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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 6/18/2004 2:40:19 PM | | i would rather be with an older, smart woman than some young girl who don't know anything but pretends that she does. that's just me. but my guess would be that they are going to pull some stuff that a smart woman wouldn't put up with. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 2:56:16 PM | | yes, well unfortunately i have had the worst luck with men...however, always being attracted to the younger ones might have something to do with it. The ones your interested in are scared to death of you or play silly games with your head or never show the equivalent amount of interest in you as you do in them. I don't want these games...If a guy is interested in me i would have liked him to prove it to me in more ways then one. For instance...some time ago, this guy and i ended up hanging out one night at a pool hall, then when it came time to getting together , he'd always rant about how much he liked me, and how much he wanted to spend time with me, however, when there was the chance for this guy to come out with me, he would explain that his night was booked with the boys and that he couldn't let them down...lol....i just don't understand | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 3:02:23 PM | I NEVER REALLY LOOKED AT AGE... UNLESS THEY ARE IN THE SINGLE DIGITS, OR BEGIN WITH A 1... ASIDE FROM THAT... AS LONG AS THE CHEMISTRY, OR NO ONE WAS LOOKING... IT WORKS FOR ME...LOL.
OLDER WOMEN TEND TO BE A BIT MORE SETTLED, KNOWING WHAT THEY WANT AND UNDERSTANDING A BIT MORE ABOUT LIFE. BUT THATS PRETTY MUCH THE SAME WITH BOTH SEXES. GRANTED THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS. IVE BEEN WITH OLDER WOMEN AND WOMEN WHO WERE YOUNGER THAN MYSELF... LIKE I SAID, IT ALL DEPENDS ON HOW YOU GEL. I THINK THAT IF THERE ARE INTIMIDATION FACTORS... ITS USUALLY NOT BECAUSE OF THE AGES. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 3:05:38 PM | | if it's not because of the age difference then what else could it be? There could be a slight possibility he's not interested but if that's the case then why would he continue telling you things to believe he is....it's like a game or something | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 3:08:48 PM | COULD BE A GAME... COULD BE INTIMIDATED BY LOOKS, MAYBE HIS PERSONAL SITUATION IN HIS "SQUISHY" WORLD THAT IS UNKNOWN TO YOU. ITS HARD TO TELL. IS THIS A HYPOTHETICAL QUESTION OR ARE YOU DEALING WITH THIS NOW, AND IS IT A SQUISHY ISSUE OR AN INTERNET GIG?
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Posted: 6/18/2004 3:16:22 PM | lol...your funny....i don't want to get too personal about it for the world to see...i would rather just refer to this as a "hypothetically speaking" issue.
I am just curious as to why guys tell you they are interested in you, however, their actions tell you something different. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 3:21:48 PM | NOT SURE. MEN FOR THE MOST PART ARE A BUNCH OF IDIOTS. IM SURE IM ONE OF THEM AS WELL....LOL.
I UNDERSTAND YOU NOT WANTING TO AIR YOUR LAUNDRY FOR THE WHOLE WORLD TO SEE... YOU CAN JUST WHISPER IT TO ME... SCOUTS HONOR I WONT TELL ANYONE...LMAO. J/K.
THE ONLY REASON I CAN THINK OF THAT ANYONE; MAN, WOMAN OR BEAST... WOULD TELL YOU THAT THEY ARE INTERESTED YET ACT DIFFERENTLY COULD BE BECAUSE MAYBE HE HAS DOUBTS OR ISNT REALLY ALL THAT INTERESTED YET WANTS TO KEEP YOU AROUND IN CASE HE FINDS OUT THAT HE REALLY IS INTERESTED. WE ARE CREATURES OF HABIT... AND WE TYPICALLY DONT KNOW WHAT WE GOT TILL ITS GONE.
BUT THEN AGAIN I COULD BE ABSOLUTELY FULL OF SHIT AND NOT KNOW A DAMN THING IM TALKING ABOUT. MAYBE THIS GUY HAS HIS WHOLE LIFE PLANNED OUT WITH JUST YOU AND HIM... MAYBE HE HAS 6 OR 7 OTHER GIRLS THAT ARE ASKING THE SAME DAMN THING ABOUT HIM THAT YOU ARE RIGHT NOW. NOT SURE HON.... | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 4:11:58 PM | | I have no problem with older women...but you're not older than I am..well, perhaps not by much anyway.....what are you doing tonight? ;) | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 4:33:57 PM | Here is a little story for you.
I was at this Rock n Roll/Biker bar. (The chicks that work there are absolutely to die for! Not unlike yourself Madelaina.) I get past the cashier girl at the front and go into the main bar area, and there she was. She must have been in her mid 30's. Tall, dark haired, blue eyed, lady. Perfect figure, and she showed it. Skin tight leather pants. Tight little Harley tank top. She was sipping on a Budweiser. I thought I was dreaming until I bumped into this biker dude that was scoping her out too.
