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Posted: 12/7/2004 9:34:18 AM | | Hello, I would be interested to know if there are any poly folk here. Interested in hearing about your dating experiences. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2004 9:53:26 AM | | Not personally...but wouldn';t mind having co-husbands and wives....life takes a lot of bill-paying, and kids would probably never have to worry about losing their parents. I'm all for it myself! The plural of "spouse" is "spice"...keeps the relationship going, and the family too! | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 10:05:53 PM | wow would like mothers day and fathers day be really confusing...who would do the parent teacher conference or would it be like a pep rally? 
Sounds like an interesting concept, but daggone somebody would always be left out 
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yna6
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Joined: 5/2/2004
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Posted: 12/11/2004 10:30:50 PM | | But then again...someone would almost always show up for the kids concerts etc....good concept! | |
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Posted: 12/14/2004 7:48:45 PM | | i'm all for it, providing that all participants are consenting adults entering the relationship (and not some screwy cult bringing in children to be wives) | |
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Posted: 12/16/2004 2:37:45 PM | | Lionness, what exactly do you mean by poly? Are you talking about marriage or just dating more than one person? (Sorry if I sound so naive). | |
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Posted: 12/16/2004 2:57:32 PM | | Yeah I was going to ask the same question, what is that? LOL | |
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Posted: 12/16/2004 3:37:30 PM | Oh good, I'm not the only one who doesn't know. Thanks Saturn!
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Joined: 12/17/2004
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Posted: 12/17/2004 2:02:15 PM | | could someone please explain what that means? i have never heard of it before. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2004 5:12:55 PM | polygamy: when you are married to more than one person
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Posted: 12/17/2004 8:45:31 PM | | No, I think it just means multiple partners, as in "swinging".... I had quite an obsession with that when I was married - I wanted to try it and my hubby didn't... Now, of course, I am divorced and don't care about it any more... Hmmm.. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2004 5:12:40 PM | Usually, poly reffers to the swapping, swinging crowd. Very few take it to multiple marriages.
Before I did my long term thing, I used to be pretty active in that crowd. It can be very rewarding but also EXTREEMLY challenging to bring another person into a relationship. Its a bad thing to do if both are not VERY comfortable with where they are with one another. Even the most confident are going to have pangs of doubt, jealousy etc the first times.
I did the fantasy thing a few times. For the guy, it is a LOT of work, and frankly you are better off he puts his enjoyment drive on the back burner. For the gals, i think they have the better end of the deal. It just works better to have extra hands, lip roaming about.
There are a lot of web communities out there for this. Sometimes its a little difficult to meet the people into this, but nearly every city has a few circles.
I personally would say avoid the pure orgies. Too many risks. Find a partner with this goal in common, and then work as a team to bring others in the bedroom. Hunting together can be really really fun.
Be safe and good luck. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2004 5:44:21 PM | | IMHO, I think that would be the quickest way to end a relationship esp if they are married. There was a program on TV not too long ago about 'swinging' where they had a few married couples and their experiences. It was rather interesting I must say, but not my cup of tea. | |
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Joined: 12/31/2004
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Posted: 1/2/2005 4:03:44 PM | If you're asking about polyamory, not polygamy or swinging, you can read about it on google.
www.polyamory.org has some good info, too
I would love to find more than one person to love me but so far finding one is proving to be impossible. I tend to focus on one person anyway so I don't think I would be good in a polyamorous relationship. Then again, I don't get jealous, either, so maybe it would work.
What happens when you break up, is what I wonder. I think it would be harder to blame the other person if it was more than one.
I had some friends way back who lived that way. They all just loved one another. It was nice. I was in a typical couple type relationship at the time or I might have joined them. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2005 8:14:19 AM | | I have enough trouble with one lady in my life, why would I want two? Do you have any Idea how much toilet paper you would go thru? Sams sells it by the truck load, don't they? We're talking destruction of the rain forest folks... not to mention the double "does my a** look fat in these jeans" questions... and the "whats wrong honey" statement... ok, my mind is spinning, whooo, I need to lay down... | |
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Posted: 1/23/2005 11:56:10 AM | | People who love each other are freaks, while your example of normalcy is to suggest they burn themselves alive? It boggles the mind. The humor sails right over my head. I have seen a group of people having sex. I have also seen a live human burn to death. I may not agree with other people's approach to family and love, but it somehow doesn't offend me to the point of suggesting they suffer and die for it. I tried seeing how this was funny, and failed. Were you serious, or did I just miss the joke? | |
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Posted: 1/23/2005 1:33:38 PM | I don't have a Parrot any more.
Damn thing kept begging for Crackers. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2005 12:53:06 PM | Now this ‘thread’ could not have come at a better time. I answered a request from a gentlemen from another country on an International site I have, he looked great, sounded great, was active, out going, intelligent…..etc.
We exchanged e-mails for several weeks, then he ask me to come for a visit, he had a second house on his property and I could have it for as long as I wanted to stay (I couldn’t go because of a death in my family) and when I told him that he said he understood and we continued to email. After a while he asked me is I would enjoy chatting with his next door neighbored, a lady who, like me enjoyed cooking.
I said sure and this lady and I emailed for a few day’s, she asked me when I was coming over, that she really like me and felt we had a lot in common.
Well….to try to keep this from becoming a book…..I soon found out they were a two-some and were looking to add a third person. Really…! I didn’t say much about this when I found out from her why the gentlemen wanted me to come over (she thought I knew) and she explained how this man thought it would be a better lifestyle for the 3 of us. (I don’t think I can say what was explained to me here on this post) but it had to do with sex, love, relationships and a 3-some in everything.
Not my thing, and after a while I bowed out gracefully, but it was the weirdest offer I have ever had.
Sherlock
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Posted: 1/29/2005 4:53:22 PM | | Oh, I can make you a weirder offer than that. Let's chat sometime... | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 5:33:19 AM |
No, I think it just means multiple partners, as in "swinging".... I had quite an obsession with that when I was married - I wanted to try it and my hubby didn't... Now, of course, I am divorced and don't care about it any more... Hmmm..
Poly is NOT swinging. I assume the original poster meant polyamorus, which basically means have more than one love. Swinging is mostly about the sex and deeper, romantic bonds are generally not created between the participants. Living a poly lifestyle generally means you are involved in a serious relationship with more than one person. | |
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