| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/25/2005 9:08:02 PM | | I'm a big guy I'm had a few girlfriends everyone of them has lied and cheat I'm just like anyone else I have fillings to. I like going to movies hanging out camping going to new places meeting new people and having fun. The thing is I don't seem to find girls it doesn't matter if there large girls skinning girls Everybody seemed to go for skinny guys and every girl I seen to go out with leaves me and i know why because there s**** girls. I have friends that our large girls and they have never Like my girlfriends. the thing is I've seen my friends date only and skinny guys. Well guess there's no hope for guys like me.I don't look at the outside it matters what's on the inside. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/26/2005 12:55:40 AM | | Dude Trust Me There Is Hope For Us Hell U And I Look A Hell Of A Lot Alike I Even Once Had A Girl Cheat On Me With Several Guys I Got Laid Buy Her On My Birthday And As Soon As We Were Done She Told Me About All The Others And Then Dumped Me It Hurt For The Longest Time But U Know What Your Right It Is Whats On the Inside That Counts It's All About The Aditude I Changed My Aditude Around Completly And Guess What I Have Girls Flocking To Me My Only Problem Now Is I Care So Much About This One Girl that I Cant Go For Any Other And She Only Sees Me As A Friend But She Hasn't Said Anything That Would Indicate That We Could Never Be More I Think She's Testing Me To See If I'm Like Her Ex Boyfriends "Does He Just Have His Mind On Sex Or Does He Want Me For Who I Am" So I Dunno Maybe I'll Get Her Maybe I Won't But Hey There Is Hope | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/26/2005 4:01:09 AM | Here is the thing with this. You can apply your complain to almost any major physical "defect" or rather, unusual attribute. The result is always the same. It's harder to get dates in that particular market.
As for me, I am totally going bald and I'm only 21. What does that do? Lowers my confidence, makes me more depressed, makes me even more reclusive, and thusly makes me very unnattractive. In a sense, I am causing MYSELF to be unattractive.
But you, you are a lucky guy. You still have your hair. If you are overweight, that can be fixed. If you don't want to be overweight, then work out. If you don't care about it, then focus on your other good traits and keep your eyes open. But if you're bald like me, forget it, you are SOL. So be thankfull that your concern is fully changeable.
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/26/2005 11:51:59 AM | | Being big is not a bad thing. I know this from experance. Each person has a diffrent view on what is attractive. Some women like smaller men, Thats just how it is. Just because you are big... Thats not a reason to be So down. Just because A girl runs to another guy, That does not mean that all women to that. Heck you might want to take a break from girls for a while. Thats what I did. I took a year off from trying to find a partner. This time will let you think about what you really want. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2005 12:06:01 PM | | Listen, I'm a big girl too and I've had cery different kinds of boy friends but that's because they all had differemt qualities. I've dated from short to tall to skinny to big and all of them liked for who I was. Obviously, it didn't work out for a number of reasons but its not all because of my weight. You know, you can turn this around too and say that most men love stick thin girls that have a major ass with big boobs that are fake and have blond hair and barely any clothes on but that doesn't mean that their aren't a few of those guys that like the natural girl or the big girl, or the girl's personality or even a flat chested girl. It all really depends on the girls you meet and personally, if a girl sleeps with you in the first month, then they're not really interested other then just sex. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2005 12:23:04 PM | | For opticalnoise You're interesting. No one can grow a personality or intellect. Hair doesn't matter ;-) | |
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Posted: 10/26/2005 12:33:33 PM | Hair who the hell needs hair? God made only a few perfect heads and the rest is covered with hair.
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/26/2005 8:35:35 PM | Hey Thanks Captain and Pianissimo,
Sorry if I am kind of changing the subject. Anyway the biggest issue is confidence and determination. And when I say determination, I mean don't give up on the idea that you can and eventually will find someone who sees only the good in you. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2005 8:46:37 PM | There's hope for large guys... definitely! There is someone out there for you.... just don't give up looking. And make sure you find out all her qualities, good and bad, before you fall in "like" with her. Then after you know she's a good, caring, honest person, you can let yourself fall in love. But just take things slowly. And don't stop trying... your dream girl is out there. And when you meet her, you'll know. Good luck to you! Have a great day!
