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 Ms Ali
Joined: 4/2/2005
Msg: 1
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I am just wondering if people have any open minded views about polyamory? If you are in favour on this notion, I would be very interested to hear more about your ideas on this subject.

Alison
 mike1003
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 2
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:16:57 AM
first you will have to explain what polyamony is lol then I will be able to give you a opion of it
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 3
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:18:37 AM
A polyamorous relationship is a romantic relationship that involves more than two people.

Not for it sorry. Wish I could help...but I want it to be only me and J. :) I'd get way too effing jealous.

I have a friend who's wife kept trying to talk him into a 3some....mind you I always got the impression that she liked me more than a friend. Anyway...he decides to go ahead with it..and he told me this "You have no idea what it is like to hear your wife scream/moan louder for someone else than they ever did for you." She later divorced him...took half and is now an out and proud lesbian.
 maa_97
Joined: 7/25/2005
Msg: 4
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:22:31 AM
I can't do that... umm I don't share well with others..lol Well I don't share my man well with anyone..unless it's a just a friend thing
 longte
Joined: 10/18/2004
Msg: 5
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:23:56 AM
This type of relationship can work

But it usually takes place in only one real circumstance
One part of a relationship pressures the other into it
If this happens the relationship will often fail

It can only work if both parties really want this
That is very seldom the case
..
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 Ms Ali
Joined: 4/2/2005
Msg: 6
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:25:08 AM
I am not referring to threesomes. Just the act of loving a person but allowing each other to love other people as well.

Alison
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 7
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:28:15 AM
Oh ok....well um..NOPE! Sorry...but I would rather he love just me. Selfish I guess. I want that feeling of knowing that he's thinking of me as much as I am of him! And with other folks in the mix..that's not a given. But hey to each their own. I think you would be a better woman than I if you could do that. I'm selfish
 longte
Joined: 10/18/2004
Msg: 8
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:32:01 AM
If the relationship was a Loving relationship the Question would never arise

This is exactly what I wrote in my last post

It is usually One person who pushes for this
In a loving relationship they would not want this
..
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 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 9
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:34:59 AM
What about satisfying kinks/fetishes your partner doesn't share?
 Ms Ali
Joined: 4/2/2005
Msg: 10
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:37:01 AM
When both people are in a loving relationship, both believe in polyamory, is this not love?
 longte
Joined: 10/18/2004
Msg: 11
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:46:12 AM
Yes in that case it is fine
That is the only time it can work

Whether or not is it Love is not for me to say
but it sounds like both parties want this
So it may be sucessful
..
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 hot4teacher
Joined: 6/15/2005
Msg: 12
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:52:09 AM
ERRR NO! NO THANKS. I get wayyyyyyyyyy too jealous.
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 13
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:07:27 AM
I totally believe it is possible to love several people at one time.

But the question remains, is love stronger than jealousy?
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 14
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:08:54 AM
Damn you and your yoda logic! ^^^ too early to think about all that. Yikes!!! I'll take the no answer on that. Wow that hurt my head...thanks OTB!
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 15
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:10:32 AM
Use the Force, Miss smile with eyes. And repel the forces of darkness and evil. Seek the genuine love and don't let emotions cloud your vision
 busty23
Joined: 11/16/2004
Msg: 16
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:12:03 AM
oh no defiantly not...i dont share my toys lol so y should i share my man x
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 17
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:13:45 AM
so nice to know we are on the level of a toy
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 18
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:15:06 AM
OK OTB...you know how guys always look at dogs when they are licking themselves and say "If I could do that I wouldn't need a woman." Well if toys could spoon and tell us we are pretty we wouldn't need men haha :)
 Ms Ali
Joined: 4/2/2005
Msg: 19
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:17:24 AM
If both people want each other to be truly happy, meaning polyamory, whether there is love or not, should this not be the perfect scenario?
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 20
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:17:44 AM
yes, but do you LOVE your toys?

Polyamory isnt about multiple sex partners, it is about multiple LOVE relationships
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 21
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:22:32 AM
Yes I do love my toy but in a totally different way...I love it like I love my favorite pumps...but I love guys way differently. And usually longer hehe ;)

As far as op's above post..I'm sorry...but I have had true/pure love and I couldn't for a second think of anyone else being involved in that mix. Again..it's a choice for different folks...I just am way to posessive for that stuff. But hey at least I'm being honest. :)

If it works for you and your partner(s) then that is great! I wouldn't say you shouldn't cuz it's not my life.
 good2bebad
Joined: 9/28/2005
Msg: 22
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:24:08 AM
I don't care. Fine with me. Up to the people in the relationship to make up the rules. We are all in one actually, people just don't think in terms of "rounds", which is what we do. Take turns with one another.

Oh, this works well if you are a pornstar like me! /wha-wha peddle as I leave the room
 Ms Ali
Joined: 4/2/2005
Msg: 23
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:24:21 AM
Polyamory to me, means being in more than one relationship and loving more than one person. Why should we stop loving people just because you love one person. Are we not designed to love? It's God's given gift to love. Why should we try not love and be loved as much as possible? Love makes the world go around... Make love not war... etc.
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 24
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:26:17 AM
well, if you are going to bring god into the picture, I think it was his intention that we love only one. but I am not going there
 Ms Ali
Joined: 4/2/2005
Msg: 25
Polyamory
Posted: 10/16/2005 7:44:55 AM
The bible is open for interpretation, so yes, I don't think we will go there. That needs a different thread.
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