| The drug thing.
Posted: 12/9/2004 11:22:58 PM | Here's one for you. There is a box to check for drugs. It is a simple yes or no or prefer not to say which to me is a yes. Since I will not lie or mislead, I HAD to check yes. You see, I smoke pot on occassion. Not every day. Not every week, just sometimes I smoke pot. I grew up in the 70's and figure I have done every drug you can imagine, but not anymore. That was then, this is now. I have sired a wonderful, bright lad who is now 11. I have written a book and lead a fairly normal life. I would have to say there are no lasting effects from my youthful drug use or my occassional pot smoking.
Here are my questions:
How many of you checked NO but would still take a puff now and then?
How many of you (I got slammed from some, told to lie by others) would skip over a profile because it says yes?
I will not change my YES to NO or Prefer Not To Say. If someone walks because of it, so be it. I figure they will walk eventually anyways. How do you handle this? What are your thoughts?
Thinking out loud,
Randy | |
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yna6
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Joined: 5/2/2004
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| The drug thing.
Posted: 12/9/2004 11:37:41 PM | | First thought...just another druggie....then it is, ah,well...maybe they aren't into it too hard....todays society, it is becoming the norm, which is why it may soon be legalized in Canada....so, {shrug}...it's a personal choice. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 8:10:23 AM | Isn't it legal now? I know we have the Hippy Cafe here where there is no booze, but you can smoke pot. I have not been, so do not know for sure.
I agree it is a personal choice. My point is that it is there in the profile. Is pot (in this case) a drug? Is it lying or misleading to check NO in the drug box? | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 10:32:51 AM | | Obviously, a lot of people who smoke pot would check NO, just because to do otherwise is to admit publicly (to the autohorities) that you are guilty of a punishable crime - at least it is in the U.S. The opinion of most knowledgeable people is that alcohol is a much stronger, more dangerous, and more destructive drug than pot. In fact, I bet you'd be hard-pressed to prove conclusively that any illegal drug is more dangerous or destructive than alcohol. But I've heard from different sources that the government sanctions on pot are all about money anyway. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 10:41:49 AM | | oops, typo -- I meant "authorities" | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 11:01:23 AM | Funner:
I agree that alcohol is more destructive than pot. Nobody smokes a joint and goes out looking for a fight; they are more prone to chill and have a nap. *L*
I cannot check no in that box because I do smoke pot and it is a drug. Yo say no would be to lie. That is the problem I find. Why even have the question in the profile selection? | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 11:32:25 AM | For me...been there done that...I have my reasonings for not doing drugs anymore and if I did, there goes my job. My reasons for not doing drugs are mine and I choose to live a drug free life...once in a blue moon, maybe, at the same time I ask, "Do I really want to do this to myself?"
It is not up to me to place judgement or labels upon any one. People choose to live their lives as they want or may just by what they know at the moment. Alcohol at one time, I allowed to run my life, create a personality full of vulgar or hatred and it destroyed me and once I gave it up I began changing my life around and today I feel it is up to the individual as to whether or not they want to drink or do drugs. What I choose to do is my own business and many times I will go out on dates and not drink. It all depends where I am and how I am feeling. I know for a fact, "Charming will not put herself back in those type of lifestyles again because I deserve better and know I can live without if so choose to!"
People live their lives as they wish and if I am not comfortable with it, I will move on with no grudge or anger. By moving on, I am honoring myself and the person I walk away from because I will not tell anyone they have to change or dress or live my way, I want them to live their ways. And if I do not like what I see, than it is up to me to walk away and never without letting the men know why or women.  | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 12:24:06 PM | | I guess were just a couple of old fu*kers that smoke pot once in a while..There's always gonna be people that try and make us feel like losers because we smoke it but what that is, it's their problem..I smoke once in a great while too I don't bother anyone, hurt anyone it's really no ones business and since 1996 when I voted yes on medical marijuana in the state of California the government did not honor the peoples wishes, well hell they don't honor nothing anyway...marijuana is medicine. I'd put no..I don't use drugs but when you meet someone let them know you smoke once in a while..I met a gal on this site shes o.k. with it..I actually put it on my profile.. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 12:46:38 PM | My problem here is: Do I lie on the profile or allow to read drugs as hard stuff?
I already know the answer. If you read the profile you will see how I handled it.
This was not a question of lifestyle choice, it was a question about honesty. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 5:15:38 PM | | Good profile, I looked at it before I just didn't want to read it all but this time I did and it's good. And I knew it was a question about honesty and not lifestyle choice.. I just threw my opinion in there because I get crap for smoking too..Thanks and good luck.. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2004 7:37:58 PM | | Well, I would read past the check-box to see if anything was siad in the profile about it - I like the way you handled it. It would then depend on attitude, reasons, frequency, other qualities. | |
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yna6
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Joined: 5/2/2004
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| The drug thing.
