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Posted: 9/30/2005 6:26:05 PM | I am mostly interested from hearing from the guys on this one:
My question that has been bugging me is although I have lived in Kansas for 3 years now it still amazes me that guys here treat me so differently then they did in California where I lived for 15 years.
So my questions is do most guys rather have a Big Beautiful girl or do you still perfer those thin perfect girls.
Cause most guys I have met back here have been much more accepted of me then those out in Cali.
Hope to hear from you all
peace out,
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Posted: 10/30/2005 2:29:29 AM | I'm sorry to see that no one responded to this post. I am not a man, but I am gonna comment on this anyway.
The fact that you notice men around here are more accepting of your size than those men in CA, I think has more to do with you then with them. The concept of CA is that it's the land of the "perfect"....where most people have had something nipped or tucked. No matter how inacurate this blatent sterotype is I just made.....it's what most people think..including yourself. I personally think that you are just not as self conscience about your appearance as you were there. And the more confident you are..the more attention you get!
I for one am glad you're here in KS...we need more BBW!  | |
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Posted: 11/5/2005 9:38:18 AM | Hi Amanda :-)
I agree with Pooky on the confidence statement. It's a shame when people will opt for the physical over the heart. Big beautiful woman, small beautiful woman..the main part is beautiful. A big beautiful heart is what's most desireable. :-)
I've found the opposite here, people shy away here where they were much more accepting in Denver. I'm in a wheelchair and here, folks seem to act like they are afraid of catching something..maybe thinking this is some sort of growth from my @ss or something..I dunno. Out there, people never gave it a second thought for the most part. Perhaps for you, and for me as well, it's a matter of exposure...what people are used to seeing. I'm an odd ball here, people haven't seen too many people in chairs here nor have they gotten to know many artists from what I see. In Cali, the quest for perfection is the norm where here, people are more accepting of big women. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 11:27:37 AM | | As far as physically I actually prefer average size girls, you know not too thin but not too large. Too thin where their spine is showing is just gross and unhealthy and likewise woman with obesity is gross and unhealthy all this is physically speaking though and there are MUCH more qualities than physical appearance. That's just my physical preference. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2006 12:09:56 PM | | I like skinny girls but not perfect. I dont like having to keep up with perfection. I just dont like big girls, sorry thats my preferance. I do have to get sexually excited eventually, right? | |
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Posted: 11/16/2006 11:55:01 AM | Well darlin I can't speak for all men but being from Cali myself I know the Perfect v.s. not perfect game. I myself look for a person. I take the time to look past the outer shell and see what makes her tick. Everyone has their own degree of what is exceptable and what isn't. As in my profile " I'm not looking for the perfect Woman......Just the perfect woman for me. So if I can get the committed heart, Its worth a few pounds. (one way or the other)
In CA. its all about appearance... being someone you not... being better than the other. Not about what is on the inside of her. Personally I don't want no barbie doll.... I want someone with a bit of meat. (so to say) something to hang on to not get poked by. Most everything out there is fake and foney......here it is just ppl. ppl living w/ ppl.... | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 4:26:14 PM | Looks like you need on this one, well here goes. I am a man who likes women a little bigger, why, because I feel like I'm going to break the small ones. I also like the softness
and gentlness of bbw's. Gives me something to hang on to, not slip through my fingers. They can keep you warm at night. If you are a bbw, then that would my guess as to why you are treated diferent here that cal. As you know, the winters are plenty cold here. I'm only a 170lbs and 6'1", so it realy comes in handy:     | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 3:26:01 PM | ... hmmmmm ... lil frown ...
Are you saying that you want BBW's for warmth? I say ... buy some blankets, a quilt and turn up the heat!
Women are worth much more than that ... | |
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Posted: 4/12/2007 1:38:48 PM | I'm just curious...I've seen this exact topic in almost every forum.
Why is it so popular? Why don't I see topics about other physical traits?
Is this really such an issue? | |
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Posted: 4/13/2007 8:31:03 AM | OK---
Red Fox the comedian. used to say, they is nothing uglier than an old skinny white woman.
Comedy is based on truth.
What about other traits??
I do not want to hear from the under 50...why???
They may be my kids!!! And I don't need to raise any more kids. I once got into an arguement with a female who tried to tell me about JFK assination. It wound up she was 3 months old when it happened, I watched it LIVE on TV...DUH!!
I did notice when I was in Boston a lot of 20-30 yo men were dating 50-70 yo women...of course, considering it was Boston...(OZ) do the math--- I would be dating women in the 90's...
Imus may have been fired over less, but I don't date my gender or out of my race...
They wern't too happy with my color about 1968 during the race riots... you kiddies don't remember that do you?? However, I have many interracial friends that would go into a firefight with me. Because I earned it. That's something the driveby doesn't understand.