The second thing that popped into my head was, "Dude she is WAY TOO HOT for your sorry ass. You gotta box your weight, and you are just out classed. Grab a beer, and try not to trip on your tounge while finding a seat."
All night she was hanging with the bikers. It would have looked to any as if she rode in with them, and they were all friends.
Later, I am standing outside waiting for a cab with all these army guys that I was talking with inside. They are all about my age or younger. This chick comes walking out with this sad look on her face. She over heard one of the guys say, "MAN, that is one fine ass chick." She turns around and starts yelling at us, " I am in the all night and not one of you will come talk to me. What the F--k is up with you guys?"
No one was saying anything so my drunk ass did, "It looked to everyone that you were with the bikers. And offense, but you just way out of my league. You are like a pin up girl. Your are just untouchable, and in person that is really intimidating."
She said, "I might be somewhat attractive, but I am not that hot."
EVERYONE said, in unison, "Yes! You are!"
After that there was a big crowd of guys around her. She asked for my number, so I gave her my card and wrote my personal numbers on the back. She never called.
What's the moral of that one?
(Yes! I know it was long winded and boring and you probably just skipped to the end. I suck as a writer. Yet another reason to drink.) | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 4:42:22 PM | THATS PROLLY THE ONLY THING THAT GETS MOST OF US... IF SHE IS THAT HOT... SHE PROLLY ALREADY HAS A SOCIAL CALENDAR, AND DOESNT NEED MY HAPPY ASS SNIFFING AROUND. BUT THEN I HEAR THESE WOMEN SAY THAT THEY CANT FIGURE OUT WHY NO ONE WILL TALK TO THEM.. ITS THE ULTIMATE PARADUCKS!!!!
IM WITH YOU THOUGH... JUST ANOTHER REASON TO DRINK!
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 6/18/2004 6:25:17 PM | I have to agree with the big story above... Guys have an innate sense of their "league" and while I don't mind approaching an older or more intelligent woman (please! for the love of god direct me to the intelligent women!) knockouts such as yourself are intimidating.
That's not necessarily a bad thing, but if I saw you in a bar I'd look twice and go... "Nahhhh... No way. The only way she'd go out with me is on a dare... With money involved, lots of money." | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 6:41:37 PM | | i don't date guys for that reason...if he had a job that would be nice, but i'm not looking for the next Bill Gates. It's also nice to know that he doesn't live with his family. Some men are just as money hungry as women are...nothing worse than having someone ask you how much you earn in your job. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 6:46:19 PM | I find it interesting in social situations the first question people ask is "So, what do you do?" Like what you do defines who you are as a person. This is something you'll be very familiar with when you become a doctor. The "oooh, a doctor" immediately followed by requests for free medical advice. :LOL:
A few years ago when I was unemployed for a month I'd get that often... "So, what are you doing these days?"
"Oh, I used to work in computers, now I'm semi-retired." ;^) | |
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Posted: 6/18/2004 10:25:59 PM | | In my own experience I was atracted to young bodies soon after my divorce.Never satisfied.Purely by chance I became intimate with a fabuluos woman 15 years older than me.(I'm 40)Intimdated at first I was out of my league I have never been so happy.What sticks in my mind foremost is the ability to openly comunicate with absolutely no concernes . | |
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Posted: 6/19/2004 12:17:19 PM | Like Fleric, I too have dated older attractive woman. There is a much different air to a woman of maturity (That’s not to say that a younger woman can’t be mature). But it takes a very confident man to 1. Be with an older woman. 2. Be with an attractive woman. Put both of those things into one woman and a man has his work cut out for him.
Though it’s becoming more and more socially expectable for older women to date younger men. Men get a bit of rib poking and funny questions on why we would date an older woman. Then there is the age difference. As Fleric put it “You need to gel”. If the guy is too immature or the woman is too mature for the relationship it doesn’t work. You need to be at the same mental level or at least able to tolerate those kinds of situations. IE: He wants to go drinking with the boys and you want to throw a wine and cheese social on the same night.
Then as you can see, from some other comments posted, that not only do you like younger men but most people think you are attractive. Again it takes a very confident man to be with an attractive woman. Men who date or marry women out of the main stream looks have a very hard job on there hands. They not only need to keep a relationship with the woman (Hardest thing for us to do as it is). But now we feel that we have to compete with every one in the room and protect our mate from intruders. This is just animal instinct but that’s what we are and how we feel. It’s a tuff thing for a man to control. I fund that, as confident as I am with myself and my former relationship, even I needed my EGO stroked constantly to keep me from just going postal on the constant stream of people hitting on my date.
So unless you are just looking for a boy-toy to make you look good at your functions not only your date but you too need to be in constant awareness of your ages and surroundings. As much as you don’t want to. I found it was a must.
Sorry so long
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