| At what point do you say there won't be a second date?
Posted: 10/11/2005 4:42:00 PM | You are out on a date and things are going okay, having a good time, but you know the chemistry for more is not there.
When do you let your date know you don't intend to call on them again? At the end of the evening, or a later time?
This is assuming the date wasn't fodder for the "date from hell" threads. | |
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Joy.
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Joined: 6/26/2005
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| At what point do you say there won't be a second date?
Posted: 10/11/2005 5:02:31 PM | | If the chemistry isn't there, I'm pretty upfront about it. We can enjoy the rest of the evening and even possibly hang out again as friends, but that's it. I actually have made some very good friends that started out as less than exciting first dates. | |
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| At what point do you say there won't be a second date?
Posted: 10/11/2005 5:15:05 PM | my experiences with dates without chemistry.....usually they feel it too....& we end the date politely (actually don't say anything about a second date) &.....just never call each other again. one date I was on...it was so apparent that there wasn't going to be a second one (on my end anyways) from the first drink. The guy had no class. wasn't very educated. kept saying Brudder instead of Brother. I thought he was joking at first. anyways...I think I was cold enough that....he knew there was no chemistry. never heard from him again &.....that was fine by me.  | |
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| At what point do you say there won't be a second date?
Posted: 10/11/2005 5:15:46 PM | It is different for a man than awoman. Men should at least offer to return the lady back to where he picked her up. After that, make no promises for a second date. Women should let the man know she wishes leave. hopefully he will be that gentleman and just take her home. a man will know if she is not interested but she can still say "at the curb" thanks but no thanks in a gentle way.
TSOMattlock | |
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| At what point do you say there won't be a second date?
Posted: 10/11/2005 5:25:52 PM | All excellent responses. It just seemed to be a topic that has never been broached here directly and I thought it deserved attention.
I think that Joy's approach fits my style, and I should have thought of it. | |
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| At what point do you say there won't be a second date?
Posted: 10/11/2005 5:39:03 PM | I meet people on the intention of being friends. I can usually tell whether or not we have anything in common by the first "meeting". It seems that it usually goes unsaid if a friendship will continue after the end of the evening. I think the goodbye tells you alot about whether anything will progress. I have met people that I continue speaking and hang out with on here and have met somepeople that I didnt talk to again.
I am all about being honest but sometimes I dont know whether or not it will become a friendship or not and how the other person feels so to leave it as a "nice meeting you" I think is an appropriate answer either way. It all depends on your intentions if you only want to meet people to become romantically involved with then I think at the end of the evening one should say that it was nice meeting them but it's not going to work, so that neither party is mislead.
that's my 2 cents
Andrea | |
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| At what point do you say there won't be a second date?
Posted: 10/11/2005 6:09:21 PM | | If the chemistry isn`t there for me, and I know upon meeting, I will still enjoy the date and say during our conversation that I`d really like to be friends...I don`t come right out and say `I`m not attracted to you`...But always leave the door open to friendship without leading them down the garden path...I have also hooked up some girlfirends with guys I have met and didn`t click with...and they did...Networking is always valuable...Leave no stone unturned...LOL... | |
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