| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 10/10/2005 12:19:45 PM | Have you ever been the "recipient" and or "provider" of a "Random Act of kindness" ?
What was it? How did you feel?
I think sometimes..the good others still do in the world today is often over looked....
I want to recognize someone ...who I won't name names..but "HE" will know if he reads this...
He did a magic performance for my children and friends...and then came over the next day and did a private performance for my kids!
So to my " friend....your act of kindness "...should not go unnoticed!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ....AND thank you...for making my kids smile..there is no greater gift you can give to me!
The sweetest thing in life is the smile of a child!
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 10/10/2005 7:32:13 PM | well sweetheart, all i can say is im always doing random acts of kindness to the point that the other person gets used to it and just expects and does nothing for me.
and im glad that your kids were smiling. Nothing better than that.
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 10/11/2005 9:09:31 AM | | A friend of mine at work's boyfriend (who I've known since elementary school) was severely hurt at work in an accident two weeks ago. I felt really bad that I couldn't do anything for them so I made my friend pumpkin chocolate chip muffins (her favourite) and the boyfriend double chocolate chip cookies.... not really a random act of kindness but just something I do for sick friends... | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 10/11/2005 9:38:13 AM | Adrenaline gal...I know what you mean! ..but you are the better person for it! Some just don't know how to give........
Munkeechi! That is a random act of kindness!! It also shows your a caring soul to your friends!
Kudos and Applause to you both!
sweetest day dreams! | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 11:27:08 AM | Thats what this world needs , more random acts of kindness,,, I like this thread ,, good one Smartie girl .  | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 11:32:49 AM | Well I've always tried to live by the this mantra..but lately...
I've learned...that maybe it's time to stop....that maybe being mean and bitter like the rest of the world...is the way to go...might fit in then and not stick out like a thorn!
People have forgotten how to be grateful and how to say thank you or even apologize....what is the world coming to...I'm afraid to let my kids live in the world today.....
Edit...some recent acts of kindness I've recieved lately...a friend helped me move some stuff. another...held my hand during a difficult situation...another gave me a beautiful dress for my birthday...another...hugged me....they are so small...these things that can change your life.......
I changed my mind...I'm still gonna do things...and the first thing is to forgive...and you know that I have to forgive a few people...and remind all of you..that it is a new day...and in a blink ...it could be over and you may never get to say...you're sorry...or I love you for being my friends.....and Wpgwmn...sorry in advance....is it manic monday still cuz...I need to say "whatever"..thanks Momma N for that one! | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 11:43:54 AM | Don't be afraid to let them live in the world today Smartie. Prepare them for the reality of it.
Teach them to see the worst in people instead of the best. They will be a lot better off for it and suffer a lot less disappointment down the road. | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 11:46:01 AM | to me - anything can be a random act of kindness...
letting a hurried mother of screaming kids, infront of me in line, and then keeping them occuped while mom is paying for groceries...
my personal fav, paying for the coffee of the person in the Tim's drive thru behind me...I love doing that...wish I could watch their reactions when they pull up to the window for their free coffee....but I never do, its not the point...
helping someone on the side of the road (been sitting on the side too many times, with cars flashing by that I rarely drive past anymore)
last month, my neighbours, who I thought hated me because of my dog - I went over and helped them sod their front lawn - just showed up, after not speaking to them for years...it was an awesome experience, because I KNEW I was helping them out alot (elderly couple - and it was me and them)
I believe that we are sometimes faced with "coincidences" that require us to do "random acts" and if we miss those opportunites, we miss out on the chance to not only bless others, but ourselves...and that my dear folks, is what life is all about...
~M~ | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 11:47:48 AM | Well I use to feel that way about my child but it seems that the trick is to
teach the child that they must not be door mats and offer there trust without people deserving it. Mine learned so much about that in cadets...they taught her leadership skills big.(respect is the base of that program through dicipline)sp grrrrrrrr
I think it's wonderful to be kind however when people start sucking your energy because they don't RESPECT you and instead take you for granted then you really learn where to draw the line with reguard to self respect.