I look at it this way... 51% of the USA is women and over 50% of the population is single.
Women out live men. So 50% of 51 % of 250 Million equals--- 63 million 750 thousand.
Every day I'm not worm food, my chances increase.
Not that I really care as I also X- smokers, those legally married, can't speak English, those not local, those loco and the list goes on. (that includes multiple cat ladies)
Speaking of smoking - why X them? Hey if they are over 50 they probably started in the late '60's and have 40 years under their belt. So what are the dates going to be like? Driving them to chemotherapy??? I was there 40 years ago....it was common knowledge smoking was bad all that time. So why introduce myself and then have to then accomodate a mistake I didn't make... I might as well date the other 10 deadly sins .....NOT (to paraphrase BORAT)
That's why I've got the heart of the TINMAN
But Kiddies, you only saw the MOVIE, you didn't read the book. Had you read the book, you'd know the true story of the TINMAN.
Let the flames begin.....it's going to be a crappy weekend. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 3:07:35 PM | There's a point where a "big" girl can be TO big, and can be very unhealthy. Really, nobody has an excuse to be a big person, there's always ways to help, and get around. Good old fashion exercise and stinkin' with it. But for some people, it's difficult to get it off, and keeping it off. Frankly, it's the same with thin girls. If it's an unhealthy thin person, that's just as unattractive as an unhealthy big person.
Point is, there's a line that's gotta be drawn on both ends of the spectrum. If you're unhealthy, and it shows in size, THAT is what I would say is unattractive to me. Not just because they're big, or just because they're thin. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2007 5:44:51 AM | I had to answer this one. This is all based on my experience not statistical research.
I spent most of my life 5'7" 110 lbs. Way too skinny. I ate like a pig and couldn't gain weight from elementary school until my first child I just couldn't put on the pounds. It was frustrating and I didn't get very much attention from the men. A few but not many (My poor oldest is going through this now with her skinny little body.) My ex when we were first married even told me, "You could use to gain some weight."
After my first child I put on some weight and looked better even normal comparatively. But after 3 children I had a little more weight than I wanted to add. I am not obese but I could use to lose some poundage off the old bottom. What to me is amazing is that now being a little overweight I seem to get more attention then I ever did as a skinny rail. But spending most of my life as a beam pole, I still have this desire to go back to being skinny. I blame it on the media.
If you look at the ads and the stars of my parent's day (50's and the 60's) they were curvy women, voluptuous, not the skinny girls with no breasts. But today the magazines portray beauty by photographing skinny girls, a large percentage of whom are only skinny because the either don't eat or eat and purge.
There are two sides of the coin here. We don't want to be so skinny that we are skipping on significant nutrition in our lives, but on the other hand we don't want to be so undisciplined and unhealthy that we become obese either. There is a weight that is healthy for your frame and if you want to look and be your best you find out what that healthy weight is and strive toward it.
I know that's what I am doing, and if I don't get the same attention as I have been getting so be it. I will be at a healthy weight and therefore be a happier person because before any of us can be good for another person, we have to first be good for ourselves. We have to be content in the skin we have and who we are.
One more point. Go ahead and find that perfect body that perfect face but make sure that what's on the inside is perfect (for you) as well, because the perfect body and face get old and may not be so pretty anymore, but the inside will be there always and if you don't like the person you choose then you will either have a long miserable life or a long lonely life.
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Posted: 6/7/2007 12:14:13 PM | Well, ZOE
From your profile pics I'd say you were just right.
As we age we usually put on weight. Less physical activity I suppose (no more 4 and 10 mile runs for me).
I have a daughter who struggled with her weight till it got so low it threatened her health. She finally asked for help and we made sure she got it. Not sure why this is more common among young girls than young boys...but i digress.
I'm a big guy, and that makes me less attractive to some women...fact of life. I'm sure the reverse is true in many cases. Chemistry they say. I'm also 54, and that makes me unatractive to many women. (I also ride a motorcycle and that is a problem for some, but that's in another thread).
Other than those two things, I'm a real catch. But those two things a a pig part of what creates chemistry between two people. I can lose the weight, but the age thing.....
Greg
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Posted: 6/7/2007 2:32:57 PM | Greg,
I just wonder if it's the age range you target for a meaning relationship. I tend to stay within a 5 year gap of my age. It's more realistic. When a 20 year old boy thinks I would be a great date I remind him that when he is 40 I will be in my 60's. No I won't date too much younger or too much older and then I don't have the types of issues you are talking about. And I am overweight. I hate it but I don't want to be sickening skinny like I was when I was younger.
