| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 10/3/2005 9:05:36 AM | | I do agree with some of you people. Pot is illegal but that fact of the matter is that it affects the body and mind alot less then booze. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 10/3/2005 9:12:06 AM | Maybe so, but that doesn't menayou should do it in front of your kids.
I remember being horrified to hear my daughter come home at the age of 7 and say that her classmate "smelled like pot" I knew she had never been exposed to it at hmoe so I asked her "What is pot?" She didn't know but one of her friends had told her the child smelled like that. How did her friend know? Her dad did it at home all the time.
Needless to say that is one friend's house my daughter was not allowed to go to! | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 10/3/2005 1:53:56 PM | | I don't understand...are you wanting approval to smoke pot around your kids? | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 10/3/2005 2:16:26 PM | As parent we should do what is respectable and I dont think that smoking pot infront of the kids is a good idea. As adults we can do what we want, but just like drinking excessively infront of the kids, the drugs are not a good idea either. If you feel the need to do it do it when the kids are gone or if they are alseep. It is like all things, it should be done in moderation, and not all the time.
Just remember that you are still responsible for the kids and their well being. And if the ex finds out that you are doing these things with the kids around it could affect your court case. The kids dont need to know what you do to relax, if you choose this as a means just do it without the kids around, and be careful..
This is put out to all in general and no one in particular. Please be careful with all decissions that you make. You never know how it will affect you or your kids....
Have a great day to all...........................Babs   | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 10/3/2005 2:49:01 PM | | my oldest daughter's father was actually a drug dealer. (i know, not the best choice).. he would justify smoking pot to me by saying that his mom and dad had smoked it in front of him all the time and that it didn't hurt him at all. but hey, he ended up dropping out of school, selling drugs, and currently in jail, but no, it did nothing to him....... lol....... it's a bad idea to smoke weed in front of your kid. it just tells them that it's ok to do that once they are older. don't do things in front of your kid, unless you are prepared to see them do it in front of you in the future.......... | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/8/2006 12:02:14 PM | | I smoke on occasion but it was always a rule of MINE not to smoke in front of my x's kids as they were already phucked up enough to begin with and it's just not right anyways. Even as a teenager i'd never wear t-shirts with questionable logos such as jack daniels or cigarettes, etc.. because I had a much younger little brother who was exposed to enough crap at school, tv, friends parents, etc.. and if his big brother exposed him to it aswell it could influence him without even knowing it. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/8/2006 12:56:48 PM | | I believe strongly when you are with your child or children you should be in control of the situation, no matter what. Everyone has limits, know yours. I do not however agree with smoking it infront of the children, when this is done your children are also inhaling the fumes which have a reaction in their body. If this is something you chose to do then atleast give your children the curteousy of doing it out doors. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/8/2006 1:32:26 PM | I think the bottom line is that smoking pot is illegal. Whether you personally think it is worse than booze or not is irrelevant. What you are teaching your children is that it is ok to ignore laws if they can justify their behavior or disagree with the law. You need to think about that when your 13 year old daughter comes home drunk and high and tells you, "Well mom, getting drunk and high is not as bad as coming home pregnant. I could be doing worse things." As parents we need to set good examples and teach our children how to be responsible adults....that includes following the law. If you ignore laws, and your children grow up to do the same and ends up in jail.....you only have yourself to blame.
Ozzie | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/8/2006 2:02:12 PM | | You shouldn't be doing drugs or drinking around your kids, period. If you are then stop, what kind of a message are you sending to them? People who smoke, do drugs or drink around their kids shouldn't have kids. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/8/2006 6:51:53 PM | Nobady should do drugs around their kids. I have seen who some people change after only one joint and it sometimes is worse than booze.
I will have the odd drink around my kids but I never have more than two. And then I wait until the two youngest are in bed. i have taught my daughter that it is okay to have th odd drink as long as you are responsable about it. She knows that I will never be drunk around her. (Not that I get that way very often. maybe once a year.) My daughter also knows that it is something that you have to wait until you are of age to do.
As for drugs I ahve already had a talk with her about how it can mess up her life if she ever did them. I have also been very honest with her about it. No I have never done drugs nor do I ever plan on it. I need all my brain cells for school and rasing my kids. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/8/2006 7:36:54 PM | You could have your children taken away for smoking drugs in front of them. Do you actually want your kids to grow up to have drug dependency issues? Have some respect and common sense!!!
