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Posted: 10/17/2005 1:52:45 PM | Listen to this, you won't believe it. I started talking to a girl here on Sat. At the time, i was in Canada, getting away for some R&R. I was planning on coming back to OC and we had talked about meeting that night. We set a time for 9:30pm. I was a little late leaving Canada and needed to stop off in Denver to drop something off but if I was to make out date on time, I had to skip Denver. It wasn't much of an issue, to skip Denver, just an inconvenience. I arrived back to OC at 8:00pm, was at our meeting place (Barny's or something like that) at 9:30pm like we had discussed.
To mu astonishment, she was a no-show. It kind of floored me because we had gotten along so well during our conversation earlier that day. I assumed that something important must've come up so I hung out for a bit and then drove back home.
The next day, she sends me an IM saying that I'm as jerk, a$$ and a fake. She totally went off on me for not showing up and then admitted that she didn't show up herself. When she took a breather from berating me over IM, I asked her if she was finished. She then continued on... After a while, I got tired of it and told her that I was there, she had admitted to not being there and that I was through with the conversation. She then closed the window and I haven't heard from her since. I think she's a fruit loop and glad that we ended up not meeting.
Has anyone else had an experience like this? All I wanted was to meet her and have a couple drinks. She turned out to be a nut. Thank god I was spared the hassle of meeting her.
Regards,
C. Chance McBride | |
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Posted: 10/17/2005 2:03:29 PM | | There are some "interesting" people on the internet that's for sure. I've never been stood up but just shake it off and find another lady to get interested in. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2005 2:04:51 PM | Hmmm It sounds Typical on the "Net" now days and so much on Phone tag and such.. in the age of communications its hard to connect go figure.. LOL anyways hers the story...
I was in Chicago this summer and well got connected with a person from here..
Well after about 3 weeks of good convo's and pictutre swaps and VDO cam we decided to meet for coffee.. well
she calls up saying she is running late and she will be 30 mins late no biggie..
after the 30 min no show no call I waited few more mins nothing so I went window shopping not to make a waste of an afternoon then when i get back to my hotel
her "HUSBAND" called and wanted to know who I was Etc and what have you..
I thought at first wow she should have told me she was married ETC... but then again i wondered did she plan this with someone to make it seem like she was to get out of the meeting or what have you.. i dont know to this day and dont care...
2 days later she calls me up like nothing happend and wanted to go out to a Night Club..
Some ppl has some nerve.. LOL
Like the site says Plenty of Fish.. and I keep Fishing... LOL | |
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Posted: 10/17/2005 2:07:57 PM | Chance:
I would say thank your lucky stars and the guardian angel that had to be riding on your shoulder that night. To think that a woman would be so beligerant to someone that was willing to bypass their own plans to make the date on time when they themselves hadn't even given their time to show. I hate to think that there are people out there just looking to play with someone's emotions - although I am realizing more everyday that there are "players" out there. I for one take my own emotions seriously, therefore, I wouldn't take those of another individual any less seriously. I'm just hoping that there are more people like myself out there that are willing to look for their "best friend" to fall in love and grow old with.
Best wishes to you in your continued search.
Bonita | |
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Posted: 10/17/2005 2:08:54 PM | | I met a girl that first lied about her size/pics. She wanted to make me dinner as a first date and when I got there, bam, she was huge. I don't mind some extra pounds but damn, she was supersized. Not only that... here she is, greeting me at the door in sweats. I decided to be the gentleman and hang out anyhow... she was very nice on the phone and maybe she was a great cook. No sooner than I walked thru her door, the smell of cat piss literally assualted me. In 2 minutes my eyes were burning from the stench of ammonia. It smelled like all the litter boxes in the world were in her house. The house looked clean but did it ever stink. I told her I was allergic to cats and beat it the hell outta there. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 4:40:45 PM | | I would say be thankful she didn't show up. Her behaviour just sounds a little crazy to me! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 5:00:50 PM | That is one wild story. It does sound like it was a blessing that she never showed up. I'm not sure anyone has really figured out this dating thing. Perhaps because we are all unique individuals, what works with one person may not work for the next. Just don't give up, the next one could be great, or another dud. Sometimes it all seems like a waste of time but if you can take it with a good sense of humour (which it looks like you have) then you will survive!
For myself, I have now met a few really nice men who have become my friends. I'm looking forward to meeting more as well. Who knows, perhaps one of them will be just the one I'm looking for.
By the way, where were you visiting in Canada? (I'm Canadian  ) | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 5:03:40 PM | She was an african. she mailed me and we chated a bit. Two days later I picked her up at her place. We had a nice sedctive dinner at a resturant for about two hours. Than we went to my place and she was in a second undressed .... the rest is privat!!! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 7:05:34 PM | | Wow, she's a real whack job sounds like. I'm really sorry, sounds like you put forth a good effort. That was such bad form on her part and it really is scary that too many no shows seem to be the tale around here. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 9:48:22 PM | Inmyprime...sorry to read of your bad experience...don't let it get you down though...there are some truly most awesome, inspiring individuals here that with time, you will find are soo fruit loop but in such a great way!! (she types with glass half full)...
However, I've had my experiences here and, no, I'm not currently dating anyone however have made the most wonderful friends that a person could ask for....then again, there's always that maybe lurking in the wind....if ya listen close enough you just might hear it too!!
Good luck to you!!  | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 9:58:07 PM | Everything happens for a reason, this time reason being that she did not deserve you after altering your plans and all. You were lucky not to end up with that nut job in your life!!!  | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 10:03:54 PM | | Sounds like a messed up gal thats for sure. Dont let it stop you chance, plenty of fish in the sea. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2005 10:50:08 PM | Has anyone else had an experience like this? All I wanted was to meet her and have a couple drinks. She turned out to be a nut. Thank god I was spared the hassle of meeting her.