Opticalnoise: I don't think really matters much anymore. Most guys just shave their heads anyway. But Dr Phil says that he lost his hair in his 20's, and personally I think he's very handsome. I am also one of those women that love receding hair lines... it's really sexy! Good luck to you too....
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/26/2005 10:35:31 PM | | my first love was a very very very large guy. i am still not over him. i'm a very small female (5'6 and 110 lbs) yet he was the one who didn't love me. i will not date a skinny guy, they have to have at least big shoulders. (my current is 5'10 and 200lbs) trust me, i fell in love with him for who he was, i got attached to him not because of what he looked like, but i grew to love it as well. he was the one who broke my heart. | |
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Joined: 6/19/2005
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/26/2005 11:13:33 PM | There is nothing wrong with being bald. I can't believe you are so down about it because I find bald guys very attractive.  | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/26/2005 11:17:17 PM |
I've gotta be honest, I like my men on the bald side (well, I DO think they should shave their heads when the hair is starting to get a little thin...shaved head = très sexy) and I'd take a bigger guy over a smaller guy any day. That said, personal hygiene is a big deal - bad breath, bad b.o., bad haircut, poor self-care (smoking, unhealthy diet, lack of exercise), poorly fitting clothes... Those are turn-offs, no matter whether you're thick or you're thin. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 11:57:14 AM | | Of course theres hope. Large girls find men too I see it all the time and sometimes I wonder. is there no hope for us who are average? What you need to be asking yourself is if it is infact YOU thats keeping you from meeting someone. ARE YOU the one being to picky choosey are you rejecting Large women? But basically look at it this way anyone that is superficialy enough not to get the real you because of your size just aint worth it. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 12:47:52 PM | | Man we all have our challenges. I am not sure what is more difficult. Being a big guy or being short guy. I'm only 5'6 and even the shorter women dont want to go out with me... i guess guys like us are stuck in between. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 1:42:55 PM | | personally, it doesnt really matter to me either way how big a guy is. I would rather have someone loyal and funny and romantic versus the guy with the best 6 pack. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 2:01:15 PM | well i have dated bigger men and i actually find them more attractive then skinny men. men arent supposed to be skinny, theyre men, they should be big and masculine.
so i wouldnt put too much thought into this, you could always lose weight if thats what you want, but if you dont then dont, you just need to learn to be happy with what you do have. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 2:05:36 PM | opticalnoise : As for me, I am totally going bald and I'm only 21. What does that do? Lowers my confidence, makes me more depressed, makes me even more reclusive, and thusly makes me very unnattractive. In a sense, I am causing MYSELF to be unattractive.
But you, you are a lucky guy. You still have your hair. If you are overweight, that can be fixed. If you don't want to be overweight, then work out. If you don't care about it, then focus on your other good traits and keep your eyes open. But if you're bald like me, forget it, you are SOL. So be thankfull that your concern is fully changeable.
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Screw that i love being bald have been going there since i was 16 it doesnt affect my confidence in the least in fact it boosted my confidence i think i look better now then i did with hair. Simply put the only major defect that can put you out of the running to date anyone is the way you project yourself to others. Baldness does not mean your SOL, being fat doesnt mean your SOL and if you honestly think that way then damn well change it. Get hairplugs or transplants or laser surgery if yyou feel being bald is messing with you mentally. Or get your damn ass into a gym or walk every night and watch your intake of calories so you can slim down.
There are no problems that cant be solved if you want to put your mind to it | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/27/2005 2:08:52 PM | biguy , how did you get big ? If you do not like it you can change it , you were not born big , you just got big and besides I know alot and alot of women of all sizes even the ones most guys dream about have big boyfriends , they like em way bigger than them , they feel protected and stuff.
