Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 2:40:13 PM | Simple question which have to be answered yet unless you state dollar amount the answers are never good enough half the time.
Do you work ? -- but how much do you make
Do you drive ? - what type of car and is it paid for
Do you live on your own ? rent/own - how much
Where do you shop ? spending habits
How often can you afford to go out - spending cash
I dunno, but I see these questions get asked all the time, and sure I can pass each one, but for some reason I feel like I am talking to a banker more than a female.
To provide for a family I can understand, but to chat or get to know someone, I can't understand why it's a females goal to know what type of cash he has or makes | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 3:11:16 PM | | I don't know what kind of women you date or go out with, but speaking for myself those questions don't come from my mouth or my hands when I'm getting to know someone...money can't buy happiness or love, I am more interested in what's inside of a person, their morals, values etc., all the really important things that can be the foundation for a friendship or something more lasting. When you stated your question here's a hint don't generalize all "women" into one category because what I have seen here just starting is something you obviously missed, not all women are the same....and I didn't take offense to you just thought I'd politely remind you not to generalize | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 6 | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 3:33:01 PM | I only ask:
Do you work?
(then, if he's interested, sometimes I'll ask what he does. But not how much he makes, that's just rude)
Do you have a car?
(Don't care what kind. Usually guys like to talk about their cars so it's a conversation starter. Plus it lets me know whether or not I'm driving.)
And usually I'll ask about pets to see if they're an animal lover. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 3:38:46 PM | shappy,
i agree women tend to ask those questions. i also think that men tend to ask more sexual and beauty type questions. i know this is a bit of an oversimplification but women want money and men want sex. isn't this obvious ??? and yet we ask why. if you couldnt figure it out both of those things have to do with survival. that is why. if you dont agree then you can go kill yourself.*
*dont actually do that, it was said only to prove the point about the importance of things.
the question now is.. should we get offended when we know the others motives? i'm not sure. if women didn't want money and men didn't want sex then what would make the world go round? inertia i know. but, what would keep our species in existance? good question shappy. i wish i thought of it.
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 3:53:54 PM | | I will ask a few money questions but not because I am looking to hit the jack pot (and I do not ask how much they make-that is rude). I only ask because I would like to be with someone who is "financially responsible". That doesn't mean "wealthy" - just responsible with what they do make. I can financially support myself and I expect my man to do the same! Simple as that. | |
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bodean
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Joined: 9/24/2005
Msg: 10 | |
| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 4:03:24 PM | I've NEVER asked those questions either pepperminpatti.. I couldn't give a rat's ass what "he" drove, had, made... Possessions/money can disappear in a heartbeat but a truly great guy lasts forever. So take that, Shapmeister lol  | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 4:04:25 PM | | I think gals want to know if the guy is secure or if he's a looser. I noticed once I focused on success and became very stable I was looked at very differently. My problem is I'm too picky. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 12 | |
| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 4:29:48 PM | Well I am a loser without the money and the car and the house lol
It was like when I worked for Dailmer Chrysler -- girls knew I made liek $30/hr so they always liked me for that fact yet they didn't realize I had bills like everyone else.
Putting dollara amounts on the fact if you will talk to a guy or not is a real shame. It's liek if I only talked to women who made more than me. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 13 | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 5:02:45 PM | | I ask what they do for work, because you can usually find something to talk about when you know how someone spends most of thier time, but I have never asked how much they make or what kind of car they drive. I would say though, that when someone starts asking you questions like that, it's a pretty nice red flag for you. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 5:43:58 PM | | maybe some girls have asked you those questions but by the looks of this thread ...thats not as common as you may think. I know that the question..."what do you do?" is asked by both sexes in my experience but none of the others. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 6:50:57 PM | | I can't say I've ever experienced this on a first date. I do think if you act as if it's something serious the other person would be very much entitled to ask such questions. After all your asking them to consider tying their future to yours. Really if it's a first date thing I wouldn't put to much into it unless it was the main topic of the evening. Even on a first date the other is going to be attempting to figure out if there is enough worth pursueing date number two. Just as you are unless your looking for one nighters. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 6:56:46 PM | I only ask one of those questions...kind of it's not "do you work"...it's where do you work If you are getting asked these questions all the time, it seems you are attracting shallow women. Why is that? | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 7:13:03 PM | Do you work ? -- but how much do you make
Do you drive ? - what type of car and is it paid for
Do you live on your own ? rent/own - how much
Where do you shop ? spending habits
How often can you afford to go out - spending cash
Wow, women actually ask this kind of stuff?
