| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/11/2005 9:49:55 AM | | I'm there for my daughter all the time. She stays with me for like 4 days then we switch off with my baby mamma. It's cool but i hella miss her and i just dropped her off this morning. What could make it easier to cope with her not being here all the time? | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/11/2005 11:48:17 AM | Turtle...it sucks don't it !
my little guy's with he for 6 daysm then goes to his mom for 2 or 3, all depends "if she feels like it or not"...I tell you one thing ! the minute the door is closed, i start missing him ! I wish I could help you out brother, and say something that'll make it all better,,,but that's just the reality of being a good father in a shitty situation. I guess time will tell ! I look at it this way. I cherish every second that I'm with my little guy and contantly remind him how much I love him...'cause I know, that one day he will know exactly how his dad feels.
Worst part about my situation, is my little guy's only 2 (and a bit) and every time he goes to his mom's...he's kicking and screaming !!! | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/11/2005 12:14:02 PM | What a bunch of great men in this thread. I have a two year old little girl. She has a wonderful father, but he doesn't get to see her all that much. He saw her this weekend. I had him over for turkey dinner last nigh. He works out of town, and it had been almost 4 months since he had seen her last. Give the wonderful men in this thread a hand | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/11/2005 6:19:49 PM | | You guys are good examples of what a good dad should be. My youngest son is 17 now, but was 14 when his dad & I split. His dad never makes an effort to see him or talk to him, or be a part of his life. I think that's so sad & it hurts our son. Never understood how a parent could be that way. Keep up the good work guys. :-) | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/11/2005 6:24:52 PM | | My son lives with me full-time. He and I have been by ourselves since he was 14 months old and his mom only tries to see him about once every two months. The funny part is I love it just being us together and watching him grow up and learn new things everyday. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/11/2005 9:55:22 PM | | I been on my own with my girls for many years. I work at home so I can always be found when they need me. Luckily for me their mother lives abroad and has no interest in visitation. If my kids are home so am I, never once hired a sitter. As far as coping when she's gone have you ever thought of doing small projects for her room or play area in the yard. Something to make her surprised when she returns. Might help take some of her fears away in leaving for the few days knowing a new surprise will be waiting when she comes home. Doesn't have to be big, just something to let her know you were thinking about her. The missing her part I'm afraid I can't help with that one. I don't think anything can, but hey at least you have a little angel to miss huh? That's not a bad thing. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/11/2005 10:04:25 PM | | Cool, I have full custody of my 16 yr old daughter ( since she was 2 months old). heck, she goes away to stay the night with a friend and I miss the heck out of her lol. Cell phone helps. Of course her mom hasnt been around for 151/2 years. I also have 3 other great children, 2 daughters and a son, that I share custody of. now that sucks. They stay with me 3 days one week and 4 the next, should be greatful, but 7 days really isnt enough is it... | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/11/2005 11:25:21 PM | | I take care of mine too. I've had full custody of my son since the divorce and even took full custody of my step son after the divorce because she didn't really want the responsibility of dealing with them. Besides, I raised them virtually all by myself all along anyway and so after she left I wasn't in anyway going to let her take them then. So, I continued to raise my step son till he moved out at 19 and am still raising my 14 year old son even now. I wouldn't give it up for anything! | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/12/2005 9:30:57 AM | | I wish I could have done it without the courts, but sometimes the 'other' person just doesn't see the 'right' thing. It's truly unfortunate because all these children are innocent and did not ask to be denied by his/her parent. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/12/2005 10:39:08 AM | | I would take care of him if he was here, but my ex took off with my son. Before that we have a joint custody agreement (and yes, I am taking her to court over this) and I never missed any of my days with him. I went maybe only 2 days a week without seeing him but I would call him on those days. Me and my son have done everything together since birth and I love him with all my heart and would do anything I could for him. But all she cares about is herself and I haven't seen or spoken to him in 5 months but hopefully that will change in November when it goes to court. And she knows I would never do this to her, well not so much her but how could I ever deny my child his mommy when I know he loves her...its just not right to hurt a child like that! | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:54:02 PM | | Both of my children have been with me for the last six years. When they spend time with their mother, it's because I take them to her and pick them up. She lives only 40 minutes drive away, but usually makes no effort to come to them. She tries to call and talk to them almost every day, but they often see her on the caller id and don't answer. Of all the sporting events that they have participated in over the years, we can count the ones that she has attended on the fingers of both hands. My son told me once that he knew when he was on the field playing, he could always look up and see me in the stands cheering him on, and that meant everything to him. They both have friends with whom they spend the night occassionially, and when they are gone, it gets terribly quiet around the house, but I feel blessed that they have such good friends and feel that it will be easier on them (and hopefully me) when they leave for college. We often don't have much in material things, but I believe that none of us would trade our situation for anything. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/12/2005 2:33:21 PM | Turtle, sounds like you're a great daddy (along with the other posters in this thread)
My son's 13 and my ex and I have had joint custody since he was 2. Man, those first few years were tough...I missed him like crazy when he was gone, worried about him missing me, the house was too quiet. Sometimes calling him would help a bit, or asking his dad if I could swing by and take him for ice cream.
I don't really know what else to tell you, except that it gradually gets easier over time. I tried to keep myself busy on days that I didn't have him. Getting out of the house to catch a movie or visit a friend...whatever you feel like doing.
Good luck!
-sparkle | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/12/2005 3:41:11 PM | Yes we are a great bunch of men. I have been taking care of my son for eight years. He is twelve. His mother sees him when the mood strikes her. Out of the eight years she has had him maybe two weeks. I'm glad I took him away from her.
When my son sleeps at his friends house and I can go out I stay home and clean. What kind of nut am I. It's great taking care of him seeing him grow day to day. He finally got tired of calling his mom only to hear her say call me back later. What a B | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/12/2005 5:52:56 PM | | I've had custody of my daughter since she was 3. I've actually been both Mom and Dad long before the divorce. Even though my daughter recently moved out at the ripe age of 18, these past 15 years have been the best years of my life. I would not trade it for anything. | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/12/2005 6:48:37 PM | We always hear about the "deadbeat dad" but no one ever talks about the "deadbeat mom".
I have to give you guys props for doing the right thing. I am one of the lucky ones-my daughter is 11 and she has a great dad.
It is a shame that the baby momma's you guys are dealing with don't realize that they have missed out on a wonderful thing----their children! | |
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| How many single dads actually take care of there kids..
Posted: 10/12/2005 7:32:59 PM | well i have two daughters there mom left them when one was 2 months old the other 2 years.i have had them ever sence no help from no one there 15 and 13 now.they help with all the house work i have taught them to cook clean etc.we have lots of fun rideing our harley and camping all the normal stuff.i have tryed dateing but everone i have met is jealous of your kids oh well lol.i have bought them a house there in church straight a students so guess i done something right/thanks mom/ who rased me alone taught me everthing.and it is not hard as ever one makes it out to be if you just do it dont put off what needs done today,but it will make you sad for them when they say wish i had a mom to fix my hair are take me shoping i do that but you no how it is moms rule if they had one.like she never seen them but a few times my baby was in the hospital i called her she never came but called.my daughter said recon she would come see me in the funeral home dad.i called her back told her that so she showed up for a few mins.see it has its heart breaking sad moments.but all a man can do is give them his heart and love teach them well talk to them listen to what they say correct them when there wrong take no sas most of all love them like theres no tommorow.teach them to hunt and fish how to skin a deer set up a tent build a fire lol lol | |
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