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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/26/2005 11:17:18 PM | don't be sorry
I think you might have a point here........
people get too comfortable in relationships
and just let it all hang out
sex become common place or expected
people abuse there spouse verbally because they think they are not going anywhere
which might not be the best thing to do
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 2:40:31 AM | | I think people getting married for the wrong reason is livewire; you hear all the time that people have doubts and things they don't like going into it and yet they move forward. | |
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 2:45:58 AM | | yeah...that is true...you hear often about people walking down the aisle with their doubts in head believing things might change when they are married. Unfortunately, they also know that if things don't change, they can easily get out of it with a divorce. | |
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 2:47:52 AM | lack of comunicating, think is a big issue if any (comuncation is NOT fighting)
Guitarman,,,,think you hit the nail on the head as well,,,,,,gets to comfy,,forget that it takes two, all the way, and everyone starts taking each other for granted
We worked to get there, to that point,,why do we quit?? because of ^^^^
Kind of like,,I have them now,,they are not going anywhere they told me that, they expressed it at one time,,,so why bother to try anylonger
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 4:50:32 AM | Question to ponder while considering marriage and how much it costs...Does a piece of paper prove a total commitment? I do not believe so!! The divorce rate and costs wouldn't be so high then...If you don't have that commitment without the paper, you'll never have it...so what's the point? And why does everyone feel the need to "just do it"...is it those damn Nike commercials? Be together for a long time first!!!! Like years, not months!!!  | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 5:17:19 AM | All good points so far. The biggest thing is what kuddlebum said. COMMUNICATION!! Both parties are guilty if they dont to one another. Your significant other/spouse cant read your mind. You have to talk and ask about what you want. Communication is really important especially for the fact that over a few years...peoples needs change. What was important 5 years ago may not be important now and vice versa. Things that didnt bother you or werent a big deal seem to gain more importance.
One thing Ive noticed though with women(not all women)...you let the guy dig himself into a hole before you say something. By then your sooooooooo upset  that the guy not has to claw his way out of it before he gets to level ground. Women...if you see/notice your guy taking a turn for the worse, hurry up and say something before it gets too bad. | |
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 5:24:11 AM | Unfortunately, they also know that if things don't change, they can easily get out of it with a divorce.
A female friend of mine actually told my ex wife that on our wedding day Neither of us could believe it.
and my mom walked into the bathroom before my brothers wedding to hear his bride to be talking about the same sort of thing with her sister and friends | |
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 5:26:09 AM | | Sometimes that is appropriate though...if they are lying or being sneaky...another reason not to dive in...need to know the person!!!! Feeling guilty or just stating the obvious? (2Uneek) It happens...honesty is the best cure, along with communication... | |
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 5:26:23 AM | | To answer the OP’s question - yes. If there was no marriage, there would be no divorce. Think of how much better the world would be!!! That’s why I’m an advocate of the complete abolition of marriage. | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 5:39:38 AM | mustangsally: Dont call me out unless you know my story...which you dont. Talking with others helps many people overcome many different things.  | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 14 | |
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 6:09:37 AM | Look at it this way: 56% of all marriages end in divorce adn 44% end in death--and not all of those are by natural causes.......
So, it looks like marriage might not be the road to a 'happy' ending....
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 6:17:29 AM | I think that marriage will eventually be in the past...people don't get along or communicate enough anymore...women will dream of it, but never do it. It'll become a fairy tale...one that makes me wanna bring up my dinner, but one all the same...lol  | |
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 6:21:54 AM |
56% of all marriages end in divorce adn 44% end in death
And that's only the number for first marriages. Your chances for success decrease dramatically with each subsequent marriage. | |
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yoduh
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Joined: 10/26/2005
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 6:33:34 AM | The last time I checked fairy tales or fables, Prince Charming had married Snow White, Red Rose, Sleeping Beauty........say, that guy gets around!
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 6:47:48 AM | The leading cause of divorce isn't marriage. The main reason is that people's interpretation of 'marriage' has changed. The days of 'till death do us part' have long gone. There was a time when divorce wasn't even considered until every avenue for fixing an unstable marriage was explored. Back then even the stigma connected to a divorced woman was frowned upon. Nowadays people go into marriages with the understanding that there's an easy out. If it doesn't work out, I can always get divorced and try again. Today's society won't even bat an eyelid. This is reflected by the increase of divorce lawyers in the US. Since the 60's there has been an increase of over 2000%!!! It has become such a big business that instead of being encouraged to work things out, people will actually be encouraged by these scavengers so that they can get their fee and their cut.
For me, the leading cause of divorce is that the concept of marriage itself isn't taken seriously. | |
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 6:56:44 AM |
people will actually be encouraged by these scavengers so that they can get their fee and their cut.
And to think, I’ll be one of those scavengers in a few years!!! | |
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| Is marriage the leading cause of divorce?
Posted: 10/27/2005 7:16:28 AM | LOL..you becoming a divorce lawyer in the near future?
And BTW..they are people out here with anger issues, that also like to threaten people...so beware of what you say...I have been warned!!!  | |
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