No usually when we target those in our own generation we find the things that may cause the "chemistry" not to be there are some appearance and more personality related. Truth is the internet is very unfair. I still think the old fashioned way is the best. Meeting someone through work, church, community events, or friends. Then you have the opportunity to get to know the person. Then even if they weren't physically attractive at first you begin to become attracted to the person based on the cute little quirks that aren't visible in a picture on the internet.
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Posted: 6/9/2007 5:52:32 AM | I seem to recall some studies that showed that men subconsciously chose women's body profiles that more closely matched the models of the 50s and 60s than of the models of today. This is probably biological given that larger hips meant less risky childbirth and larger breasts meant an ample supply of milk for nursing. That probably has little to do with the topic at hand, I just needed an excuse to post that. 
Actually, it does have some to do with perceptions about body profiles. Most men will probably gravitate toward the "average" bodied woman over the underfed, almost boyish look the media has been promoting for the past quarter century or more. OTOH, we've been conditioned to believe that beauty is only found tiny slender bodies and nothing could be further from the truth.
One thing I have noticed about any woman, regardless of her body size, is the confidence and warmth she radiates. If she has that, she will be attractive. Without question.  | |
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Posted: 6/18/2007 5:55:28 PM | Also being from Cali,I find no difference. I have traveled all over the U.S (except Alaska and Hawaii). There are men that prefer BBW's and there are men that are looking for the "Barbie" type woman....it's just a fact that everyone knows what style woman they want.
As far as women go, they are just now getting to the point that they like themselves for who they are and what they look like...and if men don't like it they can kiss their either robust or thin behinds.....
Both women and men need to learn to appreciate the human body, and not live their lives hoping, praying,dieting and exercising to get to the "so called Normal look".
With so many races and sizes what is the Norm? I'm 4'11 and weigh around 125lbs...to me that is just fine. I have friends that are 6'4" 200lbs and they are perfect to themselves.
The key to what I'm trying to say is be who you are and enjoy it, enjoy life along with it it's to short of a time span to waste over "Am I to tall or to short, to skinny or overweight" and feel free to tell people that your proud of how you look or how they look, it only spreads smiles and good thoughts. Try to turn everything into a positve and not a negative. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2007 8:38:42 PM | | I took an interpersonal communications class in school and we covered something that I had never really thought about till we covered it. That for most people as they realized who they really were that the image of what they found attractive changed. Over the years what I find cute has changed. Try dealing with the stereotypical request of so many women on these sites that want a guy to be tall when the hell did that dictate a persons worth bah. But as I grow older that image gets shaped by life and that finding a quality person becomes more of an importance cause beauty fades(ugly just gets uglier lol). Most the people on here won't meet the right person cause they aren't willing to give someone a chance. Self image has so much to do with how a person feels inside and how the energy around that person flows or weather you should setup a lightning rod and run. I have seen beautiful woman with extra pounds and I have seen thin woman that grossed me out. People have an ideal in their head and that allone cancels so many possibilities that might have happened. I like all women white, black, latin, chinese you name it tall, short, thin, plump, not really turned on by heavy women the big beautiful thing I know people like to describe themselves like that but I don't think it's a flattering description to say even though it might be true. I know America is becoming a nation of fat people who even thou they are fat want someone way more attractive than they are thanks to tv, magazines, the newspaper. They bombard us with imagery I know thats what I do for a living thats what I am supposed to do. I have to pick which is the most attractive shots every day. What is more pleasing to the eye what is going to represent them in the best light and try to make what I put together pleasing. I would think a good chunk of Californians would be very concerned with appearance. Red Hot Chili Peppers song Californication discribes it. It is the hub of entertainment for the world they decide whose the next sexxy thing or what they think is hot. Ick Paris please go back to jail no more BS coverage of you breaking a nail and daddy had to buy you a jet to make you stop crying. I think we need to think for ourselves and maybe the next time we meet someone that isn't perfect for us but is dam close we need to pursue that instead of betting on gettting something better if we wait. Cause that is what the majority of the people on these sites are doing waiting. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2007 3:21:46 PM | Not being a native Kansan, I would've thought the opposite to be true, judging by some of the narrow-minded comments of my many male coworkers. I guess I have this image of California as laid-back and more accepting of various physical attributes.
Speaking for myself, some extra weight can make a woman look more voluptuous and shapely, which I find appealing. Stick thin is not attractive to me. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2007 9:51:54 AM | | depends on how big u are talking i like to kick it with big women because thier are alot of fun but if they are just so overly obest no.I think if u are a big women and take care of your self like keeped washed and do your nails and all of that good jazz thats cool.but if not **** no.now small women are easy on the eyes but still have to have a good personality or all of that goes to shit. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2009 8:54:58 AM | | I think so many people just focus on what you look like and not whats inside. Yes you can be a big girl and hot or thin and hot but if you are a jerk you are still a jerk thin or fat. So I say looks can deceive you. | |
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