.I will say this over and over......it is a firm belief to Me that what We put out..!!!!
We attract in likeness,I live By this......It can Be as simple as one word,a laugh..a smile..a hello..that simple....I have Had a few Dates From POF..and so far so good all wondeful..all still Good friends..good luck..... | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 5:36:56 AM | I agree that what we put we attract.....sometimes but not always.
Definately not always lol
You can attract a wide range of individuals for varying reasons - especially if you don't know each other. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 6:24:28 AM | I never berate people for standing me up.. I actually won't even contact a person again if they stand me up.. why? honestly getting an explaination of there actions isn't going to change jack.. so why bother..
Now if they call me and say they were in some horrible accident or had a heart attack or something to that effect then maybe i'd forgive em.. who knows.. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 2:04:36 PM | | hey inmyprime , sorry to hear that hun damn she is nuts u r hot lol .. yeh i agree that when u say u'll meet MEET DAMN IT !!!! Its so immature for people to do that ... how r we goin to find our mr or misses right for us ... if we dont take chances and HOOK UP ive had some fantastic times .... ive been stood u too .. good luck in the future ...... get back to me if u want to chat or commment ... | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 5:58:47 PM | I have some experiences to share, unfortunately nothing positive yet.
First person I went out had a lot of nice qualities and it seemed like we would be a good match. Talked a couple o' times, went out to dinner once, hung out at her place and watched one of her movies (she was actress) and then...poof...never heard from her again. Still don't know what happened to her, or what I did to run her off.
Second person I had initiated contact with, I sw her picture and read her profile and was blown away, she was a knockout, had a nice personality, great sense of humor etc. She was the kind of girl I would love to fall hard for. So we met on a Thursday and went walking, we actually dated the next night and went out to dinner and all, things seemed to go pretty well but the next day the phone didn't ring or anything. My calls were unreturned/unanswered so I sent her a nice email saying I really enjoyed our date, I was thinking about her and how much fun I had being around her etc. I get a response the following morning saying she's going back to her ex who she dumped a month ago, they're going to try and work things out etc etc. She then proceeds to tell me how awesome I am and cute and funny and blah blah blah, so I send her a response saying "I must not be all that great if you're going back to your ex etc." so we end up staying friends after that and she assures me I'm all the things she said etc. Well a few days later she wants to go out again, even wants me to pick her up! Just out of the blue, out of nowhere.." let's go do something". So we end up going out and shooting some games of pool and again she has a blast, laughing all over the place, acting like she's interested in me etc. but then the weekend comes and no phone call, no email, no cointact whatsoever....until Monday rolls around and she's like "want to go walking again?" By now I'm starting to think" what happened this weekend?" what's going on? etc. so I tell her I need to get some studying done, not tonight. So then she starts trying to make me feel guilty and she's like "oh well, guess I'll have to find someone else to go walking then"...etc. so that shocked me a bit, and I won't ever be calling her back as I'm not the one who enjoys being someone's crutch.
There was one other girl who i also met, we only got as far as phone calls as every time I tried to bring up meeting in person, she'd make up some excuse or something. We'd talk a long time, have a lot to talk about even, but she ust wasn't willing to take the time in her own words "to build any relationships right now, I don't want to have to work on making new frineds".........yeesh.
So that leaves me 0-3 so far, I guess it's just not my time yet. I tell you though, I stay positive, I'm trying to focus on other things to try amd make things less painful to handle, but it sure would be nice if these girls could have communicated better instead of just playing games etc. I've had a rough time lately not erupting in aggravation and frustration with some of this mess, but I know I deserve better and someday it will all work itself out  | |
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Posted: 10/19/2005 6:51:32 PM | | my first POF date was with a local gal who is a tad larger than I like but we have a good friendship. Occasional beer, and good laughs. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 1:10:54 AM | Don't know if this qualifies, but: My actual first "experience" of meeting someone off of POF (not a date)...actually was cool. Of course I was nervous (as I always am, meeting anyone new), but he's a great guy and still are friends, talk to him a lot. Funny how some people can really just click as friends...and I feel so comforable, almost more so than with some of my friends I have had for years. You just never know!!!  | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 8:56:39 AM | Sorry to hear about your bad experience...the internet lends itself to people behaving badly. It definitely seems as though you put effort into getting back to Cali to meet the woman...but perhaps she thought you seemed too good to be true. People are strange...
I haven't actually arranged to meet anyone from POF, but if I did I would certainly show up, even with a cast on my hand! Perhaps your first mistake was not meeting someone while still in Canada!  JK
Take care...and good luck!
Linda   | |
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Posted: 10/20/2005 9:09:13 AM | Her loss, prime; you're yummy, so I'm sure you won't have to wait long for some "sane" woman to take you up on your offer; I was stood up by the very FIRST guy who contacted me from here; at least you got the courtesy of the berating IM; I was blocked by the next day when I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt; hmmph! Some people
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Posted: 10/20/2005 12:46:10 PM | | I met a guy on a Sunday afternoon, we had a bite to eat and went for a walk. We talked non stop about everything and anything. Later that night he came over and we watched a movie. Afterwards, I was very honest, I didn't have any chemistry with him, but I told him that I thought he was really funny and I wanted to be friends. He said he didn't do the friends thing (direct contradiction to what his profile said), and left. The next morning, I saw that he had closed his account completely.... | |
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