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/8/2006 11:30:19 PM | | watching the history channel about prohibition in the 20s, you see what a fiasco trying to prohibiting liquor was. it not only turned everyday people into criminals, -because of its lucrative benefits by smuggling booze from canada to the US, it created organized crime, and was responsible for thousands of violent deaths. -you would think we would learn from our past mistakes and realize regulation would not only dry up the illegal activity, but the taxes collected could probibly balance the budget. - i dont smoke the stuff. but i think were wasting our resources locking up people for years, just for smoking something that used to grow wild along the potomac river... -seriously | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/9/2006 2:04:06 AM | | The issue is not whether drugs should be legal or not. It is about showing a disregard for the law in front of your children and setting and example for them to be responsible adults. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/9/2006 4:36:06 AM | ^^
not necessarily. social workers believe that people are doing the best they can in any given situation. you have to analyse every aspect of the persons behaviour.. ex, do they have social support systems, are they single parenting, how many children, what challenges are there.. etc. This system does not condone acts of child abuse in any way, but it does try to at least make the parents voice heard - sometimes that's all that an overstressed parent needs. through understanding, cooperation and the development of a professional relationship with a parent in crisis is really the only way that you can get approapriate social support systems in place that can help them.
some people do a complete 180 degree turnaround from things as simple as childcare for 5 hours a week. i'm sure that if every parent looked at their behavior through the entire years that they hae been parents that they are bound to see one or more mistakes that they have made. why did they make them? my parents were awesome, but they had their days - know what i mean?
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/9/2006 5:28:08 AM | The social system in America is a sham failure
It isn't in Canada. Does our system have faults? Of course. But we invest in our system here and it shows.
When I had to remove my son from his mother's care for drug use the social system that helped me make it happen was excellent. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/9/2006 5:37:44 AM | I'm too high on life being a parent without inducing my body with shite...Besides falling asleep at stupid times and having uncontroled urges for food don't appeal to me | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/9/2006 8:17:02 AM | | One addiction shouldnt be used to justify another, that is if you consider yourself relient on a drug and alchohol is a drug too. If whatever you are taking is affecting your life, emotionally or financially then you should take a second look at it. And even if you arent doing it in front of your kids do you honestly believe they dont senses your mood swing when you are high? I think they do. Our kids are often more perceptive then we give them credit for. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/9/2006 9:39:09 AM | ^^^
hee hee "nosoup4u". that was my fav. Seinfeld episode..lol.
"out of my store.. no soup for you"!
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:35:06 PM | | since children look up to their parents. they will pick up any habits parents have, whether it be smoking, drinking, swearing or overeating. -to set an example you also must live by it. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:56:55 PM | Ok shorty,
Not only is it illegal but it will get you thrown in jail, your kids taken from you, and it effects the mind just as much as booze only in a different way. It also effects your body as well in other harmful ways as well as screwing up your memory cells in your brain. Want the scientific references and papers? That is easily enough gotten.
Dumbest thing I ever saw was a single parent doing illegal drugs such as pot thinking that they could still maintain. My ex chopped off one of her fingers one time splitting kindling with the kids in the house. Lucky thing was the kids grandmother drove up as couple minutes later and got her to the hospital and took care of the kids while the docs reattached her finger...that could have just as easily been one of the kids hands if they had been helping her like they usually tried to do.
Think about it.
Kevin | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/9/2006 9:03:07 PM | | HOLY S**T!! That has to be the biggest load of BULLS**T I have ever heard. I was in agreance with you CRANEMAN untill you dropped that whole bit about parents who smoke shouldnt have children. Thats pretty harsh of a thing to say. I am 23 years old. I smoke ciggarettes and POT everyonce in awhile.My daughter has never seen dope, never smelled it or even seen me affiliating with it. She has however seen me outside having a smoke. The is three years old and I have never smoked in the house. My child always has everything she needs before I buy smokes. So what you are saying is that because I choose to smoke and Always go outside, my daughter shold be taken away from me? I am not boasting about myself, but I have managed to be a stay home mom for three years, when I work she comes with me. every morning I get up with her and start by giving her a big hug, then we go into the kitchen and pick out together what we are going to make. Her and I make her breakfast and sit down to eat. We then watch a few of her shows on tv. now its time for arts and crafts. we spend upwards to 3 hours a day doing arts and crafts and working in workbooks.LUNCH TIME, my little one like to play DORA THE EXPLORER on the computer while I make her lunch.DID you read that, my less than three year old likes to play on the computer.she can complete the entire game start to finish in a begginer level made for children 5 and up.and has