Bald dude , do not get yourself down that you are going bald , so many hot women love bald guys , especially guys who shave their heads , so you have a chance with virtually any woman anyhow.
For both of you guys , I do not see a real problem , if one does not like it and can change it fix it or be confident , alot of women like guys the way you both are .
As for me I am short and found out everywhere even in these forums and sites that women almost all of them do not like short guys and alot even specify it on their profile , "no short guys , you will be ignored " said in many ways , never seen "no bald guys " or " no big guys"
Actaully I have seen some women's profiles actually ask for a big guy .
Take it from a guy who is worse off than you guys . | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 2:25:17 PM | | Dude...this may sound cruel and uncaring but trust me...its honesty in all its glory. Get off the "Im big" thing. Im 6 foot and 280 lbs. I dropped thirty five pounds this summer but dropping my calorie intake to a thousand or less. But i ate healthy when i ate. I drank juice and kept my vitamins up. Its all about...and anybody who knows what they are talking about will tell you this....SELF CONFIDENCE. Which granted, here lately mines feeling shot. It seems like everygirl ive come across wants to be friends. Ive been stood up on dates on the last eight that ive set up. ..and yes i have witnesses. How pathetic is that. Im happy with myself though. Im a nice guy. I work at a hospital helping people who cant do for themselves. If a girl can even find a fault with me i dont know what it is. I cook. I clean. I worship my girlfriends and im fiercly loyal to my friends and family and loved ones. Im always willing to put others first. Im funny and ill even laugh at myself to get people laughing. If a girl doesnt wanna date me then oh well. If someone has a problem with the fact im a big guy then i have a few choice words for them.Otherwise, be happy with yourself. Screw what others think. Keep going. Youll find someone. Just walk around with your head high like your the biggest baddest man on the face of Gods green earth. Things will turn around for you. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 3:15:26 PM | You know you can always work out it may feel like a problem but it can be fixed.
At least you don't have acne scars thats no fun man. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 4:15:09 PM | nope there is no hope for the skinny guy either
or the tan guy
the fat girl
the skinny girl
the single parent
the ppl without kids
the ppl with dogs
the ppl with cats
the ppl going bald
the ppl with long hair
the women with short hair
the ppl with FuZzY pictures
the ppl with T & A shots
the ppl with big houses
the ppl with money
the ppl with little money
the ppl with small houses
the guys with big penis
the guys with little penis
the women with small breast
the woman with big breast
and for anybody else i forgot to mention I apologize their is no hope for u either
so quit fookin' whining
LMfAO
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Posted: 10/27/2005 4:29:31 PM | Everyone worries way too much...I'm 6'7" and weigh 330 lbs. I know that reguardless of how I appear phisically, not everyone will look at me for the way I look on the outside, eventually I will meet a girl with a big heart and a great personality and it'll be worth the wait! Everyone in this forum needs to relax a little, just because you guys may be bigger than average, doesn't mean you should lose faith in finding the right woman to spend your life with. Keep your chin up and don't knock yourselves, Keep that confidence high and she'll come along sooner than you think. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 4:30:11 PM | ^^^ Dead on Kindacute
No one will be able to love you without you first loving and accepting yourself. OP You mention dating skinny girls, and bigger girls...but those are generic terms. You have to see past body parts and sizes to find people inside, that's where you'll find love too. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 4:47:48 PM | Dude; I know TONS of women who LOVE big guys.
HOLY THE GRASS IS GREENER BATMAN!!!
Be well bro; yes there is hope. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2005 7:00:59 PM | hello raven,i think your looking in the wrong places.i myself love bigger guys....i love the way they feel with their big arms around me and their sexy big bellies against mine mmmmm and there so much more to kiss and kiss...oops sorry i got lost in the moment :) . but please dont give up hope cause there is someone out there just waiting for a handsome guy like you to sweep them off their feet :) good luck!!!!!
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