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Posted: 10/2/2005 7:52:34 PM | | I just don't get it! You have great conversations, you seem to have a lot in common, you plan to meet and what happens? Some jerk stands you up, now phone call, no email, nothing. Why are people such cowards? How hard is it to pick up the phone and say I am not interested or I am not ready to meet you yet! Aren't we adults. Why can't people have enough consideration for peoples feelings to at least be honest. Help me understand, PLEASE!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 8:01:50 PM | Happens all the time. Had three guys stand me up last week alone. Don't take it personally and just get back to fishing. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 8:14:36 PM | | He's married (or in a relationship), and couldn't figure out a way to sneak away or call you. You are better off being stood up. Keep looking jamie, you'll find someone worth your time! | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 8:21:35 PM | | I'm so glad I'm terrified of men on here ! LOL! I don't have to go through this. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 8:35:25 PM | Hehe.....worse is when you show up and have a great date and the person likes you so much that they never talk to you again because they are scared that they now have to put energy into a relationship :) LOLS....
There are some freaky people who do lots of weird things... can't wait to find a sweet one who is cool but also who is into me so I can say goodbye to the dating sites, cept this one maybe cuz the forums are fun :)
Au revoir... | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 8:52:51 PM | | Not to be harsh but they might've showed up without you knowing. I agree, it is cowardly, but so are a lot of other actions or lack there of. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 9:10:14 PM | | in the context of on-line dating.....its not an issue of coward-ness......in all probability, he probably never existed in the form that he convey to you!.......welcome to the personalz! | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 9:37:31 PM | | Now don't be upset Jamie, this happens all the time. You have to understand he might feel he is not good enough for you. I would be damn you're beutiful, Maybe he felt insecure about something you have to consider all of these little things. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 10:05:04 PM | Wowo...
Now, I don't know the details and maybe you'll not hear from this fella again... but BE SURE first.
My current interest and I both 'missed' each other on our first date. I thought she stood me up, she thought I stood her up... but, we were both kinda laughing about it after we talked later on, and she asked me if I wanted to give it another try and of course I agreed and well, it's been smooth sailing since. It doesn't always start out the easiest, and I completely understand that sometimes it is a different scenario than what happened to me... but don't jump to conclusions, heck I did, I left a not-so-nice voice mail and even despite that she pursued it... bless her heart 
If it doesn't work, I empathize, but just try not to take it to heart and let it rule any future possibilities... that's my point, it doesn't always work, but sometimes it can just be a gaffe and if we apply those past schemas to the current situation we can have our objectivity clouded and assume the worst.
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Posted: 10/2/2005 10:19:40 PM | i was stood up but I didnt take it too bad. It was a Steak n Shake meet, and I had my meal on my own anyway and was happy :) . rule #1 = dont ever meet somewhere you wouldn't otherwise be.
I've had people that "missed" me and they were insistent that it was my reaction to their photo why they didnt see me, and were so shallow they blocked me and deleted my follow up email without even reading it. Loser!!
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Posted: 10/2/2005 10:21:16 PM | | I know for sure the guy didn't show because we were supposed to meet at my house. And as for maybe something happened or some unexpected circumstance, I emailed and told him that if there was a reason that was out of his control I would understand with no response back and no he did not die, I see him on my buddy list on aol. So basically he is just a jerk! I guess this is just hard for me to get I have never been stood up before, I have stood up people before but I have always had the curtesy to call and explain why. In fact, I missed a date recently because I had this terrible flu and slept right through it, but I did call and leave a voice mail afterwords to let that person what happened. Don't people understand that we have feelings and stuff like this hurts. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 10:24:40 PM | | yes, being stood up seems to be more the norm when you meet people online...I have been trying to get my jacket back from a guy who stood me up, no emails,crap!! All I want is the damn jacket, certainly NOT a relationship anymore!! I have been trying to think of something creative but coming up short...ideas?? | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 10:26:25 PM | Well I'm sorry to hear that Jamie... you want I should pay him a visit!? Just kidding... I just thought you could use a bit of cheering up! 
It does happen, don't stew about it so much... it has a flip-side, and that is better now than later, perhaps your heart is better off protected and still intact rather than your pride? | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 10:49:33 PM | | Umm.... Question soul, if the guy stood ya up..I got that much, but.. Um yeah um how in da heII did he get your jacket if he stood ya up? Lol did he plan a meet and u showed up while he was back at your place jacket snatchin lol | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 10:51:45 PM | There are many reasons for a guy to stand you up. Some have already been mentioned, like he's married, etc... Here is another side to consider.