started working on stage two.we sit down together and have lunch.The babe always has a nap.at nap time we read one story.she napps for an hour.in that hour I prob. go outside for 3-5 smokes.she wakes up with again another big hug.Now it is time for her and i to go do some work around the building . we do this together.she helps me read the apartment numbers stating the like 1-1-1 she is getting really good, and yep she not quite three, soon in june. when we come back together we make supper. after supper it is bath and bedtime.at bed time we read two stories one we slowly read together and play i spy with the pictures the other one i read to her while snuggling. my child can count to 13 and knows her ABCs inside and out.After i know she asleep i then go outside, and you know what i do?? I smoke.... to get to my point is that child is smarter and healthier amd more adapted to the world then most 5 year olds are now a day, but because I smoke or occasionally smoke pot when she is away at her dads, my child should be taken away from me and I should not be a parent??... GET A F**K**G CLUE BUDDY.. what I do in my time is my choice and as long as it doesnt interfere with my childs wellbeing, is my chioce.Who the hell are you to say I am a bad parent because I choose to smoke?Question for you.How often do you have a drink of alchol?I myself never touch it.So would it be fair for me to say if you even have 2 drinks a year that you should never ever be allowed to be a parent and you were a bad person.NO,BECAUSE THAT IS NOT MY PLACE TO SAY.so a peice of advice for you, dont ever judge people for their actions,even parents,i am a great mother who has a child already concidered gisted and extremely advanced and I smoke.Out of curiosity? who the hell gave you the right to judge others? What makes you so perfect? | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/10/2006 1:10:57 AM | | I dont think it is a matter of whether a person can be a good parent or not if they smoke pot. I am a cop, and personally think that alcohol abuse is far worse than what happens when someone smokes weed. I have also seen many weed smokers that are responsible citizens and competent parents. But personal opinion is neither here nor there. The bottom line is that, unless you are in a minority of jurisdictions, smoking weed is illegal. Depending on how much you have possession of, it can be a felony, which is the same classification as burglary, robbery, ADW, and other serious crimes. It doesn't matter if you think it is no big deal, or not as bad as drinking....if you get caught smoking, there are major consequences....one of which may be you could lose your child. I have seen it happen....so anyone who says that it never happens is speaking without knowledge. By using weed you are knowingly placing your parental rights at risk...as for what? A buzz and the munchies???? You gotta be smarter than that. And that will be the argument that CPS uses when they try to take your child away, "Well she used drugs knowing that she could lose her children. She decided her drug use was more important than her child. Therefore, she has poor parental judgment and we must take the child for his/her safety." I have seen this argument used....and work. Be very careful when you decide that you disagree with laws and are not going to follow them...especially when children are involved. | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/10/2006 5:20:33 AM | | I very rarely smoke pot... If i am out on a weekend away from my child, at a party and someone offers it to me I dont always say no. I dont justify this in anyway. I am always the responsible one of the group kinda like the nanny that makes sure the kids get home safe. I understand that it is illegal and I would never bring it into my home, but in the past I have smoked it. My who arguement was based on th a**hole who chose to jusde smoker,potheads and what ever. The whole smoking thing did it for me I just thought that I would describe a normal day in the life of me and my daughter,Myself being a ciggerette smoker. He mentioned that people who smoke, even ciggerettes shouldnt have kids and I just that was a pretty dumb, idiotic thing to say. I dont argue the pot part , but just because I choose to smoke ciggerettes outside of my home, doesnt mean that I am a bad parent and that my child should be removed from my home. She is very well taken care of irrigardless of what I do to myself.....smoking ciggerettes. thanks for the words ozzman , very incitful .take care all | |
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| single parents smoking pot
Posted: 4/10/2006 6:21:12 AM | My 13 year-old son's friend's parents smoke pot and cigarettes. Both of them drink coffee ,too. Occaisionally, not much they drink alcohol. I am not aginst pot. I AM against coffee and cigarettes. Alcohol, being a form of sugar is just another sugar addiction. (for some people) When my son's friend wanted my son to smoke pot with him, I told my son -Go ahead! God put that plant on this earth for a reason. But the only reason I can see where it does any good is if you want to relax, BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO DO FOR THE NEXT FEW YEARS. Old people, Incarcerated people, the instiutionalized, should all be given pot. It will help them adjust to their lives.
Strangely enough, my son decided pot was not for him. That was over a year ago.
Meanwhil, his friend. whose parent, in their wisdom, had told their son they would "send him to military school," beat him within an inch of his life", You know the routine, if they ever 'caught' him smoking pot, now have a kid who not only smokes pot cigarettes, and drinks coffee, but is one step away from the juvenile detention center. He is the reason both of them might split up , lose their home, get od faster than they normally wold have. I knew this kid . He was a good kid, but he always had to push his limit. Like most kids.
The moral here is 1. Practice what you preach. and 2. Kids recognize your limits better than you do. | |
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