| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:26:38 PM | Being brought up my mother and father divorced, and I stayed with my father alot. My dad would always say to me growing up "son when you grow up I want you to marry an ugly woman" I use to laugh at this comment made by my father. I mean who wants to marry an ugly woman? But, now that I'm older, I see my father's point of view. My ex fiancee was drop dead gorgeous, infact she was miss teen for New Mexico back in 1997. What bothered me the most about her looks was the other men. Even though she wore my engagement ring other men would always hit on her, and she would come home and tell me what happend that day, it drove me nutts, I actually had to ask her please stop telling me this everyday. There was always something like competition going on within me, like if I was good enough to keep this woman because so many men wanted her. It's hard to be with a beautiful woman. What do the guys think about this? Should men marry ugly women? At least we know they will stay true.. Sorry if this thread sounds shallow, but it actually came up again today with my father and I on the phone hehe
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:29:46 PM |
At least we know they will stay true
just how to you "know" that? | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:30:16 PM | If You Wanna Be Happy
Jimmy Soul
If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he married her and then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart
But if you make an ugly woman your wife
A-you'll be happy for the rest of your life
An ug-a-ly woman cooks meals on time
And she'll always give you peace of mind
Don't let your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly, her eyes don't match
Take it from me, she's a better catch
Say man!
Hey baby!
I saw your wife the other day!
Yeah?
Yeah, an' she's ug-leeee!
Yeah, she's ugly, but she sure can cook, baby!
Yeah, alright!
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:32:23 PM | Even though she wore my engagement ring other men would always hit on her, and she would come home and tell me what happend that day, it drove me nutts, I actually had to ask her please stop telling me this everyday.
You are better off without someone who needs to prattle on about how wonderful everyone else finds them. Can you say... stuck on her self? | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:33:17 PM | Once again there is that word "experience" I have 14 uncles and they all have ugly wives, sorry to say. But, they have never cheated on them. I have friends who I thought were to good to be with a woman they were with but, they are very happy. Yes it's just an opinion of mine, but it's through my "experience" that made me say that comment. Sorry if that bothers anyone, no bad intentions intended..
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:33:50 PM | Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...so even the women you may consider to be 'ugly' will have their admirers...
It is up to the woman to tell the guys to back off...and she was definitely telling you about it to get a rise out of you! Good looking people sometimes have low self esteem especially if they don't beleive they have much else aside from their looks going for them! So...they have to boost the self esteem at the expense of others....
Marry the person you love...that simple...
Linda  | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:34:55 PM |
But, they have never cheated on the them
again, how do you know that? | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:38:21 PM | thank you princess for you comments, Love should be the issue at hand and not the looks alone. But, attraction is important part in a relationship do you agree?
-Atone | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:40:09 PM |
again, how do you know that?
Well if they did, they were never caught and they are all happy.. Comment still stands | |
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Joined: 7/28/2005
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:40:13 PM | The only time I know of for certain that I was cheated on was when I was dateing a guy I thought was not all that attractive. That "ugly guy" thing must have worked for him, because he got around!
I think sometimes not so sociatally attractive people are more beautiful on the inside because they can't just rely on looks to get attention, they work on being genuine and showing their inner beauty. I also think many so called beautiful people are not so beautiful on the inside, like this fiance who seemed to be playing her looks to get you to feel insecure. I know many beautiful women who have had looks be a real detriment to their lives. Men want them for their looks, but feel insecure and treat them poorly. And no matter how good looking you are, it only takes on comment of "Your legs are too short" or "Your nose is too big" given by the wrong person at the wrong time to make them insecure and screwed up. My advice to anyone is be with someone who you are attracted to, on all levels. Often someone who you think is unatractive can suddenly become gorgious when you see the light that shines from within. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:41:12 PM | Wait...woah! I have a question...ellie and not...you are both saying that if a girl tells her guy that someone was chatting her up..that means she's insecure? I'm not even the slightest bit insecure..and if I am chatting with my "friend" and he asks how my night went and there's a funny story about a man I'll tell him. I have never given any man the impression he had a chance with me...but there are times when the stories are too damn funny not to tell. I don't tell him about every guy that hits on me or he'd be upset...but I'll tell him the funny ones. That doesn't mean she is insecure or stuck on herself.
