | |
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lohki
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Joined: 7/22/2005
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/15/2007 11:00:18 AM | I think no answer is most definitely IS your answer...
Who the hell says you have to respond... What a load of hooey.
I am not obligated by someone else's sense of right and wrong, etiquette or internet politeness.
I think that the effort that is spent on behalf of the sender was the sender's choice.
I did not ask for it or initiate it, - why should I be subjected to the expectation of a response?..
Get a grip
Some people get piles of mail, last time I checked I was full of free will and could do what and respond to whom ever I wanted without the Spanish Inquisition...
PERIOD.
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/15/2007 3:26:32 PM | | Well obviously "NO" ...... No one is obligated to answer any ones emails as it's up to one's self if they want to email anyone """BUT""" It is the decent thing to do, reply back ! I to have alot of emails and yes sometimes it is hard to respond to them all but eventually Im sure, all emails can be answered even if it is just a short email stating that your not interested, it doesn't take that long to do! This is why we have that wonderful choice of an "OPINION"...... Each to their own and of course there are going to be disagreements ! | |
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/17/2007 10:47:05 AM | | This is my 2nd stint on POF and my opinion has changed somewhat on this one. At the beginning I was a lttle ticked at the no responses, but then I politely responded to a message I received and got a rude email back from her, saying I was shallow, etc., etc. because I didn't think we would be compatible. That made me a bit apprehensive about further responses, but I find now a lot of messages I get say...if you are interested, contact me. Therfore I figure they are giving you the polite way out. Now, if I send any out (rarely now!!) I will usually add that at the end...makes life easier and I don't take it personal at all if I see read/deleted. I just shrug it off and figure their loss. You have to accept that you will not be attractive, for whatever reason, to everyone you find attractive...that's just the way it is. | |
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/19/2007 2:11:35 AM | | Well like you NB G-MAN, I don't take any offense to the read/delete messages that I have sent. I guess each to their own and if someone wants to reply or not reply to someone's email or message, that's entirely up to them! It's like PEIPRINCESS had said in an earlier message, it's good manners I guess. Also I do the same as you in my messages, at the end of the message I will add if your interested in chatting reply to the message, that way then it's up to them ! I find that alot of times, it doesn't necessarily have to do with if you're attractive or not, it got alot to do with what you are looking for as in a relationship ! Seems there are alot of guys who are just looking for the "NO STRINGS ATTACHED", so when they read your profile and see what you are looking for , they don't bother to get back to you! Which makes sense, but some people take it as an insult when someone doesn't respond...... | |
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lohki
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Joined: 7/22/2005
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/20/2007 8:16:01 AM | Replying to emails sent on the internet is not defined as good manners. Do tell me where that memo went... perhaps I missed it!
Of course in my OPINION I believe that to be a load of hooey. Proper manners have nothing to do with responding to someone you do not wish to have contact with.
THEY sent an email. It is in no way good form to be polite to explain your lack of interest.
THAT is just crap.
Lack of response to an email tells you the same thing as -gee, I appreciate the gesture, and however at this time I would rather stick a fork in my eye than to date you.
And... That.. is exactly what I would say if FORCED by some idiotic notion that I had to be polite to any sender of un-requested mail.
*slides on flame retardant suit*
go hard ladies, I am entitled to mine just as you are yours- even if I am sarcastic, realistic and honest. Just because you would reply doesn't mean everyone else is required to pony-up to your standards. Egocentric and laughable actually!! | |
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LBP
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Joined: 12/27/2006
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/20/2007 6:05:32 PM | I don't respond to every message a guy sends me. I don't actually care if other people think its rude. I actually find those that really talk about it maybe have their expectations of people set unfairly high. Just because YOU think something is right/wrong doesn't mean everyone else does. But thank you for judging everyone as 'rude' simply because they don't respond to every tom,**** or harry who sends them a message....half the time with no picture and they obviously didn't read the profile.
I have been lectured a few times by these people who are obsessed at getting a response because its what THEY think people should do without realizing that people view this differently and you can't take offense just because someone didn't respond to your email.
I got a very rude email just today from someone I didn't respond to. I started a new job and don't have much time these days. He had no pic and his profile indicated he was looking for someone who was very different from me. I was really busy so just hit delete.
