| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/29/2005 9:09:31 PM | So, I'm curious of people's opinions on this... and couldn't find a thread about it...
If someone says they are in an relationship that they are staying in for whatever reason, but wants sex on the side, is the other person as wrong as the one who is cheating?
Example:
If a guy has a girlfriend he's living with, and sleeps with another girl just for sex... is the girl sleeping with him as much in the wrong as the guy who's cheating?
What's your opinion?
a) The guy is scum/the girl is technically doing nothing wrong.
b) They are both scum.
c) Other opinion.
Just for the record, I am not sleeping with an involved man... so no bashing please. I always said they were both in the wrong, but now I don't know. So I am curious as to what other people think. | |
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| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/29/2005 9:22:06 PM | I agree.. If both parties know .. they are both SCUM!
Unfortunately, a lot of people play the card.. they are in an unhappy relationship...
feel sorry for me.. blah blah blah! | |
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| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/29/2005 9:24:59 PM | | I don't know if its about scum.....but alot of cases are just bad relationships or rocky ones soon coming to an end.....ones mind doesn't know where to stand when things get too rocky and eventually one ends in cheating.....nobody's scum just an unstable relationship. | |
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| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/29/2005 9:51:01 PM | | jimi77 id agree with you but the courts dont care anymore about who is cheating who its all the same to them. i just went through a divorce where my spouse cheated on me, she said it was my fault and the reason it was "my fault" was cause i came here to Iraq lol. so no i dont think its ALWAYS both parties fault. but sometimes ya id agree. | |
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| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/29/2005 9:56:26 PM | beutiful momma.^^
man sorry you got hurt bro.. but when i said both partys i ment both cheating partys not the one that got cheated on.. i award you the house and all that is in it and and I guess lippy comes with it to.. | |
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| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/29/2005 10:02:17 PM | | If she knew that he has living with someone and did it, then yes. She would be in the wrong to. If she slept with him and didn't know it, she is still in the wrong, but didn't know it, so should be forgaven. If she kept doing it, after finding out, then she would be in the wrong, and just as bad. | |
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| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/29/2005 10:02:24 PM | OH.. i was the judge in that case.. i awarded it to him! yes! I think it would only be right if you did.. you can bang the gavle
I cheat in strip poker like a MOFO!!! | |
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| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/29/2005 11:19:41 PM | Once again I will just stir the pot from the Devils Advocate point of view
If someone who is in a relationship "cheats", there must be a reason
So depending on the reason, all three people involved in the triangle may be wrong
They may also be 'right'
For example, A couple grow apart but stay living together [this is actually fairly common],
neither one has any interest sexually with the other
The other one 'cheats' with a knowing third party
Who is actually wrong here??
You could say the couple are wrong for not trying to rebuild their relationship
If one of the couple wanted to try to rebuild but the other didnt, maybe only the one who refused is wrong
You could say just the 'cheating' part of the couple was wrong
You could say the third party was wrong for getting involved
You could say the couple was right or wrong for staying together dependant on the reasons
You could say the third party was right for relieving the sexual needs of the 'cheater'
Every situation like this is different
There are no hard and fast rules
Each one requires thought before it can be answered correctly
So many people think that "This is right" or This is wrong" but they forget about that
lovely thing called human nature
It is extremely rare to see anything pure black, or pure white in nature
But there are many shades of grey
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PS No, I have not cheated whilst in a steady relationship
I personally believe that most of the time 'cheating' is wrong
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| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/30/2005 7:45:59 AM | thanks everyone.
I always thought that both parties were to blame too... but I've been having this discussion with people that say the "other woman" and "other man" weren't doing anything wrong. | |
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| Cheating - are both involved parties to blame?
Posted: 9/30/2005 7:50:43 AM | Depends on how honest each of the parties have been with one another....If all cards have been layed on the table than I guess both are in the wrong, but then again, if the partner of the guy or girl who is sleeping around is aware of it and okay with it, than I guess no one is in the wrong.
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