| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/24/2005 5:45:20 PM | | How do I know when its okay to ask a guy out? There is this guy that I met just recently. I am very attracted to him, and I'm not sure if I am picking up small signals, or if its just my small infactuation. We usually park near each other, and after work he usually stops me by my car and chats me up a bit. We talk about movies, and our lives...ect. Is he just being friendly, or is it possible he feels an attraction too? Should I, invite him out for a bite to eat? Or should I wait for him to make a move? Girls, guys, what do you think? Im not desperate in the least, but I'd kick myself if I let him get away. | |
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/24/2005 5:50:06 PM | Girl I have one thing to say. If you think he could be the one, don't let him go. The worst that could happen is that you would be rejected. Then what? You move to the next. If this doesn't happen however you would have found the thing you are looking for. If you let it go, you will always have to thought of what if in the back of your mind. It could be a life altering experience but you will not know unless you take the first step.
Kandie
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/24/2005 5:51:35 PM | | If you are not comfortable with asking him out, ask him about some of his interests, say ex. I was wanting to see the new movie( name) have you seen it? Or ask if he has a girlfriend, either way it gives him the clue you are interested. But if you really like him =Ask him out to some place casually and friendly like it. All he can say is no at the worst.....Good luck, either way!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/24/2005 5:51:49 PM | | Does he know your single or maybe inderectly asked you a question to see if you are. Whenever ive gone out of my way to talk to a woman it has always been to get to know her better. Lots of us guys are shy, so yeah, ask him out. Good luck shokirra | |
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Posted: 10/24/2005 5:59:24 PM | YES...it is possible he is attracted to you as well!! (HE is stopping by YOUR car, hon!)
YES...you should ask him out for a bite to eat!!
Since you all are leaving work at the same time, why not throw out a, "I don't know about you...but I don't feel like going home to another soup-for-one dinner...you want to go grab a bite to eat with me??" ;o) | |
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Posted: 10/24/2005 5:59:51 PM | | Thanks. I think he's kind of a shy guy. I guess I am too. We live so close to each other too I just found out. He followed my route home, and it turns out he's just up the street from me! Are there time restrictions? We just met on Saturday! But the way he walks, and the way he smiles!! I think Im giggling out loud right now! I just hope he is working tonight, so I can make the move! | |
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Posted: 10/24/2005 6:02:24 PM | Well it sounds like hes somewhat interested but you never know... what I would do is just casually during one of your chats say Im going to get a bite to eat or going for a coffee did you wanna join me? and see if he says yes then great if not then at least you know right.
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/24/2005 6:02:48 PM | He's following you home?!
Seriously...no time restrictions...JUST GO FOR IT! Heck...I see your gorgeous gams and smile in your pics...he would be an idiot to say no!! :) (If he is available...and if he is not...think about it, you MADE his day!!) :) | |
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Posted: 10/24/2005 6:07:37 PM | Well, heres how it went. I took an alternate route home the first night, noticing he was in my direction! Thn he turned off a different road. Then the night after he said, "I gotta question for you?" He asked where abouts I lived, and our streets connect. I said follow me, and I'll show you a quicker route. Waved out the window as we parted. I usually pick the losers, you know, but he seems different! I'll let you know if I muster up the courage to ask him out. We work nights, so it would be breakfast we could grab after!
Thanks for the tips! | |
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/25/2005 7:53:33 AM | Why not ask him out if he says no then you will know hes just a friend but if he says yes hey you never know he just may be mr. right. give it a chance and good luck.
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/25/2005 8:28:51 AM | He wasn't at work tonight! He has mon/tues off, and I have wed/thurs off! That sucks. Another question...we talked about carpooling...would it be too froward to get his number from work and call him about it? I really just want an excuse to talk to him, or see him...but its viable!
Funny thing happened though, there is this other guy at work, who I found attractive, nothing like the first guy, but he asked me to hang out after work! I am going to hold off though....at least he will be there if Mr.Amazing does reject me in a romantic way! | |
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Posted: 10/25/2005 8:32:15 AM | you never know this other guy at work jsut may be the right one get to know him but make it clear all you want is friends at this time.