Nice that someone takes the time to email me and be condescending than has the nerve to call me rude. I did respond to that one, then he blocked me lol.
I find being completely oblivious to the way other people view things is ignorant. Then to act on that ignorance is rude. But those that sit and whine about it don't tend to get that part. If you respond that you were not impressed by their lecture, they will just block you. | |
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/20/2007 11:09:30 PM | HI LBP you certainly have the right to your opinion as i said earlier.With that said so does ev1 that post on these forums.Aren't that what the forums are all about????Can't people just agree to disagree?With out it become nasty name calling,pointing finger's etc?
I guess i was brought up in a different way different time.Maybe it's a Island thing.I still stand by i think it's rude to just delete with out at least reading the message..If a man/women has taken the time to send a message i for one think the descent thing is to at least read it.IMO
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LBP
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Joined: 12/27/2006
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/21/2007 1:44:05 AM |
I guess i was brought up in a different way different time.Maybe it's a Island thing.
Well for one, here your not on the island. You are surrounded by a lot of different people who were raised in lots of different ways that has nothing to do with time or rudeness....just differences.
That's my problem with comments like this. It doesn't recognize the differences in opinions and instead tries to paint people as rude over something as silly as not responding to messages on a dating a site. My point is, its judgemental and you are placing real world expectations in a virtual environment.
Quite a few women on here will tell you the same thing. Polite responses does not mean no more contact. The sheer fact you responded is enough to encourage some of the guys on here. I'm assuming that's because of the lack of responses they do get which makes them jump on what they see as opening. It doesn't become one polite message but a bunch with someone you aren't really interested in even corresponding with. It can put some people in a position of being rude just because by being 'nice' its like a green light to some guys regardless of what you are saying to them.
So here you have a bunch of guys who want responses but aren't getting any. Does that mean every person they message who didn't respond must be rude?? That's an awful lot of people.
There is real life ediquette and there is on-line ediquette. There are quite a few people who think online ediquette dictates its not necessary to respond to every message you receive. I know some attractive women who receive over 20 messages on here daily. Do you know how time consuming that could get to respond to every one?
Even if I don't respond I usually read and look at the profile. If I've read your message and haven't responded, its safe to say I'm not interested. Why do you need the rejection? You don't know me so why would you need closure over an email?
I just find that painting people you don't know as rude is well...rude. | |
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/21/2007 2:11:19 AM | "Rude", or what ever one may call it, again it's just one's opinion. Doesn't mean that it's directed at just one individual or that we are right in what we have an opinion on. It's just that...AN OPINION ! We are all different and do things in different ways, but like peiprincess, I to was brought up that way and well it just stays with you.
As for the "flame retardent suit" no need as again, like peiprincess, I did that when I was a child ! I'm still a child at heart but , name calling...ermmmmmmmm I don't think so ! Just stating an opinion, we are all entitled. Seems like when there is a topic posted in a site, and there are opinions towards that topc, some people take it personally but, IT"S JUST AN OPINION ! It's not specificially pointed at any one individual. So , ne need to take it personal, as I am not here to judge anyone. Just here to make friends, maybe meet someone and date, and to respond to some of the threads in here and yes, give my opinion........it doesn't mean I'm right! | |
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lohki
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Joined: 7/22/2005
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| is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say
Posted: 2/21/2007 6:22:07 AM | There is real life ediquette and there is on-line ediquette. There are quite a few people who think online ediquette dictates its not necessary to respond to every message you receive. I know some attractive women who receive over 20 messages on here daily. Do you know how time consuming that could get to respond to every one?
I totally agree. These people are strangers. Where is the right to decide whether or not you WANT to talk to someone? It's really not rude, it is a fact of life. Free will.
it doesn't mean I'm right!
I chuckled when I read that...
I think mostly when I feel a certain way about something it is because I feel I am right- perhaps justified from my own frame of reference!
I don't need validation from other people to be on my side or share the same position- That was how I was raised. Everyone is most certainly allowed to their own ideas and opinions; this place is designed specifically for this.
ps.. when you call a behavior "rude" .. that is a name. | |
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