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Posted: 10/12/2005 3:41:31 PM | I am recently divorced. Was married for a total of 7 years and the last 3 have been without sex. We never really had a ton...but inclined to think it was because I am not too good at it.
I am now looking to start over...and find myself thinking about sex alot. I am 37 years old...lost my virginty at 26 and used to be happy that I was a nice guy. Now all I seem to be is a nice guy who is divorced and can't get laid. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 3:45:04 PM | | Maybe your trying too hard. Seems to me that the opportunity usually arises when we dont expect it. Women especially pick up on it when men just want sex. Find a date first and explore each others common grounds. If she feels comfortable with you then im sure the bedroom will follow. Until then its soap and shower time lol. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 3:47:10 PM | Don't know what the problem is. It's not your looks; that's for sure!  | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 3:47:48 PM | | Dating...Ugh...Thats why I got married...so I didnt have to get turned down again | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 3:48:05 PM | | Well keep your head up nsrchofyou, something will happen, it seems you have alot of catchin up to do guy, | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 3:50:46 PM | | Well, I personally dont like the meat market bar scene but what kind of woman do you want to meet that you think will just want sex? What exactly are you looking for in a prospective mate? | |
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| What am I doing wrong
Posted: 10/12/2005 4:37:15 PM |
Thats why I got married...so I didnt have to get turned down again
Gee, I'll bet that made your ex wife feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Nice guy huh? Good boy? Not if that quote was sincere you're not.
Anyway, in the sack, it's the beholder you gotta worry about...not this forum or the people's opinions, unless of course they have "test driven" ya and can give you a few pointers. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 4:42:23 PM | Ok...that didn't come out right...
I got married at 30...both of us admitted it was a marriage of convenience at the time. We cared for each other deeply. but over the years we went in different directions.
What I meant when I said I wouldn't get turned down again...was when I dated..., if you can call it that...I was always the "nice guy" or Friend....never grew from that...and only guys can understand that being a friend to a female is worse than death. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 4:44:11 PM | Well, I have no idea if you're a good guy, nice guy or whatever....but it's clear that you have alot of pent up sexual energy which will probably cloud your judgement and prevent you from behaving in a casual, non-threatening way to women. Women will pick up on this and the majority will shy away. Without trying to sound too crude, why don't you go relieve your tension with a 'professional' and then try approaching women in a relaxed manner. If you are the 'nice' guy you claim to be then your luck may change. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 4:46:32 PM | | God...I could never pay for sex....defeats the purpopse of intimacy I would think | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 4:48:57 PM | Now you're talking about intimacy.....wasn't it you who said you can't stop thinking about sex???? | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 4:57:23 PM | Don't worry NSR...these guys will have you corrupted in no time...stick around a while...much to learn about how to act like a totally depraved sex jerk here LOL!
Read the forums, you'll see what I mean in time. Good luck in the pond, make sure you wear your rubber boots though...some are stinky! | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 5:03:05 PM | Blast, he doesn't need to learn. I think his problem here is that he is acting like a 'depraved sex jerk' and this is perhaps making him strike out. I am sure you will agree that a woman has an invisible radar that very easily detects this symptom from the outset. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 5:03:38 PM | I refuse to be corrupted!!!
However...I can't refuse to be "Erect"ed | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 5:13:04 PM |
I think his problem here is that he is acting like a 'depraved sex jerk' and this is perhaps making him strike out.
This isi not the case... I don't interract with women any differently than before I got married. I still am every one's best friend...But that is not what I want. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 5:53:59 PM | | ugh! You're starting to sound like the "nice guy" Women aren't so stupid as to think every sexual experience is going to be something extremely special and intimate. I hate those sicky whiny guys at my bar who assure me that they really think I'm special and aren't just after me for sex. That's retarded. Find a happy medium and you'll do much better I think. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 6:02:58 PM | well ur definately a goodlooking man.just relax and be yourself..and always try to have a sense of humor..that helps...happy  | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 6:08:04 PM |
What I meant when I said I wouldn't get turned down again...was when I dated..., if you can call it that...I was always the "nice guy" or Friend....never grew from that...and only guys can understand that being a friend to a female is worse than death.
Just my .02, based on what I have read so far;
-You are lacking self confidence, figure out what it is exactly that is making you lack confidence in your-self and change it. Most women are attracted to a confident but not over-bearing man.
-Loose the "Im The Nice Guy" persona. From my experience being the bad but nice guy is the key. Nice guys are like the "big brother I never had", and in general are there "as a friend" and not really taken seriously. Why? lots of reasons, but I think the main one is they simply do not stimulate a woman on all levels. Bad guys know what a woman wants and they arent afraid to show and do it. You can still treat a woman with respect and be the bad boy.
Be your-self, boost your self-confidence, and quit being the nice guy. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 6:10:36 PM | Now I am really confused...
I thought women wanted nice guys and guys who were themselves...Now I have to somehow become a bad guy...but in order to be a bad guy I have to know what women want...and since I don't know what women want...I can't be a bad guy....Man I need a few  | |
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Posted: 10/12/2005 6:17:23 PM |
Bad guys know what a woman wants and they arent afraid to show and do it. You can still treat a woman with respect and be the bad boy.
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