| | Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | I`m down on my luck right now, not much money, so here`s my problem, what do you think?
My fiancee says she loves me with all her heart, that i`m the only one for her, & I beleive her. However, she has this rich friend, a guy that showers her in gifts, though she has told him that there`s no way she will betray me. I don`t think that she will, I trust her, but I still worry. She is pushing me to go ahead with my plans, but it takes time in the fields that I have chosen. The fields that I have chosen( cant say cause I don`t want her getting on here finding out that I`m asking advice on this...) will take two, three, maybe more years to see big results. I`m a trustworthy, non-cheating guy, very devoted to her, she`s my world. My question is this: Love, or money? What would you choose? please help me :( | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 5:54:02 PM | | Random.. she's YOUR girlfriend! Tell her that you're uncomfortable with what he's doing (i.e. trying to steal her away from you). If she doesn't want to tell him to hit the road, then you do it. Stand up for yourself! And for her! Demand the respect you deserve! | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 6:01:53 PM | | Man this is a dog eat dog world...If you want her then you need to pick up your balls and do what ever it takes to keep her...If it takes telling him to get his rich ass out of your life...Take it from me if he stays in your alls life then he will be the BIGGEST thorn that you will have to dig out of your ass...And if you do this there could be a sideffect she may turn against you...But its best to cut your loss now than a year or so down the road. Wishing you the best...The Bear | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 6:04:13 PM | Agreed with Jenza
In the comparison of love vs money there really is no comparison. Should one choose money then there obviously is no love.
as Norolin said, stand up for yourself and her. You will face many challenges in life and unless YOU take charge you will become just another of lifes self proclaimed "victims", Stand up, stand your ground and claim what/ who is rightfully yours. You are the only person on this planet who has the responsibility for your happiness. Take charge of the situation..... | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 6:57:10 PM |  Yes, 10 out of 10, because the poor guy has more insentive, his edge is his personality, where the rich guy is dependant upon his money to get him through...
 The rich guy really can't ever buy LOVE, all he can ever hope to do is rent it...(-;
 Where the por guy is in compleat Ownership before he ever even opens his mouth...  | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 7:52:21 PM | | Money is just that money, it comes and goes. Love is love plain and simple. I'd rather be with be someone for who they are vs the size of his wallet. Money can't buy love, nor happiness. That comes from within, not with a price tag. I'd take a man who gives from his heart and shows you that he cares in his actions vs. gifts anyday. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 7:58:48 PM | there are lot of times, money and love go hand-in-hand.
What if the thrid person comes alone, someone who has money and also makes her fall in love?
If i were you, I would not worry about anything. I just give what I have, take it or leave it, it's her choice, you have so little control about it.
Do you need to fend off the rich guy? I dont think you have the right to do so unless she asks you to. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 8:03:39 PM | I feel you on that stuff man. My ex was very attractive and rich guys would always buy her things. She was always to nice and would decline to the drinks and the jewelry and the lunches but it still always worried me because she would never tell them to stop unless i got mad about it and said something. But then i would feel like the controlling "telling her who she can and cant talk to" kind of boyfriend and i hated to be that guy. I talked about it with her and she would always say the same thing, its always nice to be wined and dined because it makes her feel very special but she was with me and money wouldnt and couldnt change that. But in the end she ended up moving back home an hour away because we couldnt afford to rent anymore and go to school full time. So she moved and after a year of long distance she decided she wanted a "break", but i knew the real reason was because i didnt get to see her as often as i wanted. So in my case money would have saved me.....who knows when i get that house i want and everything else maybe we can rekindle what we had, but for now, lots of money sure would help. Especially living in CA. renting is over a grand for an apartment :(
I think for now you are fine, and you will be in the future as well. As long as your have goals and you are striving towards them. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 9:56:54 PM | I would say the poor guy has many advantages actually. I got WAY more girls when I was a sweet man who needed her (or so she thought) than when I was a****, thinks he has the world at his hands guy wth money. (or so she thought).
The man with money gets used alot. And she brings all home to...well..
you know. ;)
she's YOUR girlfriend! Tell her that you're uncomfortable with what he's doing
I'm not sure that this is smart. She may think that you do not want her to have nice things. That being said; you could always have someone else get him to butt out..no?
Tough call for sure.
But then again I'm pus*y whipped at moment..so...don't listen to my opinions here so much.
lmfao.
ouch <--self pity (nothing to do with this post)
ouch
If a woman is not happy and not in love - she will walk away from a mansion.
If she is happy and in love - she will live with you in a shack.
^ That's my favorite answer here. (and very very likely the right one too) | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 11:02:54 PM | of course, in fact maybe even easier! I see it everyday here in my city! just be homeless, get a few tatoos, start a drug habit, and you will have more dirty nasty women than you've ever had before! and some of them are sooo sexy! These gals on meth don't get fat at all!
get a head start on the game and knock out a few of your teeth to really look like you fit in and so no one would thing you are faking being a homeless person!
women will be all over you, GUARANTEED! | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/25/2005 11:16:02 PM | | Yes,when it is truely love,nothing can buy or change your love, however,the friend is showeilring her with gifts ,it is up to her to say no and mean it and not except anymore,She has to change that,if she is willing too.?Money can't buy love, it can buy time,for whose sake ,dont know. Follow your heart hunches. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/26/2005 12:32:41 AM | Lets put it this way, love is free, but children cost a fortune. Please dont have kids unless you can afford to raise them. I have no clue why poor women are given welfare aid to keep their babies. ADOPTION should be societies solution.
I gotta agree with unspoiled. My mentor told me "no relationships until I could support a woman". So I didnt date (much) for a few years. STAY IN SCHOOL, get an education, GET A CAREER (flipping burgers aint a career). And then you will have some money and love at the same time. IN the old days, a man had to save up before asking a girl to marry him. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 9/26/2005 1:57:22 AM | Please forgive me if my answer seems a little biased...but I have only ever been poor..never had the benefit of the other side's experience...Now, that would be my answer assuming you are talking about being rich in term's of one's bank account....But on the other hand if anyone were to ask me how rich I am based on the love I derive from my children and the fact that at present we are all well fed and warm and safe and happy and for the most part healthy then I am one of the richest people on the face of the planet and probably that rich person with their dozens of suitors doesn't hold a candle and will eventually spend most of his so called "riches" on several forms of therapy and stress relief...
Yes, I guess I am a very rich...poor guy that won't trade for anything...
I think the saying goes...( for love NOR money )....not ( love AND money ).. | |
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