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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/5/2004 7:55:39 PM | | There are but the problem these days is women don't care. A good man isn't as important as a good looking man or a good and wealthy man. So what if they treat a girl like dirt, man they look sexy and have cool cars. | |
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ousu
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Joined: 8/28/2004
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/6/2004 5:04:28 AM | LOL Yes I do. I am just waiting they are coming on the second route (many of the younghood marriages are ending around 40')...
Seriously, good or bad... the question is about accepting the partner as (s)he is. One just needs to find a suitable one, a good for one. - I am more worried whether I have learnt anything about myself and my patterns. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/6/2004 9:23:16 AM | | There are good men out there, which is why this venue is great, gets us in touch, but a lot of good men are not so quick to enter a relationship anymore unless they are sure, many are divorced and don't want to settle down for a long time, if ever. One thread asks why woman don't go for 'good men', no matter how 'good' someone is man or woman, there has to be attraction, at least that is what so many men keep saying. If a man messages you and you like his looks and profile, and so you meet, if he says there is no 'chemistry', what does that mean then? Good men are just as bad as the 'bad boys'. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/6/2004 9:25:20 AM | | I agree with xTerryx...it's all about perception. What is a good man?? In my opinion there still are good men in the world, I even know a few that ARE NOT GAY! No one's perfect, everyone has a major defect...it just depends on if the pieces fit and you can love one another...defects and all. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/6/2004 11:08:26 AM | nope, they have all enrolled in the navy/airforce/landforce corps.
the rest are gay and married with kids
then you get the small part of the pie which is artists, but they are off limits for most of humanity.
yep its desperate. all cry in regret! | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/6/2004 12:29:45 PM | Not many. It seems the more you live the less "good" is left in ya. I guess all of the run ins with the cheaters, a$$holes, and idiots kinda weighs down on you after awhile. If i think back just 5-8 years, I can really see a difference in myself and how I act in a relationship. I guess ppl learn to be less trusting and more selfish over time. Aint that a b|tch 
Oh and "gay" ppl aren't always good. They'll be good to you but i've seen them in relationships (no not mine lol). They are as bad as anyone else. Ever see 2 girls together? I have and its nothing like the fantasies we've learned to grow and love. They are evil.  | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/6/2004 10:56:01 PM | | I think there might be what some consider a good guy out there but to others isn't good enough..It is all based on what you value,it all depends on what is "good " for you..There are so many amazing people out there ,it is just finding the good one for you thats hard.It's fun to "weed " through though..lol | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/7/2004 8:24:54 AM | YES and NO!
Here's the truth... You may think you're "A Good Man"... but you're NOT! Truth hurts.
You may say "I just want to be myself" when being taught how to cause a womam to feel
attraction towards you, etc.
But truely you're NOT being yourself when you take a women out to dinner/movie, pay for
her time, etc. You're just trying to minipulating her... and SHE KNOWS IT.
You're NOT going to cause a women to feel attraction for you by doing the same boring
s*** that the last 81 guys tried on her this month.
It's NOT about you're looks or money either. I use to think that money would help me
meet 'the one' a lot faster. But not really... Money only wastes your time having to
figure out who just wants you for your money. Honestly I believe money is a BIG negative
when it comes to finding a woman.
By the way, sorry if this post didn't make sense. If I didn't just wake up I wouldn't
type a message without rereading it a second time to edit when I'm writing about a topic
that frustrates the hell out of me! [guys who think they are being a "good man" / "nice
guy" and wondering why they don't get girls.]
PS: I'm not at all telling anyone to become an abusive controlling jerk, etc. I'm telling
guys to get a life, learn how to become FUN, learn how to become the kind of guy women
naturally feel attracted to while being yourself. You weren't born being able to ride a
bike, you had to learn. Meeting women is a skill that needs to be learned. :o) | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/7/2004 10:58:02 AM | Yes, there are good men left. There are good men that have been burned, and that are are afraid of giving "their all." This is evident. However, the same holds true for women. Dealing with this does not start with the other person, it begins with "self first."
"Once bitten, twice shy." Why do few live with the concept that the wrong ones were just practice for the right one? I find it pathetically-amusing when I see men trying to morph themselves into "jerks." Ya, baby, that will get you far. Negative attracts negative.
Women are not martians. Why are we spoken of as though we just fell off of 'Planet Boob?' There is too much time involved in tryiing to figure out women, motives, "how to score," and not enough energy in putting forth solutions within yourselves. So easy to point the finger to cast blame, rather than to dissect your own self, isn't it? Wake yourself up and do it.
Looks. Personality. Money. All three are appealing in some fashion. Looks: the person takes care of themselves in the regard of what you find appealing, or not. Personality: the person has a personality that meshes with yours and your lifestyle, values, morals, beliefs - or not. Can't fault someone for being unique. Money: defines to another that the person has upward mobility, is brilliant at pregnating funds by investment, or was just plain out lucky via lottery, family fortune, or stumbled upon the rare paper bag on the street. Money is sexy, or we all would not want it so badly, and try to attain more of it in our own lives. Let's not fool ourselves. I have not run into too many people in this world who have the dream and goal of livng in a doublewide trailor with a rusted green Buick in the front yard propped up on cindar blocks. Even the majority of those in that situation work hard to get out of it. Stability, employment, and security for a family is attractive. It's one of the reasons why I work my behind off. I am sure it is the reason why many of you do, too. Be honest, if you care about a persons financial stability, say it. You want someone like yourself who works to attain, not someone who lays on a couch day in and day out to soak up Jerry Springer and Rikki Lake. And if they are, hopefully they are either already financially comfortable/retired, making a killing on Ebay or operating their own websites.
Being creative when taking a woman out is a good trait. Does not need to be expensive, just special. Personally, I won't do a movie on a first date. Pointless to sit quietly in the dark with someone I just met, when I should be getting to know this person via active communication. If you want to do dinner, throw in something a little exciting and unique after. You only have one time to make a first impression that will never let you be forgotten. Good or bad. Nice guy ...or not. | |
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| Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ?
Posted: 12/7/2004 10:38:13 PM | | was once a good man. no just left not giving a sh*t what happens. just want to be left alone most days. tired of getting asked for money from women. i should buy them this, i should take them here...... done with it all....until i meet the next one! | |
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BCGray
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Joined: 12/1/2004
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