Yes i woudl talk to the other guy aobut carpooling that may be waht he is waitng for inside he may be shy or nervous aobut asking you out. GO FOR IT you wont know until you try!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/25/2005 8:38:26 AM | | I'll keep you posted! My first choice, makes me feel warm and mushy, my second choice has sex appeal....but like you say, stay friends at this time. Sometimes I wish that the one guy that I think of before I fall asleep, would come find me. If he would just drive by my house, notice my car, and knock on my door! I always hope for something like that to happen....but it never does! | |
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/25/2005 8:41:58 AM | | then sweetie maybe he is waiting for you to make the first move. ask him over for dinner and maybe talk or a movie afterwards. you wont know if he is attracted to you as well unless you try. | |
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/25/2005 10:02:03 AM | Yes -- Ask him out by all means!
If his ego is too fragile to handle that, or if he's too controlling or too insecure (or whatever) and it offends him or scares him away, you probably wouldn't want to be with him long term anyway. If a guy is interested enough to stand and talk with you in the parking lot, etc., he may hesitate because of being a little nervous about rejection (LOTS of guys are), or may be waiting until he feels more sure that you'll say Yes.
I love it when a woman asks me out, because it means she has enough self confidence and enough interest in me to show initiative. If you're attracted to a woman, nothing makes you feel better than having her make it abundantly clear that she's attracted, too.
Next time you get a chance, maybe run up to him and tackle him in the parking lot ... he'll never forget it!
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Posted: 10/28/2005 8:38:17 PM | | Okay, a bit of news!! I wrote a little note, and gave it to a coworker who passed it on. It just said that if he'd like to carpool, he can give me a call! He called!! And text-d me! Nothin special just yet....but he's going to pick me up for work!! I'll lay it on nice and smooth tonight....I am excited! Gonna try some subtle body language to define my point that I think he's hot! Maybe a slight touch on the arm...hee hee! I'll let y'all know how it unfolds! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2005 10:37:43 PM | | I think if you're interested in someone, by all means ask them out. And hurry up about it! | |
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/29/2005 5:23:11 AM | OMG woman---just ask this guy out already!! You're drop dead gorgeous and even if he is kinda shy he's thinking you're HOT and attractive. Asking him out would make his entire year and I seriously doubt he'd turn you down! Relax-----you seem like a very interesting person so don't lose sight of that!
If he's heterosexual you have NOTHING to worry about!
Let us know how it ends up!
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Posted: 10/29/2005 7:52:18 AM | We talked on the phone and he said that he would drive to work tonight!
Yes!
He's coming to pick me up!
I was worried about the awkward moments where you don't really know where to look, or put your hands. We kept busy with good humored, inquisitive talk. Everytime he talks, he says the right things! Oh, but the drive home!! I am still smiling! (and giggling!)
It seemed on my end that we had a connection! A sort of fluidness and energy. Well, pulled up to my house, and as we were wrapping up our geniune curiousity about each other, he asked if I wanted to watch a movie tomorrow!
I was sure that I was going to be the one who initiated idea, but,
You guys were right, I was going to, and then he did! I am so excited! I don't think I can sleep now! I have to tell myself to take deep breaths!
Wow...I am such a happy girl! | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 8:13:59 AM | | see we knew it. you go girl now make it work and be happy keep us informed | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 9:35:03 AM | Yay!
Calm down and enjoy getting to know the real him- not the perfect man-of-your-dreams you imagine him to me. He will undoubtedly have flaws- hopefully they are ones that do not clash with your values and morals...
Good luck and hopefully you will be busy and spending time with him instead of the message boards!.. | |
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| Should I, or shouldn't I?
Posted: 10/29/2005 10:02:33 AM | | I'm not even tryin to read all of the replies b/c I'm gonna keep it real! Ask the man out. Period. The second post made hella sense. Talk to him, ask him out. If he says no, then don't worry about it. Women tell us the same junk. They expect us to put our "egos" on the line to ask some chick out. They say it shows balls or whatever. But I'm all about equal opportunity. So ask him!!! And if you don't.... you can always ask me :frustrated: | |
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