| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 10:13:32 AM | Why do people look at sex and with such emotion? Sex is not love. Sex is an animalistic selfish act we do to give each other pleasure, yet in the end we are in it for our own satisfaction. In comparison ~ Love is a compilation of many selfless acts we do to please or impress someone else.
I have never heard anyone say, “We got married for the great sex.” But I constantly hear how sexually frustrated people are in their marriage.
My point is this…Sex is what it is. Sex makes us feel desirable and attractive. It gives us energy and makes us feel youthful. But love goes much deeper than these unpretentious emotions. To love someone is to depend on that person, to know that they will be there for you when you’re troubled. To love someone means you will go out of your way to do something extraordinary or just simply provide everyday comfort so the other does not have to expend their energy.
To steal a verse from Deep Purple, "It's not the kill, it's the thrill of the chase."
~Ciao | |
|
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 10:41:12 AM | | If you want to look at it from the animalistic view, we do it for reproduction not for pleasure. The fact that it feels good is coincidential, that's just how the organs work. I do agree with you that a relationship is way more than most people expect though. It's not just about sex. We got married for the great sex,....nice lol. Hey my friend is about to do that. Everytime I ask about their relationship, all she ever notes is how great the sex is. I mean the only good part, soooo.....yea,....there's no talking those people out of it. | |
|
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 10:46:54 AM | If your going to look at it like this.
People don't get more attached when they have sex. They get more territorial (so spelled wrong). If you're looking at the animal instinct of sex, then you should look at how men and women look at relationships/personal interaction.
Men: if you look at sex in the way you are. men look at sex as a way to procreate, sex is used to continue the family blood line. They want their family to be stongest and largest so they have sex when they find the partner(s) that they believe will produce this. after that has occured, men will protect what they believe is "theirs". its not being attached, its the protection of survival, so that no other man could use "their" woman to produce anothers offspring.
Women: women look at sex as a way to hold on to a man. women believe that men are the provider and that producing children for him will make him continue to provide for htem and their offspring. so its not getting attached, its looking out for their interests and not allowing anything bad to happen.
*********************************************************************
if you don't like this opinion, you should take some university love and psychology courses. you'd get an understanding of what things were like before we started taking everything for granted.
Personally I think we've come a long way from this behaviour, and I'm only making this comment becuase you refered to "animal instinct". I feel sorry for you if you truly believe that you still give your body in this form. I realize that sex is meant to feel good, but if you're just running around ****ing to get off, then most would concider that a slut (either a man or woman doing it).
personally I will continue to only give my body to people that I have grown attached to before I make that decision. | |
|
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 10:53:00 AM | I studied psychology....never heard of a "love course".
Many people look at sex as love for the reason you stated "emotion".
Many emotions are involved, people get gaga, and we're brought up to believe that sex is reserved for people you love. | |
|
| |
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 10:56:09 AM | Depends on the kind of sex wouldn't you say?
Even within a relationship there is the slow tender love-making along with the rougher gotta have it now sex.
Does the OP think that ppl who masturbate believe themselves in love?
Who would they be in love with?
j/k | |
|
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 11:15:34 AM |
if you don't like this opinion, you should take some university love and psychology courses. you'd get an understanding of what things were like before we started taking everything for granted.
Never heard of these types of courses before "love and psychology courses" but I believe you have some valid points perhaps routed in the sub-conscious mind as to why we pick a mate. An interesting book that talks about conscious relationships as opposed to the traditional garden-variety sub-conscious kind is;
Getting The Love You Want - Harville Hendrix Ph.D.
Dude..... | |
|
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 12:30:08 PM | People view sex according to their value filter. Some see it as an animal instinct devoid of emotion and others see it as something more spiritual.
I do not agree that all should see it one way or the other, but to allow others to see it as they do.
I do not view sex solely as an instinct. I see the act of sex as something with more regard than that...just as I see myself as more than an animal...I am a conscious being with values, morals and standards of conduct. Many are the same and then there are some who see sex as only a biological function and they would see it in a totally different light.
I think it's finding a person who thinks comparably to you on the issue of sex that helps make things easier to understand between you. | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 1:12:59 PM | Different schools have different courses.
The university i went to had like 50 million different psychology courses that studied concepts in terms of items like: love, works, school, relatoinships, sex pretty much anyting under the sun.
the point being.. they are there..
when i get home ill look up the book and author. | |
|
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 1:29:51 PM | Sex is sex...and love is love...they are two VERY different things.
Ideally, sex can express feelings of love...But you can still have good sex in the absence of love too, given the right circumstances...
Unfortunately...a lot of people do confuse sex and love, believing that love is an automatic byproduct of sex...But that's usually for people with little emotional maturity who are struggling to get their needs met in an improbable manner...D. | |
|
nergal
|
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 14 | |
| |
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 1:38:44 PM | Well talking for another time another generation, sex is more than sex, we should be, or some of us are very selective who we do the act with, have you ever heard the term making love ? It is a bonding experence and I guess that is why some persons feel such an attachment after they make love, or as some say have sex with.![]() | |
|
| |
nergal
|
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 17 | |
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 1:52:35 PM | | It happened .. my recently split from her ex neighbour came round, got me drunk and we ended up in the sack .. once .. Every week she would get loaded and bang on the door .. I hid in the end .. it was stalkerish .. | |
|
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 3:12:08 PM | | Some researchers believe that strenuous exercise releases endorphins into the blood stream. Others agree that endorphins are released during orgasm, as well as during laughter. Endorphins are a group of substances formed within the body that naturally relieve pain. They have a similar chemical structure to morphine. In addition to their analgesic affect, endorphins are thought to be involved in controlling the body's response to stress, regulating contractions of the intestinal wall, and determining mood. | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| |
| |
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 4:05:56 PM |
To make a bond with someone , you need emotional attachment dear!
Point , Game!
TRUE: All I wrote about was the effects sex has after. Now take a look at the question. The question was about AFTER sex and not before. And just so you know...Emotional attachment can form before sex as well, doesn't make you old fashioned, that's what should happen. You should lay off the  and give people the benefit of the doubt. | |
|
| Why do people get so emotionally attached after having sex???
Posted: 9/30/2005 4:10:45 PM | I was gonna say it - and HAHA pretty much beat me to it - I've been doing things backwards all these years - I get emotionally attached BEFORE having sex...
{edit] ^^ poorgie got his post in while I was typing mine ^^ | |
|
Home
login 
