| | Torn to pieces..Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | Well here is my story. I loved once for a short while.. i did all i could to make it work and it did and then it stopped. i never got over it but i lived. 2 nights ago i saw her again and my whole life crashed to the bottom of a hopeless hell. iv'e quit college and my job and life is to much to take. that leaves me to think i guess people just don't want me.. so here i am torn to pieces... what to do... | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 5:29:29 PM | | You carry on- and make a life for yourself.You are only 19 and it may seem like the end of the world and that the pain in your heart will never leave but it will get better.Hang in there!! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 5:45:58 PM | | i dunno how much longer i can go. i don't care anymore | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 5:56:05 PM | | sorry to sound harsh but quit feeling sorry for yourself-call someone, get out and about. learn from it and go on...that's all you can do! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 5:59:04 PM | | I'd like to advise you but I don't know Enough yet. So you saw her 2 days ago? Did you actually talk to her or just pass her on the street, If you 2 did talk what was said? What Exactly happened in your relationship? | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:02:33 PM | | i would awnser that but scince all i do is feel sorry for myself i won't. this is my last post. i can't leave you hanging though... we met at a party and she is now with one of my closest friends witch is good because he is a good guy and as long as they are happy thats all that matters. thanks for caring | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:07:00 PM | I know this seems like just words but give it some thought...you and only you can make yourself happy, sad, motivated or rejected...build up your self esteem...get a piece of paper and a pen - write down all your strengths/positives and your what are your weaknesses/negatives. Then work on a "modus operandi" to change or minimise your weaknesses...look to see what interest you and go for it.
Having God in your life helps a great deal..I dont mean you have to go to church cos as a start, just sitting in the privacy of your room, quietly putting out your heart to God, telling Him just what you have said on this forum column, expressing your desire for help is a great start. You may think I am whacko....but all I can say is it works...
Be grateful for every blessing in your life, brush off every rejection, Do Not Dwell on what you cant change, keep your focus on what you can, do no let anyone rule your emotions...EVER.
When you are a complete person emotionally, it will radiate externally...you will walk with a song in your heart, a spring on your steps... that lady is just that..another lady whose life intertwined with yours for a time, its over but hey...there will be others who will come into your life for another purpose...enjoy life and focus on the big picture... | |
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weriz
| | Joined: 9/12/2005
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:09:31 PM | | simple..what is a current or long ago interest to you besides her?..go mingle with the new hobby and don't forget to look around who else is also there !!..suicide though..all emotions will visit there also..overcome rather!! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:10:36 PM | | you are right.. and i can get past the fact its over and im glad they can be happy but this was long ago and well.. at 19 having dated 2 people in my life i am starting to think it might be over.. i can go on but alone it seems i was ment to be.. thanks for your help it means alot more the words | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:16:42 PM | You have to take the good with the bad, smile with the sad, love what you have, and remember what you had. Always forgive, but never forget. Learn from your mistakes, but never regret. People change, things go wrong, but just remember that life goes on!
Thats a quote I found somewhere, it brings me up when Im down.. I just found out the guy I dated for two years had feelings for this other girl while we were dating and what not... but I know how u feel, kind of and it sucks... But sitting around isnt going to do anything, I would know... heh But just keep ur head up and everything will turn out for the better....  | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:18:52 PM | -H-I-M-
You just hang in there dude, You are too good for her anyway!
You are young and you have a great big heart and that is hard to come by....I wish I was younger because I would adore you.
Keep your chin up hun, you will be better for this in the end! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:19:15 PM | kuriouskat, heh you really helped me... thanks for that reminder | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:24:07 PM | | it seems everyone has somthing to look forward to well... i don't. i should but i don't care. money isn't happyness because i have plenty and im miserable... i just wanted a chance | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:48:04 PM | Ok Now you're pissing me off.
Buck up dude and quit thinking that this is the end of the line.
If I could I would pick you up by the scruff of your neck and give you a shake!!!!
Woe is not you unless you are weak! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:52:24 PM | | Alright i piss you and apperntly everyone else off so goodbye. account deleted | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 6:59:32 PM | I was in your shoes when I was your age...it's hard. It's very hard to grieve over the ones you've loved and lost...lost being a break up or death.
I quit school, moved to another city and was incomplete despair and saw no light. Looking back I'm not sure how I dealt with it. Time was not on my side...I wanted instant gratification and was not getting it. Somehow I survived and lived to tell. I wish I could say something that could be an instant cure, but there isn't anything to make it magically disappear...courage and persistence is all you need!
Just a reminder to everyone including yourself...this is a public forum, the choice to pass it by or to be helpful is there...getting pissed off at someone over the internet is pointless. He was hoping for a little TLC and gets crapped on. If you don't agree with his perspective or opinion, the choice to skip this forum is yours...don't crap on someone who clearly needs some advice, whether it's taken or not...
I do love the quote from lilmisangie...makes great sense and I will continue to read it from time to time!!
JayCee | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 7:03:35 PM | | Thank you for saying what i couldn't find the words to. I also noticed and im no psychitrist but the people the get pissed off are either 1. attractive 2. happy 3. both 4. have somthing in their life. just a thought. thanks again | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 7:13:30 PM | Are you saying ugly people don't get pissed off?!
I think they do!! LMAO
Chin up...remember, "what goes around, comes around"
The girl that broke your heart will eventually get hers...I believe in that completly.
I understand your need to vent and get angry and throw a fit, but I think wasting your good energy on someone who doesn't deserve it, is a waste of time. Put your energy into learning new tricks on your bike or whatever it is you do. Write blogs about her that no one else can read (or judge)...walk up to a complete hot girl and offer to buy her ice cream!! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 7:13:39 PM | You are in charge of your own destiny. I have been where you are, Many times but I picked myself up, brushed myself off, and went on.......good god WAKE UP!
You are a valuable human being. Do it for your family if not for yourself!!! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 7:56:49 PM | | my family is dead :/. ive been though alot of thinks i would rather not even say and i picked myself up but its the simple things in life i can't get and that hurts worse. as for my ex i don't want to see her hurt im happy for the both of them | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 8:19:03 PM | | Jaycee, thanks for the motherly advice but I have my own mother. I was trying to be compassionate towards H-I-M- practising some tough love. Thanks! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 8:21:17 PM | | I'm talking to him like I would my own kids. So maybe just butt out!!! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 8:27:56 PM | | I was marred for 20 years tryed to do everything right. did nothing right have 3 kids one of them was barely 2 befor he left. Sometimed things go wrong whatever you do. I felt like you still do at times. but life goes forward . It has too. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2005 8:42:21 PM | I hope you feel better after some time passes.
This forum is getting ugly...
Ever need to chat with someone who won't treat you like you are their child, drop me a line! | |
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Garf
| | Joined: 4/4/2005
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Posted: 9/25/2005 8:53:22 PM | Pick up your balls and walk over the next hill.
It sucks, yes.
It feels like a mortal wound, yes.
You'll get over it, maybe.
Time continues moving. With or without you. Move on. | |
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