Then again I think there are different ways to go about it. If you are bragging and throwing it in your spouses face...then yes...that is insecurity...but if they ask you how your night was and you tell them a funny story...I think it's fine. But maybe I'm wrong? Hmmm? | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:44:49 PM | | Basing fidelity on looks is utter crap. I have never in my life cheated on a boyfriend. Hell I can't even juggle when I'm dating someone. Just because someone's goodlooking, doesn't mean they automatically have character flaws. Christ Almighty! | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:48:04 PM | Let's recap shall we? So far:
Insecure guy (OP) decides he only wants ugly women (so he won't feel insecure).
That means that secure, self-confident guys get the beautiful women.
Sound familiar? | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:51:02 PM | Perhaps not just 'get' them but they can at least handle them.  | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:52:56 PM | no no my woman never cheated on me, I'm not saying a beautiful will cheat on you, I'm saying for a man it's hard because of the other men who want's her also. This is what drove my parents to a divorce, and I've seen many marriages end because of this. She did throw her looks around.
Example:
When my ex would get pulled over by a cop she would undo alittle of her shirt to expose cleavage, she had beautiful breast, the best I've ever seen. And, in the seven years we were together, she never ONCE got a ticket. And she's been pulled over many times, she has a heavy foot hehe. Also we went out to buy tires, I was across the street ordering food. And the man at the tire store gave her 50% off, then when I walked in the tire store, he was trying to raise the price back up. She spoke to a Supervisor and got her way AGAIN. There are many other things I could say, but these stand out at the moment.
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:53:21 PM | yup ^ jenz ....
I keep saying the ladies love confidence as an attribute ... the op's drop dead fiancee seems to have had self - confidence issues i think .... prolly just needed to boost her ego and i doubt it was really like that anyway ... she moreover just said these things to him for other reasons.... op just devolpe your confidence and you can be happy with a beautifull woman ... and be happy knowing shes gonna be faithfull ... it's all in the attitude brother ....works for me anyways | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:55:54 PM | jenzagirl
If that's your impression have had it sweetie, I'm the least insecure person I know. But then again your not that beautiful, cute yes, so the comment does not really follow you well.. | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 10/12/2005 12:56:50 PM | A self confident, secure man would not mind that other men found his wife/girlfriend attractive. In fact, some (I suspect) would be rather pleased.
The savings on speeding tickets and tires is just a bonus!!! | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 12:57:51 PM | Hi Smile!
Nope...I didn't mean to imply a woman is trying to make him jealous or get a reaction if she tells him about a guy hitting on her ONCE in a while...but Atone made it sound as though it was almost a daily thing. If someone was coming home to me daily to rub it in my face that so many women found my guy attractive and wanted him it would annoy me...and trust me, I am anything but insecure.
Hope I cleared it up!
Linda
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Posted: 10/12/2005 1:02:38 PM |
but Atone made it sound as though it was almost a daily thing. If someone was coming home to me daily to rub it in my face that so many women found my guy attractive and wanted him it would annoy me...and trust me, I am anything but insecure.
Yes it was daily, even two or three times a day. I mean enough is enough you know you have the looks, why come home to your man, and tell him everytime a man hits on you.. What's the point?? Wanna start an argument or something.. This is how I felt, not that I was insecure with myself, insecure in the relationship, maybe that is something that "some" of you know nothing about yet.
Thank you nottaprincess for clearing that up, your comments are most welcomed.
-Atone | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 1:03:30 PM | Sounds like it's just a matter of avoiding extremes. Avoid extremely shallow and insecure people who thrive on attention from the opposite sex, as the OP said. Also, don't force yourself to be with someone you don't find attractive just because you hope others won't find that person attractive, either. That's just messed up!
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 10/12/2005 1:06:08 PM | Thanks Linda...that does clear it up...I was starting to rethink my humor hehe. Thank you for the response.
OP...I'd really rethink your strategy...it's a song...not a lifestyle. :) | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 1:07:49 PM | | hehe smile. I think it's a number hit somewhere hehe | |
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| Marry an ugly woman
Posted: 10/12/2005 1:07:58 PM |
Wait...woah! I have a question...ellie and not...you are both saying that if a girl tells her guy that someone was chatting her up..that means she's insecure?
I didn't say anything about anyone being insecure. I don't think it's necessary to feel the need to daily tell someone how much attention you get from the opposite sex. Unless you have some agenda behind it? | |
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