Ya it is quite the world we live in, if you smile at people they think you have a motive. And then your told your too intense if you open conversation to soon. Then it's
she is too friendly or she's hitting on me..........wtf........lol there loss hun.
I notice even people say crap if you send an email to simply say hi........what ever.lol | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:03:24 PM | Why?.....What good does it do?
If you ask yourself this question, then you are judging the act. It no longer becomes a random act and you expect some kind of a reward.
Could you pull money out and give it to a complete stranger, without questioning what they will use it for?
Yes = A totally selfless act in which you trust that the money will be spent wisely. If the money is spent on cigarettes or wine, that is not for you to judge. Your blessing is in the giving.
No = Questioning the use means that you want to have a part in how the funds are spent. If you feel the need to do this, your blessing will come when you physically take part in helping the person out.
Your kindness will be noted somewhere in the grand scheme of things.
Helping people without expecting anything in return is a great boost for your self-worth. | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:05:05 PM | | I love that paying for someones coffee at Tims idea ,,,,,,,,,, Now thats cool | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:14:42 PM | Why did I have to do that......well cuz my mother is a dry drunk.....and she
just takes....and I will be damned if my child will be used like a door mat by her....firstly. It's been years of teaching my child to command and expect respect...her dad drinks heavy and use to use her too. That's why.
Not anymore............. | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:21:57 PM |
Your kindness will be noted somewhere in the grand scheme of things.
Helping people without expecting anything in return is a great boost for your self-worth
The only person who is going to note and remember your kindness is the person you were kind to.
On a side note, if there is anyone looking to boost their self worth by giving without expecting anything in return, please feel free to contact me. | |
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| @Kitty
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:24:19 PM | I respect your decision to teach your children not to be doormats...
been doing the same thing for a number of years with my girls (3 daughters, 1 son) who used to be terrified of their father to the point of wetting themselves, it was important that they learn to stand up for themselves...
I do believe there is a difference between standing up for one'self and being a doormat...
but I am also aware, that MY feelings on the matter come from going through several catastrophes alone with my kids and wishing that SOMEONE would notice, because it would have given me a bit more hope then I had at that point...when you have been through that type of pain, it makes you more aware of how other's might need a "boost" and you reach out with your heart - doesnt make you a doormat, just another human being, letting someone else know they arent alone...
who knows, something as silly as asking why a neighbour has a pile of trash beside teh garage, instead of complaining he doesnt clean up - u never know, they might have an injury, and can not move things on their own...
But then, I have a weird way of looking at things...LMAO
~M~ | |
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| @Kitty
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:31:26 PM | I'm not looking for a reward for what I do....but that somewhere out there...people pay it forward is the key...and just saying thank you...what is wrong with basic manners...even when someone holds the door for you..that is an act of kindness.... | |
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| @Kitty
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:32:54 PM | Exactly.... carrot or stick.........
My child is a extremely giving person she just won't cave for crap......big difference.
I'm the first person to reach but don't play me for a fool........bingo.
Recognize that sometimes if you have the skill to reach over your boundry to another but maintain the boundry. BINGO. The point is to not allow expectation back into your boundry. Because that spells motive. | |
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| @Kitty
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:42:44 PM | | Litttle Kitty ..that is the part I'm having trouble with..those who play you for an all day sucker...they should be so ashamed of themselves for taking something good and destroying it. | |
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| @Kitty
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:48:56 PM | I know smartie....you will get there. It's real hard to learn to stop self
I use to be the same....I use to offer myself and got ground up big....why do you think I'm so solid.......I learned to do it cuz I just got sick of being people ass wipe.
My own mom....I mean and I didn't want my child to suffer like I did. So I went hard
at self help and I have finnaly become skilled at it......but it is a long hard process.
Recognision is the first step......and your a smart woman....you can learn just like I did.
Give your self the gift of forgetting to make you first. It's ok we all started this
process for a reason......command it my girl.....it will come to you too. I promise boundry will never hurt you......it will stop that stuff. BIG. | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 2:19:55 PM |
The only person who is going to note and remember your kindness is the person you were kind to.
Oh boy...that is exactly the response that will have the most benefit from your good deed. The idea of paying it forward will make the world a better place. The "ME FIRST" attitude is a bit negative.