Posted: 12/10/2004 9:52:02 PM | Chelle...you wouldn't pass on the "drink often" types would ya??? SHeesh...how about the "don't drink often enough " types???
Ah well.... | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 1:26:59 AM | | I checked no, for many reasons. I'll only do it on special occasions when the mood is right. But why is there no box for medication use, hey it's still a drug. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 11:07:32 AM | Thanks for the input.
Good question about the medicinal drugs. Some folks have plenty of problems with those. I may smoke pot from time to time, but have rarely been on medication and then only anti-inflamatory stuff or light pain pills after dental work or something. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 1:28:19 PM | shouldn't there be an "occasionally" thing to check or something? i mean that for both drugs & alcohol. cuz smoking pot once in awhile is a world apart from smoking 2-3 joints a day. & drinking socially is a world apart from drinking every day after work (& sometimes before)... tho i suppose some could say they're *very* social.....
i personally think moderation is ok in most things. it's the extremes that i can't stand - & i'm not saying i've never been at extreme ends at times in my life, but i think as we get older we tend not to wanta do that or see that all the time.
but if you check "yes" & someone doesn't want to speak to you due to that (i forgot what i put), then is that the type of person you'd really wanta associate with anyway? | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 1:53:39 PM | "but if you check "yes" & someone doesn't want to speak to you due to that (i forgot what i put), then is that the type of person you'd really wanta associate with anyway?"
As a life partner, perhaps not but I will not judge them solely on that one point. But for someone to chat with, share a bit of time or whatever, why not. What gets me about places like this, some folks are so cut and dry; one small thing off and they run for the hills. I say, no wonder you are single and surfing the internet personals. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 2:23:02 PM | Um-FunnerGuy...
I bet you'd be hard-pressed to prove conclusively that any illegal drug is more dangerous or destructive than alcohol
Meth? Coke? Heroin? others? I will grant you that booze of any type has a long and colourful history... but I think you would have a hard time proving that one... In general it takes quite a while to get hooked on alcohol... there are designer drugs out there that are addictive the first time you use them. And far harder to quit (alcoholism aside), far more expensive and do some MAJOR damage must faster than does alcohol (short of wrapping oneself around a tree). | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 2:47:33 PM | the illegal drug vs. alcohol thing: anyone who says that alcohol is more dangerous than any illegal drug doesn't have much personal (or any other) knowledge of the subject. probably someone stuck on the "madd" way of thinking but not being very logical.
"one small thing off and they run for the hills" - well yeah - that's cuz the web is so "flat" - you don't see everything. it's not like meeting someone in person & having a "feel" for them - knowing you'd like them even if they have a few little quirks you're not crazy about, etc. i can easily get turned off by someone on line, & i realize i'm cancelling out tons of nice people, but there's not a lot to go by often..... i'm just not seeing their endearing traits like i might in person. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 2:51:55 PM | | I am a member of DAMM (drunks against Madd Mothers) j/k.... | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 2:53:29 PM | | A friend of mine had a T-shirt that said that. It got a lot of laughs...and frowns too, I guees. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 2:57:39 PM | My favorite t-shirt of all time, and gets truer every year... but then again... it has a subtle truth that requires thought...
"Remember when?..... Surfing was dangerous and Sex was fun?" | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 3:15:32 PM | | I have seen many people die from both drugs and alcohol a homeless gal dropped dead the other night just down the street from me from drinking "211's" and not eating enough food to protect her gut..last night a drunk driver splattered an old lady down at the corner here and kept going..I personally think alcohol kills more people but that's only my opinion..It's a big joke until you see someone you love dead, and that's how my last Christmas was..my old lady died..there's my personal knowledge..But I aien't got no problem with no one unless they laugh in my face about it..I aien't perfect the last time I got drunk I knocked out two guys in a bar and tried to take on the police force..It's real friggen funny till it happens to you............... | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 3:21:51 PM | | byrd - I was not laughing at the result, simply the manner some dunderhead choose to fight the results. I am sorry for your personal loss and you have my sympathies. As for alcohol killing more people, you could very well be right, please though, do keep in mind that alcohol related deaths are bound to get more coverage in the news and other places... simply because such are more spectacular and generally more in the public. But drugs have robbed us of a lot of good folk too, or potentiall good folk. Sadly, drugs generally take a segment of the populace that so few care about... and thus... no one notes their passing... | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 3:25:29 PM | | You sound like a fine upstanding individual. Thanks for sharing. But, if you smoked pot, even alittle, would you check the yes in the drug box on your profile? | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 3:32:47 PM | | Difficult question - I would admit to a certain amount of paranoia concerning saying yes (in the US)... Pesonally I don't, if I did, I would have to say my answer to that question would be a matter of degree... if I did it with ANY amount of regularity... I would have to say yes on the profile... | |
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