You might also want to consider, that someone who is shy, opens up on the internet, and then when reality sets in. He could be too scared to meet you because you are too beautiful for him. Sometimes you have to take the initiative, and pick out someone yourself (I'm assuming he contacted you first). Take hold of the fishing rod instead of hanging on as bait. It might overcome the shyness of someone who is shy. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 11:14:55 PM | | If I recall correctly, I contacted him first. And he is definately not shy, from what I learned from our phone conversations, he was the opposite. I understand that men want to stand up for other men, but guys let's face it, this one was a jerk, just like some women are b***h's! | |
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Posted: 10/2/2005 11:31:33 PM | Yeah, understandable question, the person who asked, how could he have gotten your jacket if he stood you up??
He stood me up on our 2nd date-to-be. It's really weird, our first one was supposed to be just a coffee, ended up inviting me out to lunch, hung around all frickin afternoon, so I showed him around, took him to the park, went for a nice walk, drove him back to his bike, ended up sitting in my car talking, went for another coffee, finally he said he had to go even tho he didnt want to.(5 hours later!!) Was a nice day...so anyway, stood me up on the 2nd, like I said, and wont answer my emails about getting the jacket back, or where he is or what has happened. If he has found somebody else I really could care less, just wanna know, you know.  | |
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Posted: 10/3/2005 12:05:17 AM |
I know for sure the guy didn't show because we were supposed to meet at my house. And as for maybe something happened or some unexpected circumstance, I emailed and told him that if there was a reason that was out of his control I would understand with no response back and no he did not die, I see him on my buddy list on aol. So basically he is just a jerk! I guess this is just hard for me to get I have never been stood up before, I have stood up people before but I have always had the curtesy to call and explain why. In fact, I missed a date recently because I had this terrible flu and slept right through it, but I did call and leave a voice mail afterwords to let that person what happened. Don't people understand that we have feelings and stuff like this hurts.
I think pretty much everyone has been stood up at some time or another. I met someone on another site, we had a nice first meeting just talking, and he said he wanted to get together again. He didn't call to confirm place/time, then emailed that night and apologized that he had been out of town and hadn't driven but ridden with friends, so he couldn't get back early enough, and asked if I'd like to make plans for another day. It was somewhat of a legitimate excuse, even though he always carries his cell phone or could have found one to call and let me know, and even though I would have driven separately if I knew I had made plans for that night to meet someone. We did make plans to meet again, and he didn't show up. It was weird, but it didn't hurt, as considering how inconsiderate this person was, I wouldn't want to meet them again anyway. I lost about 2 hours of my time for the first meeting, and though it seemed to go well, he turned out not to be what he said he was. I count myself lucky that I found that out right away. I have since met someone else who is considerate and does keep his word, regardless of how busy his schedule is. It's much nicer ;)
One word of unsolicited advice ;) Please don't meet new people by letting them come to your house. You don't know them, regardless of how much you've talked online. Meet them somewhere in public, with people around. There's plenty of time for them to pick you up at your house after you've gotten to know them better. It's much better to be safe than sorry. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2005 3:18:41 AM | Maybe he found a bigger/better fish. This is online dating. Hardly anything is really what it seems.  | |
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Posted: 10/3/2005 3:43:55 AM | Norolim Quoted : Happens all the time. Had three guys stand me up last week alone. Don't take it personally and just get back to fishing.
Thats the spirit...you go girl | |
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Posted: 10/3/2005 4:15:51 AM | | Heh, unfortunately this one sentence sums up online dating for the most part. But Don't give up there is a chance you will meet that special someone that will forgo all previous online dating experiences :) | |
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Posted: 10/3/2005 4:23:08 AM | | I know getting stood up hurts, but if he stood you up without calling or e-mailing then hes not worth having and its better to find that out right away rather than later on down the road. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2005 4:28:33 AM | After reading that yall were supposed to meet up at your house I was like, gosh...who does that and then I thought, was everyone else skimming over that part? Thanks proliberate for sayin something, cause whoa.
Perhaps its a good thing he didn't show up...
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