I have called perfect strangers Angels and I have been asked if I was an Angel. You need to experience this firsthand.
Yes - Kitty - My ex was and still is a doormat for a sob story. I think that if you let people use you, they will take it to the limit.
If you do kindness on a case by case spur of the moment type of situation, the users will be obvious. You chose to help out, not be chosen by the same people to use you over and over.
The bottom line is you chose not to be used.
You chose to do a random act of kindness, the act doesn't chose you. | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 2:23:29 PM |
Oh boy...that is exactly the response that will have the most benefit from your good deed. The idea of paying it forward will make the world a better place. The "ME FIRST" attitude is a bit negative.
Pay it forward was a great movie, but I don't see things like that happening in everday life. | |
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| Question then...
Posted: 8/8/2006 2:32:03 PM | I know someone who's friends were recently were told they have to move out of their house by tomorrow - I was across the street from that house yesterday, and I kept thinking how nice it would be if I had met them so I could help them in whatever way possible (they are both ill too)
even dropping coffee off, a fruit basket or something anonomously, on moving day...they dont know me from adam and yet, my heart hurts for them and I want to let them know that someone is thinking about them...
dont want nothing, not even prepared to introduce myself to them...I just KNOW it is a hard time...
WWD
~M~ | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 2:37:28 PM | I have......I am a handy guy that can take care of lots of problems. I was shocked when I had trouble that I couldn't deal with. A stranger helped me out for just a thank you. I think that in the next few weeks I helped out more than 10 people who thought I was heaven-sent.
You will never see it if you don't look. It happens all the time. The movie just made more people aware of the idea. It was not a new idea.
Emerald - that was your que to act out kindness. If you plan things they never seem the same. Trust your feelings, if you feel you are being used...run...if you feel good...be happy. | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 8/8/2006 3:52:53 PM | The whole point of volunteering my 2 years in funeral service was to learn about giving..... I think I learned it. Not one single regret....and for 1 1/2 years full time.
So people yes it is very rewarding to give to the community and learn it isn't about taking for a reason it is about giving cuz it feels good inside. | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 9/15/2009 6:38:30 AM |
The only person who is going to note and remember your kindness is the person you were kind to.
On a side note, if there is anyone looking to boost their self worth by giving without expecting anything in return, please feel free to contact me.
I don't do it to boast my self worth, I just do it for smiles and reactions. I won't contact you buy you should hang out at The Forks more often because if you see a guy walking around giving flowers away to strangers... well that would more than likely be me and I will give you one too! I haven't been able to get there as much as in the past as I don't live in the city anymore. But when I do go south I do tend to go overboard on the flower giving thing. I hope people pay it forward as well and have heard from a few people that they did just that. And that makes it cool. Another one I love doing is when in a checkout line saying "I have the penny(pennies)" when someone's bill comes to an odd number in change. Admittedly this one has to be premeditated as you need to have the pennies handy. Its one of those tiny RAK but sometimes appreciated more than gold. I'll never forget doing it at a Sobey's and the old guy waited outside for me to shake my hand and thank me for such "...gracious generosity!" the likes of which he hadn't seen since he was a young man.
On a side note, what gets me is how few people are looking for videos of RAK. I have two videos on youTube one of a RAK and the other of a cuckoo clock striking 11:00. The clock vid has gotten 462 hits and the RAK has gotten 159 hits. Does that not seem strange to anyone else? | |
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| Random acts of Kindness....
Posted: 9/15/2009 7:12:12 PM |
On a side note, what gets me is how few people are looking for videos of RAK. I have two videos on youTube one of a RAK and the other of a cuckoo clock striking 11:00. The clock vid has gotten 462 hits and the RAK has gotten 159 hits. Does that not seem strange to anyone else?
I know what a cuckoo clock is but what is a RAK?
How do we determine if it is a random act? Someone mentioned holding a door, i've done that all my life as far as i can remember so it would hardly be random. Using proper manners or any of the common courteousies shouldn't be random should it?
I think everyone does acts of kindness throughout life but doesn't talking about it detract from the kindness? | |
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