Well, let's see. I do ask a guy what he does for a living because, after all, that's where most guys spend at least 8 hours a day, five days a week. If I'm interested in getting to know him, knowing what his profession is gives me more to talk about. Some guys I think would be flattered for a woman to be curious about what kind of work he does.
Do you drive? Women actually ask if you even drive? Are we talking about 15 y/os here or what? And I cannot fathom even asking what kind of car or, particularly, if it's paid for.
Do you live on your own? Now, that might be something worth knowing.
Where do you shop? You've got to be kidding me. Women really have asked this question?
And, this is almost unbelievable...How often can you afford to go out? Say it isn't so! This has got to be a joke.
" ...agree women tend to ask those questions. i also think that men tend to ask more sexual and beauty type questions. i know this is a bit of an oversimplification but women want money and men want sex. isn't this obvious ??? and yet we ask why. if you couldnt figure it out both of those things have to do with survival. that is why. if you dont agree then you can go kill yourself.*"
Oh, puuuuleeeeeeeeeeeze. Spare me. So, hottie, by using this "logic," you're saying that men don't want money; they only want sex, and that women don't want sex; they only want money. Moreover, did you know that women make their OWN money? Yes, they do! No, I'm not kidding! Really! They're not out to get your last dime. I swear.
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 21 | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 7:57:40 PM | I don't see how this could be any different than what guys do:
what do you do in your spare time? = do you work out or are you just a lazy/unfit person
I'll be glad to do ___ for you any time unlike that bozo you dated b4! = please please please sleep with me Im desperate for love! (I see this one on this site all too much)
Do you like dogs? = or will I have to make you sleep on the floor so my dog has room on my bed?
Get a grip man, questions are questions. Why would a woman want to get involved with someone if she is just going to suffer from it? Sure, there are those rare cases where the love holds all together and the marraige lasts 60 years through 4 depressions, but reality is 52% of marraiges end in divorce... probably b/c something is gone from the relationship. Women just want to know if the lifestyle they are looking for can be upheld and/or if the man has good qualities in him.
OR MAYBE ANOTHER REASON! Point is, don't cry just b/c some people like money. Do you like looks? then it's fair. do you like personality? then it's fair. whatever you like, it's fair. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 23 | |
| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 8:20:56 PM | To ask someone how much they make, what their finances are, what their spending habits are, is premature in the beginning of a dating relationship. Actually, I see this no different than a man asking a woman what she weighs or what her measurements are.
However, if you are at the stage of engagement or living together, you'd darn well better have some idea as to how your SO handles their finances. If a guy were to ask me to marry him, I'd want to know that he is a good money manager, that he doesn't owe a Las Vegas Casino $250K, or his BMW was bought with drug money, or he hasn't filed a tax return in 3 years. You bet! Money is one of the leading causes of divorces. I'd want to know that as a couple we would be afloat and not go down like the Titanic. | |
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| Why do women put dollar amounts on everything
Posted: 10/19/2005 8:40:38 PM | | OMG i agree with you! Some men do ask allot of unwanted questions. I never ask a guy what he makes, what he drives or even where he shops. But I do believe as a successful adult myself I prefer to date the same. Bottom line is most women that are successful dont want to date men w raggedy cars, no steady jobs or just plain slackers. As far as women go, dont ask for something in a man u dont have yourself. | |
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